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Newbee: Going Crazy!! Newbee: Going Crazy!!

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Unread 01-05-2010, 05:16 PM
Newbee: Going Crazy!!

Hello all!!

It has been confirmed: Sometime or another I will need a Hyst!

I'm going crazy! I'm not married, never had kids and in my late 30's. I never really thought about having kids, if it happened it happened. I've been pretty happy with my animals and able to do what I want, when I want!

But now I need surgery And now it will not be my choice anymore, it has been taken away!
The Dr said we can prolong things but eventually down the road I will need surgery.
Then it's up to me if I want to keep my ovaries. "I say why if your cutting me open anyway why keep them for later"!!

I'm feeling pretty sorry for myself and for my life situation right now.
Does anybody have some words of wisdom or anybody going through somewhat the same thing?

I'm ready to hear from anybody at this moment if you can help!

Thank you for letting me join into your sisterhood!
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Unread 01-05-2010, 05:32 PM
Re: Newbee: Going Crazy!!

Why do u need a hyst? If it is matter of ur health then that comes first. I am 29 and I had my hyst yesterday and I am in hospital typing this I have one daughter and I am marriedbut still had to really think about my decision and for me I didn't want just remove mass from my ovarie and take a xhance of it being cancer because I had cancer 9 years ago. Thank god it wasn't this time. Anyhow there is plenty of kids out there who need to be adopted.. my sister is 35 and can't have kids for other complications and 3 yrs ago meet this wonderful guy and thygot married and now r in the process of adoption. My point is if later in life u decide u want kids there r other options.. just be a 100% before doing a hyst, not because I had bad experience but it is a big decision.
Unread 01-05-2010, 06:04 PM
Re: Newbee: Going Crazy!!

First, you'll probably want a second opinion. You might want to look into getting some counseling to be sure you are making the right decision.

Like jmg, I was dealing with possible cancer so I didn't have the luxury of time. I met my doctor on Friday and was in the OR on Monday. I had some emotional issue afterward because I hadn't thought things through. I'm 39 with no kids. It just never happened for me and wasn't a decision I made.

Most importantly, don't rush to the worst possible outcome and have the emotional reaction as if it were true. You'll wear yourself out. I like to make plans A-Z. I planned to come back to school in January AND I decided what kind of memorial fund I wanted set up. Then I took a deep breath and proceeded as if Plan A was going to work. All the while, I was prepared for Plan Z but I didn't think about it anymore.

Also, make sure you don't dwell on this. I like to put my difficult issues in a "box" on the shelf. Every few hours or days (whatever is needed), I open the box and deal with it. Then I close the box and put it back. When my problem is on the shelf, I can live my life. Don't forget to live yours.

Take care of yourself.
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Unread 01-05-2010, 06:28 PM
Re: Newbee: Going Crazy!!

I would definitely get another opinion. I would take the time to make sure you really need this operation now. Sometimes you can wait to have the surgery done. It is a tough decision to make so after my second opinion if that doctor thinks I need surgery, I would look at the pros and cons of it. Also discuss with doctor how you are feeling and why you may not want the surgery right now. Good luck.
Unread 01-05-2010, 06:57 PM
Re: Newbee: Going Crazy!!

jmg122003, I hope you are feeling OK. Your are a fighter that is for sure, typing me while in the hospital!! You go girl!!

Thank you so much for that, I love your story and your sisters. It does give me hope.

My reason for hyst: 4 years ago they found 2 fybroids, not bad and kept an eye on them. Now I had another ultrasound and it is so much worse. There are multi fybroids and so large you can feel them when you press on my stomach. A lot of trouble have come about in the last 2 months and I don't think prolonging thing will matter much in the long run I will need surgery.
Unread 01-05-2010, 07:10 PM
Re: Newbee: Going Crazy!!

Originally Posted by CynHyster View Post
Also, make sure you don't dwell on this. I like to put my difficult issues in a "box" on the shelf. Every few hours or days (whatever is needed), I open the box and deal with it. Then I close the box and put it back. When my problem is on the shelf, I can live my life. Don't forget to live yours.
Thank you very much! I love this idea, I will be doing this tonight. I can so dwell on this and make myself sick over it!

I hope you are cancer free now and everything is good with you.

Yes, I think counseling would be a good idea. thx
I thought about a 2nd opinion but working in the medical field you pretty much know before walking into the dr office but it sure wouldnt hurt.

Thanks again, you also give me hope! I will be ready these posts over and over again!

Thank you!
Unread 01-05-2010, 07:16 PM
Re: Newbee: Going Crazy!!

zenyatta5, Thank you for your support!
I should get a 2nd opinion. I need to carry a note pad with me and start writing down my questions so I don't forget them.

Thank you!
Unread 01-05-2010, 08:21 PM
Re: Newbee: Going Crazy!!

Hi RottenBrat

A hysterectomy is not the only option for fibroids. I think it's an excellent idea to talk with another doctor or two.

One treatment is a myomectomy, which is a removal of the fibroids. The uterus stays where it is, and it can be possible to carry a pregnancy after myomectomy. It might be worth calling some fertility specialists to see if they have recommendations on doctors who will try to preserve fertility while treating fibroids.

Another option is a uterine artery embolization (also known as a uterine fibroid embolization). This involves the insertion of tiny pellets into the arteries that supply blood to the fibroids, although I don't know that this option would allow for pregnancy in the future. Although the fibroids stay where they are with this treatment, they shrink and get less dense.

If you are able to tolerate your symptoms for a while yet, it's worth taking the time to consult with other doctors. It's hard to lose our choices, but you may still have some options. Even if it turns out that a hysterectomy is the best option for you, you might appreciate having some time to wrap your brain and around the idea first.

I wish you the best of luck, and we'll be here no matter what you decide to do.
Unread 01-05-2010, 08:48 PM
Re: Newbee: Going Crazy!!

Originally Posted by RottenBrat View Post

I hope you are cancer free now and everything is good with you.
Thanks for asking. I didn't have cancer at all. I had all the signs but all the reports were clear.

My surgery was 2 weeks ago yesterday and I'm back at school. It wasn't a bad experience at all. As I've said on other threads: Nice people, warm blankets and good drugs. Just focus on that.

Feel free to come back if you need another "dose" of this.

Unread 01-06-2010, 07:13 PM
Re: Newbee: Going Crazy!!

If your symptoms will allow you to wait, I would try to get another opinion. I had always said that I got one opinion which was my surgeon's but I forgot about seeing multiple other specialists prior to the surgery and seeing my family doctor. All of them said I needed the surgery including my gyn. who had referred me to the surgeon. I guess I forgot about their opinions. I think that one way I stayed busy (and believe me I don't recommend this!!!) was to go see almost every specialist there is. When I started having severe pain I saw my gyn, gi doctor, urologist, my primary doc, then back to the gyn, back to the urologist then the surgeon then back to my primary doc, urologist,general surgeon, ent, and allergist. I think I was so busy seeing all of them that I forgot until today about all their opinions!! I have to laugh just thinking about it because I just never really realized until today how many doctors I saw. The worst part for me was before because I was in pain and having a lot of problems working. Sending lots of hugs and best wishes

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