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Is anyone else scared that they are going to die in surgery? Is anyone else scared that they are going to die in surgery?

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Unread 02-06-2010, 03:56 PM
Is anyone else scared that they are going to die in surgery?

Don't ask me why, but over the course of my life I always have had this feeling that I was going to pass away when I was in my late 30's. My hubby has known this from day one when we met. I can't describe the feeling, it just is there.

Here I am 17 days away from something that could happen in a surgery like this. Yes, I have a will and a health directive, but now this is starting to weigh on my mind a lot more.

The last surgery I had was my tubal ligation in 1997 and I was awake for that, but during the surgery they had to ask me if I was feeling okay, because my blood pressure dropped a lot. I won't be awake this time to answer a question like that.

Does anyone else have this fear? I would feel horrible if I did die just because I didn't want to deal with the pain of periods and such now. Anyone know the percentage of people that pass away during a surgery like this?

I hate feeling like this. I feel like it is stupid because I can't control what happens during the surgery. I just want a better quality of life.

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Unread 02-06-2010, 04:28 PM
Re: Is anyone else scared that they are going to die in surgery?

Hello, InspiringMind ~~

No, I am not afraid of dying in my surgery. Maybe because I recently had a D&C and came through that fine.

I do have two suggestions for you. When you speak with your doctors and nurses, make sure you explain your fear and let them know about your drop in blood pressure during your previous surgery. They will be able to reassure you about how well you will be monitored and cared for.

I have been listening to Belleruth Naperstek's Successful Surgery at bedtime each night and I will be taking it to the hospital with me also. It is guided imagery, affirmations, relaxing music for surgery and healing. Perhaps it will ease your fears and make you feel stronger and in control. I learned about it here and many sisters have found it helpful.

Sending you smiles and star filled wishes ~~ StarryNite
Unread 02-06-2010, 04:46 PM
Re: Is anyone else scared that they are going to die in surgery?

Hi Inspiringmind,
Yes I had the same feelings and was really terrified, but I came through it just fine. The night before was probably the worst for me, but by the time I reached the hospital that morning I started to calm down a little bit. You will be fine. Just remain positve ;o)

S. Thomas
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Unread 02-06-2010, 05:00 PM
Re: Is anyone else scared that they are going to die in surgery?

Dear Sister-
Take a deep breath with us and think of something wonderful. Do the same right before your surgery. We will all be here waiting for your post. You will wake up groggy, but alive and strong! Feel your fear and let it pass. We all worry about this right before every important, scary surgery. All the people waiting for us... They will be there when you are done and you will be ok.
With much love and prayers. Check-in we will be waiting.
Unread 02-06-2010, 05:33 PM
Re: Is anyone else scared that they are going to die in surgery?

In a word, yes. It has been weighing on me a lot lately. I am trying to focus on how good I'll feel after. But, the same thought keeps cropping up. What if there is no after.
Unread 02-06-2010, 05:45 PM
Re: Is anyone else scared that they are going to die in surgery?

I had those thoughts as well. Just part of the fear of surgery and not being in control and knowing what is happening. Plus, I had never been put under as was so scared something would go wrong. I couldn't image myself on the otherside in post-op. But here I am. Just fine.
Unread 02-06-2010, 05:53 PM
Re: Is anyone else scared that they are going to die in surgery?

Hi ,
I also am worried about dieing .. im sure everyone gets worried about it. but im sure we will both come out of it fine.
Unread 02-06-2010, 06:00 PM
Re: Is anyone else scared that they are going to die in surgery?

I was worried about dying too. I have anxiety attacks when I'm in the hospital. I also have a magnesium deficiency and have almost died from that. I let my anesthesiologist know this. He and his assistant were so wonderful and comforting. They gave me something extra for anxiety and were especially careful to monitor my blood pressure during the surgery, assuring me that they would take good care of me. I put my trust in them and in God. I had a hard time coming out of the anesthesia, but just kept focusing on all my sisters who were supporting me and got through it OK. Hang in there! You'll be fine!
Unread 02-06-2010, 06:20 PM
Re: Is anyone else scared that they are going to die in surgery?

Yes, my fears are so strong that I start making lists and letters for DH and Sons. I don't know if I feed into my own fears by doing this..but it helps give me a sense of control.

My thoughts and prayers are with u! and WE WILL BOTH be on the Pre-op boards together!! Since our surgery's are only 1 day apart!
Unread 02-06-2010, 06:21 PM
Re: Is anyone else scared that they are going to die in surgery?

Hi there. I completely understand how you are feeling. I was convinced at times that I would die in surgery. I even wrote letters to everyone I love "just in case" and I wrote something I wanted to be read at my funeral.

I think it's completely normal to feel this way. I've always been the kind of person that thinks I'm going to die even when I feel a little twinge of pain near my chest or a little dizziness. For me, I think it comes from losing a lot of family at a young age.

The upside to my incredible fear was that I got a lot closer to God because of it. I was so scared that the only thing I could come up with is to put it all in God's hands and try to let it go. My husband kept telling me that if God wanted me, I would go no matter what because it was "my time." I still struggle with that concept but it was somewhat comforting.

Here's a Hystersister article that might help you deal with these fears--

And, if it's any comfort to you, I have high blood pressure, sleep apnea, obesity, irregular heartbeats, hypothyroidism, I smoke and have panic attacks but I made it through surgery perfectly!! My surgery was especially complicated as I was having a hernia repaired at the same time. I was in surgery for over 6 hours! They worried about my breathing and the effects of being under so long but there were no complications. I am just sharing this so you know that modern medicine has come a long way and they really know so much more than they used to about keeping people alive!

Best wishes to you and I hope you find a little peace of mind.

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