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Why do they scare us like that?? Why do they scare us like that??

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Unread 10-15-2008, 07:26 PM
Why do they scare us like that??

Had hyster in June '07 for reoccuring dysplasia CIN II-III. Great recovery, no problems. Went for follow up pap in April '08. Showed signs of abnormal cells. Was able to get appointment in June with OB/GYN. Re-did pap then. Didn't hear anything back, went back on Oct. 6th for 6 month pap, found out that my pap in June had been lost, so they didn't even test it at all. He re-did pap last Monday, told me they would call as soon as the results were in, he put a rush on it. Dr.'s office called yesterday afternoon, results are in, the Dr. would like to see you, can you come tomorrow at 10:30?. Yup, no problem. So, I'm up half the night wondering and worrying what the results are that he wants to see me that fast. Went to his office this morning, and waited, and waited, and waited. Finally an hour and a half later he comes in, brings up my results and says "Everything was negative". I said "Huh, what, you've totally caught me off guard". Then it sunk in that all my results are negative, and everything is alright, for the time being. Told me to have repeat pap every 6 months for 2 years and if those are negative then I'm good to go. I couldn't believe that it was negative, then it sunk in that he had me worrying all night and half the day nothing, when he could of told me this over the phone. JEEZ. Oh, well. I bought a lottery ticket today. Maybe my luck it changing. Who knows? Thanks for all the support and wise words of wisdom. Good luck to everyone and remember that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Terri.
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Unread 10-15-2008, 08:16 PM
Why do they scare us like that??

I have no clue why any doctor would treat anyone like that. It's horrible! I would have been furious, at the wait time, and even more angry that they called and never bothered to tell you that the tests were all negative! How awful! I think you need to tell the doctor that it is very frightening to be called like you were and an appointment made for the next morning. ANYONE would think that there was something wrong, something that urgently needed treatment. They need to know that their manner leaves a lot to be desire. I hope they also know that a wait of more than a few minutes is unacceptable. In years past I fired two gyns because they regularly ran 30 minutes or more late. There is just no reason for that. My current gyn and gyn/oncologist never keep me waiting more than 5 or 10 minutes. Professionals keep appointments, on time. Most doctors do too and those that don't need to learn that their time isn't any more special than ours. Fire them, and go to another doctor who knows how to run his office and keep appointments.

Second, I am wondering why you aren't seeing your gyn/oncologist for follow ups. They know what to look for and what tests to run and how often. They are the cancer experts. Regular ob/gyns are great for pregnancy and birth control, but they are not cancer specialists. Perhaps it's different because I had cervical cancer, but I saw the gyn/onc every 3 months for 2 years, then every 4 months for the next 3 years. A pap smear and full exam was done at each visit. After 5 years, I need only go once a year, forever.

I am happy for you that everything is fine and so sorry that you had to go through such a terrible scare.

Unread 10-15-2008, 09:03 PM
Why do they scare us like that??

That is terrible...all of it. I also would have assumed the worst. Who wouldn't? I'm glad the results were good though. Good luck w/your ticket!
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Unread 10-15-2008, 09:22 PM
Why do they scare us like that??

OMG that's AWFUL!!!! I mean, the results are GREAT but the way the office handled it?? Why on earth would they do that??
Unread 10-15-2008, 09:36 PM
Why do they scare us like that??

That was not right. I can just imagine what thoughts were running through your head! But, I wanted to wish you luck, I HOPE YOU WIN THE LOTTERY!
Unread 10-16-2008, 07:27 AM
Why do they scare us like that??

Great news. Having worked with doctors & surgeons for 38 years they still never cease to amaze me with their stupidness at times!! Hugs
Unread 10-16-2008, 07:30 AM
Why do they scare us like that??

I am so glad to hear the news finally was good. Have to agree with others though that perhaps it is time to find a new doctor. I switched gynies twice - the first time because they did not tell me the truth about my pap smear, and the second time because he was not interested in helping me cope with menopause as a patient with high risk for BRCA and cannot take HRT. When I had to do my own research to find a drug that could help me with years of hot flashes, I knew it was way past time to change. We deserve to be treated better!
Unread 10-16-2008, 11:55 AM
Time to change doctors

Same thing happened to me Stongredhead; receptionist called me after the biopsy and said the doctor wanted to see me; I said just tell me or put the doctor on the phone because I wouldn't even be on your radar if it wasn't cancer. Receptionist made some feeble excuse (not her fault she doesn't get paid enough to know how to cope with people). I had to wait 2 days to find out that I did have cancer; so I calmly explained to the female doctor that I would never use her services again because she didn't do what she told she would do----CALL ME. I'm a big girl, I can take it. I don't need a support staff person fumbling through my diagnosis. Needless to say, I found an oncologist at a major research center and will be with him for the next 5 years. TAH on 22 Aug, 20 lymph nodes removed and all came back clear. My advice to you would be to find an obgyn/oncologist. Even their support staff is oncall for most questions and they deal with it every day. Don't wait until it's too late to get the "best" care. I'm greatful that your test was clear!!!
Unread 10-16-2008, 01:46 PM
Why do they scare us like that??

Hey Terri, Congratulations on the good news! And dump that doctor ASAP.

Unread 10-16-2008, 10:44 PM
Why do they scare us like that??

Great news! Very poorly handled, but great news!!

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