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Unread 11-04-2008, 01:31 AM
TVH Recovery question(children mentioned)

I have a TVH coming up on Nov.25/08, but I have 4 kids, 3 who are 5 and under my youngest only 15mths. How can I recover without my baby hating me, has anyone else had a TVH with such young children?
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Unread 11-04-2008, 07:38 AM
TVH Recovery question(children mentioned)

Your baby will not hate you. Did your other children hate you after you gave birth to their siblings and couldn't pack and carry them around everywhere? Probably not! You simply say "mommy can't pick you up, come climb up here next to me". Get a step stool so the little ones can climb up next to you wherever you are, they will be fine. Don't forget the older child can help out too!
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Unread 11-04-2008, 02:57 PM
TVH Recovery question(children mentioned)

Thank you for your reply, I am going to take all the tips I get from this site and put them into use! Thank you so much!
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Unread 11-04-2008, 09:09 PM
TVH Recovery question(children mentioned)

I had a TAH the summer before last and my children were 8, 5 and 1 1/2 at the time. Since I had an abdominal incision, I was unable to pick my daughter up for about 6 weeks. I just told her that mommy's belly was hurt so I could not pick her up. I put a stool by her crib and she could climb up and in her crib for naps and bedtime. When I needed to get her out, I had one of my other children lift her out of the crib. It worked out well that way. I do think she understood that I was hurting and she actually seemed to be trying to make me feel better. I also spent a lot of time reading to the kids and doing things that did not take much energy or effort.

We all made it through and the kids did not seem to be affected at all.

Good Luck!
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Unread 11-04-2008, 09:49 PM
TVH Recovery question(children mentioned)

Your little one won't hate you!!! Keep a stool close by and a pilllow by you at all times for your tummy. Yes, it will still be tender even though you are having the TVH. Spend extra time with him/her lying on the couch with books. Best wishes!!
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Unread 11-04-2008, 10:42 PM
TVH Recovery question(children mentioned)

I am trying to figure out what to do about my kids. They are getting really upset at my long illness - I used to be super active and really involved with them (we homeschool) and suddenly mommy is spending tons of time resting and sleeping (stage III uterine prolapse). Now we're talking hospital, surgery - I don't know how to reassure them that this will make everything better once it's over. They are getting really sulky and unlike themselves. Does anyone have a good resource for helping kids understand and not be scared or resentful of what's going on?
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Unread 11-05-2008, 12:40 AM
TVH Recovery question(children mentioned)

I havent even really discussed it much with my kids, of course my 16yr old daughter knows everything, but my 5 1/2 yr old boy has ASD so we try to be very brief, he knows I have tummy problems, and I just had my last lap, this past august, so he remembers. But my boy who is almost 3yrs, I havent said anything yet, and my baby is 15mths.

Maybe getting a book? I know there are alot of social experience books, chapters is very good at trying to find topics for you.
Try not to make the doctor or the hospital a scary thing for your kids. Let them know you are "happy" to see the doctor, and he/she is going to help you get better so mommy can do lots of fun things again!

Now that I have said that, I think I will take my own advice and start talking to my 3 young ones tomorrow!

Best of luck, and thank you texastech92 and bluzchick for the advice on the stool beside the baby's bed, I just hope she wont fight me! She is a feisty one!
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