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Unread 08-12-2008, 01:57 AM
Upsetting story

I saw a story on the news this morning about a man who found a newborn alone in a field. He noticed a woman a short distance away walking in the other direction. The police caught up with her and are "following up". Friends/neighbors confirm that she was pregnant.

I suppose that whether they found the mother or not is less relevant than the fact that this woman left her newborn baby alone in a field with, apparently, no intention of ever going back to it. I'm sorry (for bringing this up) to anyone who is affected by this as much as I am but I have been a complete mess all day, with no one around to talk with.

This is not the first time I've seen such stories on the news, just the first time since even the subject of hyst came up for me. I know that her actions have no affect on me, nor mine on hers, but this is just tearing me apart. I can not imagine abandoning a child, let alone one that I had just gone through the trouble of giving birth to!

The closest thing to consolation I've been able to come up with is that, in this case, there is some question regarding mental capacity; according one woman she quite adamantly denied that she was pregnant even when doctors were telling her she was. (Why is diminished mental capacity consoling? It's not intended as an insult: having been in 'panic mode' all day, every day for several weeks in a row I have some sense of trying to think straight when your brain just isn't all there. It's especially frustrating when you recognize that you're not thinking clearly but can't do anything about it. If this is true my heart goes out to her as well as the baby.)
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Unread 08-12-2008, 07:38 AM
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Last night there was a report of a baby left in a front yard with the cord still attached. This doesn't make much sense to me either. Although it confuses us or makes our hearts ache all we can do is thank God that he kept the baby safe. The baby here in TN was left under a bush. People do things that may not make sense to me or anyone else all we can do is keep them in our prayers.
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Unread 09-07-2008, 09:22 PM
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I find this post completely inappropriate and I hope it is deleted soon. If that story upset you why put it in here? Where people come for comfort?
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Unread 09-08-2008, 07:50 PM
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I put here because I was looking for support, and comfort.

That being said, you probably can contact the forum hostess to ask that the thread be removed if you feel that strongly.

(I'm not trying to be facetious or flippant, just trying to provide a straightforward answer to the question.)
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Unread 09-08-2008, 07:59 PM
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I think it truly upset puppy and where else to turn but to women who can understand the frustration of losing their child bearing capabilities? I don't think it is inappropriate when she is trying to reach out for help and some understanding.

I don't have an explanation for why women do some of these things. I worked in a womens prison for a few years and it was always shocking to learn of a new inmates circumstances when it involved crimes against their own children.

I am sorry it makes you hurt, but we can't know why someone chooses to do this sort of thing when we haven't walked in their shoes. Sometimes it is a mental thing and sometimes really it is probably the best thing to happen to the child to find a home with a loving family. Obviously some cases don't turn out that way which is more saddening.

This is why I DO NOT watch the news anymore.

*Hugs* to you.
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Unread 09-08-2008, 08:31 PM
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Originally Posted by mountainwoman2
I find this post completely inappropriate and I hope it is deleted soon. If that story upset you why put it in here? Where people come for comfort?
As puppy love explained, she came here seeking comfort and support after reading a story about a baby who was abandoned in a field shortly after birth. As a member who has recently lost her ability to give birth, this story upset her.

Puppy love, your post will not be removed. You have every right to grieve the loss of your uterus and the ability to bear a child. I can understand how this news story has upset you.
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Unread 09-12-2008, 07:06 PM
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Thank you davinci and Catherine

It really did get me - and got me by surprise: I turned the TV on just to find out what the weather was supposed to be like that day. Of course that was a highlight story that was "everywhere", repeatedly.

the frustrating thing since then? I haven't been able to find out what happened! Late last week I realized I never saw anything else about it and was wondering. I still haven't found anything which probably means the rest of the story wasn't sensational enough to make the news. I'm hoping that means everyone is "ok".

There were interviews with the woman's mother and a neighbor - they both seemed rational and genuinely concerned about both mother and child. I do hope the baby ended up in a loving home - every child deserves that.

Might go join davinci behind her couch for a while
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