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Unread 12-19-2009, 04:49 PM
This whole situation is depressing

After my last heavy bleed and resulting anemia, I find that I am feeling very depressed. I want so much to be active and interested in life, but my body just won't cooperate. I feel like I am having to shrink away from my world while coping with the humiliation of what I am going through. My co-workers must think I am pathetic since I have been calling in sick so much lately. But trying to explain a heavy bleeding situation to a 30 something male boss is not possible. On the other side of the coin, I am not certain that a hysterectomy will take care of anything but the heavy bleeding. I am afraid that I will have the adhesions and bladder issues that I read about so much on these forums. So. my reality lately is very much feeling stuck and depressed and wondering how to get beyond all of this stuff. Help!!
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Unread 12-21-2009, 10:45 PM
Re: This whole situation is depressing

I would look at all the options and alternatives to a hysterectomy and get more than one opinion from the doctors.

Unread 12-22-2009, 08:29 AM
Re: This whole situation is depressing

Hang in there. It is a tough journey. Big hugs to ya!
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Unread 12-22-2009, 08:55 AM
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Research all of your options before you make any decisions!! I know what you mean about missing so much work! I work 4 the school district and we started our year in AUg. by late Oct. my sick days were gone!!
Unread 12-22-2009, 09:30 AM
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My name is Jean. I am 43 years old. I was right where you are. I took iron pills 3 times a day. And anyone that has taken that much iron knows how difficult that is to do! My stomach was a mess!

What can I say? My periods controlled my life. As I got older, they got worse! I would bleed 19 out of 30 days every month and sometimes even more. And that whole "Do you bleed through one pad or tampon in an hour?" is an understatement. There are not products out there that can hold the amount of blood that came out of me during my cycles. Trust me. I've tried it all. I started wearing rubber underwear and adult diapers to work! I planned my entire life around my monthly cycle! All I did was wear black, black, and more black! I stopped going to parties and family events and basically became a total homebody.

This year, missing work became a regular routine, but my boss (who is female) did not give me a hard time. She saw with her own eyes what I went through every month! One day, we were at the fax machine. I thought the ceiling was dripping water, but no, it was BLOOD dripping down my leg! I had bled through my pad AGAIN and there was a pool of blood right there by my shoe on the carpet! And at that point I just said THAT'S IT!

It was a very difficult decision for me to make. My gynecologist has been trying to get me to have a hysterectomy for years! There was no other answer! I finally scheduled my full abdominal hysterectomy for Monday, June 22nd. Without a doubt, it is the best decision I've ever made. I can now do anything all 30 days of every month! And, I'm not looking back!

You don't know me and I don't know you. It is a big decision. Think about it. Keep reading the posts on this thread and all over this website. I think you might change your mind ...
Unread 12-25-2009, 09:50 PM
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The thing that makes it doubly hard to decide is that I don't bleed for days on end - just 1-2 days of really bad stuff during each period and then except for spotting it is over until next time. Except for the anemia, I am in very good health. I have relatives with very profound problems that showed up after their surgeries - sometimes not until several years later so that kind of scares me. And of course hanging on this long (I'm 55) only to give up seems kind of sad. I see another doc in two weeks, so will see what he thinks and then make my decision.
Unread 12-28-2009, 07:31 AM
Re: This whole situation is depressing

Hi,look into
3-endometrial ablation
4-gnrh agonists
good luck!

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