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Unread 04-28-2008, 08:18 PM
It's not just strangers that can be rude!

I had a LAVH on 3-31-08 and still have pain. I developed a hematoma 2 weeks ago which didn't help my healing. I was feeling like a failure when I was still hurting so bad after 3 weeks. My mother called me last week and said aren't you feeling better? A woman she works with had the same thing done 3 days after me and she acts like it is nothing. My mother is not a supportive person. This made me feel bad because I am taking 5 weeks off work instead of the 3 I was originally hoping to take. Don't let people make you feel bad. I am going back to work next Monday and am apprehensive about it. Do what feels right for you and the heck with them!
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Unread 04-28-2008, 08:25 PM
Prejudice attitudes over different hysterectomy procedures

I had a similar experience with one nurse on the same evening as my LAVH. when coming in to do my obs she kept catching the IV on blankets and it felt like she was ripping it out of my hand. At 2am in the morning she came in, turned on the lights and told me it was time to get up to empty my bladder (my catheter was removed at the end of the surgery). As I struggled out of bed she had the nerve to tell me to stand up straight! I was so uncomfortable from the gas sitting in my rib cage that I could barely move. Some nurses seem to be immune to feeling.
Unread 04-28-2008, 09:09 PM
Prejudice attitudes over different hysterectomy procedures

Hi Everyone,

YOU don't just heal overnight - it will take months.

I am lucky I have a really great DH (married 35 yrs) and 9 weeks out from a LAVH BSO and adhesions and Endo, he is still my gatekeeper, making sure I don't over do it.

For the first 7 weeks, I still ached, and finally last week it subsided. YEH!!.

I did some gardening on the weekend and thought I was finally back inthe real world - thoroughly enjoyed it, but made sure I didn't over do it.

Well today, I am aching again, not from the gardening but from visiting some clients who were located on the first floor of their buildings (Warehouses) and had to go up 2 to 3 flights of stairs - well that undid me and now I am aching again. It just seemed that every customer I went to today (new ones) that they all had stairs.

I also know that this is just me using muscles that haven't been used in a while and also pulling on areas that are still not healed properly.

Only you will know each week what you can or cannot achieve and each week will get better. BUT it IS a huge OP, whether by LAVH or Abdominal.

So take care and if they don't understand let them read these threads. I have with DH and it has opened his eyes and made him more understanding.


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Unread 04-28-2008, 09:49 PM
Prejudice attitudes over different hysterectomy procedures

Hi Barbie! I was wondering how you were doing. I am at week 4. Dr ending up finding a fibroid tumor when she did my TVH/BSO--but it turned out to be benign. Was feeling really well at my 2 wk checkup and then the last 3 days have been very painful. I am guessing I overdid when I went to my mom's to do laundry and try to help her out (she's 80 and on her own as well). People don't seem to understand that just because I don't have outside incisions that I should be all healed and over it. I am taking the full 6 wks off work and will be talking to the DR about going back for part days the first week back. I am sorry that you have had so much trouble and hope to hear from you soon. Hang in there sister---we have survived a major surgery and we will be better for it in the long run. Hugs and Kisses!
Unread 04-28-2008, 11:56 PM
Prejudice attitudes over different hysterectomy procedures

Sheesh. Doncha just wanna slap em. That's beyond insensitive. People just say the stupidest stuff.
Unread 04-29-2008, 08:06 AM
They don't get it......

I'm totally convinced that unless you have had the issues that "we" have had - you haven't a clue what we're going through. After having the worst pain of my life before my hyster, I mentioned to a co-worker that I was having surgery. She made a comment about it being so horrible that I wouldn't be able to drive for several weeks after surgery. She evidently thought it was worse to not have wheels for a few weeks than to be in excrutiating pain for the rest of my life. Good grief.

My husband sure could be more helpful, also. I had a TVH BSO on April 25th. Guess what I ate yesterday - toast and yogurt (and it wasn't my husband that brought me the yogurt). That was it. Around 10:00 last night I was feeling pretty good so fried myself an egg. He stayed home from work yesterday to take care of me, but he actually spent most of the day playing the Wii. When I mentioned that the garbage was overflowing, he bagged it up (huffing and growling the whole time) AND THEN LEFT IT IN THE KITCHEN. There really needs to be some clothes washed, so I'll mention it tonight when he gets home from work, and he'll huff and growl while doing that, also. I'm not counting on getting much for supper. My house is a total pit (honestly, it's not my stuff lying around) and he would have an absolute FIT if anyone saw it. But he claims that he didn't make the mess, and rarely picks up his own stuff. I can't call any friends to tell them I've had surgery because they'll want to stop over, and that would NOT go over well because of the shape our house is in.

Unread 04-29-2008, 08:10 AM
Prejudice attitudes over different hysterectomy procedures

I'm getting tired of the "oh, you just had a LSH, you should be back at work!"
Unread 04-29-2008, 09:07 AM
Prejudice attitudes over different hysterectomy procedures

I feel for you ladies! I have not experienced one person that was indifferent to my pain. Everyone I came in contact with was exteremely supportive and no one cared which way my uteris came out, just that it came out! (I had an LAVH). The only concern any family or friends had was that I may be doing too much too soon. That statement alone was pretty funny to me, because my daily exercise for 4 weeks consisted of making coffee and going to the bathroom!

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