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Unread 05-27-2008, 09:57 AM
Don't think husband gets it

I am 34 and scheduled for TAH on June 10th. I also have Crohn's Disease which could present additional problems or slow my recovery time. I talked about ordering the swelly belly band and a tummy pillow but he said we should wait to see if I really need it. He has a business trip in Miami in July - 5 weeks after my surgery and he wants me to go with him. This is a 16 hour drive from home and the heat will be much worse than I am used to here at home. He thinks it would be great for me to recoup on the beach and run around with him in the evenings. Am I being too sensitive or is he in denial?
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Unread 05-27-2008, 10:07 AM
Don't think husband gets it


It can be hard for anyone to comprehend how we feel and how much we can do after surgery. Truthfully, we don't really know ourselves until we have been through it.

Initial recovery does normally take 6 - 8 weeks and it can take much longer than that to feel fully back to normal. Have you had your husband go with you to any of your pre-op appointments? If not, it would be good for him to hear any post-op restrictions directly from the doctor. I think your husband is figuring time away would be nice for you but it's likely that you're not going to feel up to it quite so soon after surgery. Share this site with him: It will give him a good idea of what all is involved with recovery.

I am sending best wishes to you!

Unread 05-27-2008, 11:52 AM
Don't think husband gets it

Hi Tweety!!!

Welcome to the boards. You have found the perfect place to be for information, knowledge and support.

I am not so sure your DH is in denial... but rather, as a man, who inherently by nature feels the need to fix.. probably feels that having that time away would be a time to relax, heal, and spend time together when he isn't busy with work related stuff. It's possible he doesn't want to leave you alone either...

I would play it by ear to see if you are up to. You really don't know until you are on the other side if you will feel up to it or not. It's possible that it may be just the thing and you might enjoy it....

I'll keep you in prayer for a successful surgery and fast, pain free recovery.

Pamper yourself and take good care.

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Unread 05-27-2008, 12:07 PM
Don't think husband gets it

Thanks for the advice. It is easy to get frustrated while anxiously awaiting life altering surgery. BTW, I love your quote! It is so nice to know there are other believers here giving godly advice.
Unread 05-27-2008, 12:28 PM
Don't think husband gets it

Thanks!!! There are a lot of believer sisters here!!! It's awsome and amazing. I too am very thankful.

Looking forward to reading how well you are doing post-op.
Unread 05-27-2008, 07:25 PM
Don't think husband gets it

I'm with the others, I suspect your husband thinks this will be a great way for you to recover. Tell him about your concerns and worries. It sounds like you'll need to make the decision as to when ya'll will stop for breaks, since you're the one recovering from surgery. Otherwise, he gets to carry all luggage, etc.

Good luck!

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