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Unread 04-03-2009, 04:06 PM
nervous, frustrated, worried TAH


I am new, and posted to the new board, but I thought I would come down here and post too....

I have been through the wringer, and am now facing a TAH rather than the TLH I was promised. My date is gone, and I have to wait till May to even get scheduled, and the Dr I have to see due to insurance is going to have the Dr I didn't want to see assist him in the OR!!!!!!

I am scared, and frustrated and feel like no one understands. My mom thinks I am being silly--she had hers this way and it was fine. My friend thinks I should just be glad I am having one and be done with it, and DH is all over the place. His mom had a bad experience with her TAH, and he was just barely on board with the TLH----now I am going the other route...and he thinks my HAVING to stay in the hospital two days is a GREAT idea!!!

I guess I am just looking for some encouragement from someone who has been there recently(my mom's was 25 years ago), and who maybe understands where I am coming from...

Thanks in advance...

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Unread 04-03-2009, 07:32 PM
Re: nervous, frustrated, worried TAH

Hi Marianne~
A TAH is a long recovery, but can be the best choice for a lot of us. It allows your surgeon great access if more room is needed to work.

Perhaps the doctor who is going to assist is quite talented when it comes to surgery even if you don't care for their style during office visits.

There can be bad experiences for some, but complications are rare and most of us end up with good results. Two days will go by quickly, and going home feels great. Please keep us posted on your progress!
Unread 04-03-2009, 07:59 PM
Re: nervous, frustrated, worried TAH

I had my TAH with my incision at the bikini line. The Dr. needed to go in abdominally b/c of the size of the fibroids, my uterus etc... At first I was really bummed and a little mad. But then I realized for me and my situation this was going to be the best and safest route.
This is only my opinion but, the waiting to go to surgery is the worst part. I am 7 weeks post op and everything is doing well. I still have a some swelly belly and a little tenderness at the incision.
I used this site alot before my surgery and it was a great help, I hope you will continue to find information and support.
Hugs to you
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Unread 04-03-2009, 09:26 PM
Re: nervous, frustrated, worried TAH

I think being worried and scared is very normal. I would recommend you bring you DH along for pre-op visit so he can have his questions answered as well. Waiting is the hardest part but those two days in the hospital will be gone before you know it. Focus on yourself and getting things ready for your recovery (set you your room, plan meals for the family to prepare, arrange for family and friends to be there for you, and the time will be here before you know it. I can't tell you not to worry because that is human nature, but remember although this is major surgery, it is also the most common and many have done this before. For me I can tell you that I had no idea how bad I felt until I started to feel better, then I wondered why I tried to avoid this and put it off for so many years.
Unread 04-04-2009, 07:23 AM
Re: nervous, frustrated, worried TAH

Hi Marianne.

Being worried is just so normal. Not being worried is probably less normal.

Since you have to wait until May I would suggest getting yourself in the best physical shape possible before surgery. I am convinced that my exercise and weight loss has helped in my recovery. Other than that, I am not sure why my recovery has been so easy but it is possible to have an easy one, so maybe you will too!

Besides that, exercise will help reduce your stress and anxiety while you are waiting.

I wish you well!

Unread 04-04-2009, 08:11 AM
Re: nervous, frustrated, worried TAH

Hi Marianne,
I haven't had my surgery yet, but I have the same feelings that you do! I am scared, but also looking forward to the surgery to be over. Then there is recovery. Which I think makes me a little more nervous because I am not sure what to expect. But I will let you know how I am doing after my surgery. I'll be thinking of you!

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