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Unread 04-27-2010, 07:38 AM
Less than a woman?

I love my sister but she is such a skeptic about everything, i decided to tell her about my surgery(tah 5/7) she says that you will never feel like a woman again, and sex life is over, mind you she never had this surgery, i personally never though that my ovaries made me a woman or more of a woman, i don't know if she was just being mean.
I don't know what i am going to feel like after the surgery, i hope this isn't true, please tell me does your sex life change and do you feel less than a woman?
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Unread 04-27-2010, 07:50 AM
Re: Less than a woman?

Hi, I am 28 and had surgery two weeks ago. I no longer have my ovaries, either. I, too, have never attached myself to the idea of my ovaries making me a woman. So far i still feel like a woman....w/o all the "troubles" of dealing with the monthly stuff. As for sex, well I can't say entirely because I still have restrictions. However I have done some exploration and am happy to report that all is well in that department. IN fact i have to say it's better than before surgery for me. I had endometriosis and adenomyosis.
Negatives so far: My husband says I don't "smell the same down there"...personally I am thinking it's nice to feel a bit fresher...TMI sorry ;-) Dealing with the hormonal defeiciency is the most difficult aspect of it all. Just trying to get it all figured out. ;-) Hope that helps you. Don't let anyone else make your decision for you. You have to deal with the issues now, you'll still have to deal with them later.
Unread 04-27-2010, 08:48 AM
Re: Less than a woman?

I am not released on everything yet and had a TVH not a TAH, but I feel like a sexual being still. I have read online that there is a huge amount of ladies that experience better sexual experiences after hyst and some of that may be due to the fact that the pain and bleeding and even worry of late pregancy or fear of cancer- these go away with the surgery. For me, I have great relief from my symptoms already I am 3 weeks post op. I hope this is helpful even though my situation is a little different than yours and I wish you good luck with the recovery and the whole process. I also feel relieved that I won't be facing this down the road, it is behind me.
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Unread 04-27-2010, 09:58 AM
Re: Less than a woman?

I understand how you feel. I had a "friend" tell me that after my surgery that I would be an it instead of a woman

I'm happy to say it isn't true. It's not body parts that make us women - it's our heart and soul and that doesn't change with surgery! My "intimate" times with my DH are still good

Best wishes.

Unread 04-27-2010, 10:55 AM
Re: Less than a woman?

Hello "stressed", I think you may want to count on other folks to be supportive for you in the next few weeks. Hopefully, you have others in your life able to be supportive and not so negative. My surgery is May 6 so I'll be right there with you; I'm 46 and have a lot of stress and worry too. But whether or not I am still a woman after surgery is NOT one of them. Of course we will. I also understand that our attitude and openness to how our sex life will be after the surgery has a lot to do with how it goes. So many women say it's just as good or better that there is no reason to expect the worst. Ask for what you need from your husband or partner as well as friends!!! Be as specific as possible.
Unread 04-27-2010, 11:57 AM
Re: Less than a woman?

Your sister sounds like a mean dweeb (sorry - excuse the middle school French). Of course you will still be a girl. You will always be female you. I am guessing that your sis has issues which surgery can't fix. How sad for her. You should stick to talking with happy, optimistic people now save the downer people for when you feel too excellent after your operation is done!

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