first attempt being intimate

Here's what's going on. I'm almost 3 weeks post DiVinci Hyst. Kept right Ovary. I had my 2 week check up last thursday and everthing was fine. I felt great. Doc said ok to have oral sex but no intercourse till 8 weeks are up. So last night me and hubby tried it out and I felt as if I wasn't getting aroused at all. Hubby was trying but it just wasn't the same. I did eventually have an "O" but it was not like my usual ones that I always had. Not intense and shorter. I'm an emotional wreck today because I'm scared things will never feel the same . That's just not normal for me. Today I'm crying, irritable and tired. Hormones have been all over the place for 3 days now. Do you think my ovary is not working right now? Should I try hormones until I feel normal? I also heard from a friend to try some herbal thing over the counter to help with mood swings. I HATE not being able to control my emotions.. I'm just very depressed today.. Any comments would be appreciated.

It sounds like you are expecting a little too much too soon. I am sure it will get better as your body heals. Your organs have been through a lot & your hormones are probably all over the place too. Don't panic. I am sure it will get better for you. It is also better if you can relax & the first 5 or times you are probably worrying. Hang in there & give yourself time.

I think it takes time to get back in the groove and have things work right again. Its hard not to be nervous and tense at first and that never helps. Try to not expect much at first and just try to go with the flow of things----it gets better but it took some time. Remember things are still healing or barely healed still. I think of it as being like walking on a leg that just had surgery---it might limp at first but it gets better with use and time. That's how I see it---like a sexual limp that will work itself out. (If that makes sense to anyone but me). The hormones being in a whirl don't help either. Give it a while, and maybe ask the Dr about the hormone part.

Like everyone else said, it's still very early on. Give your body time to heal, and adjust to the changes. If you got turned on in the slightest bit now, it should be even greater once things have healed.

Also, you're going to have to adapt to the changes as well. While one thing may have felt soooooooooooooooo good before, it may not be because something was moved. Give your body more time, and when you're all healed THEN you experiment. Your hunny will enjoy getting to know you all over again.

Thanks everyone. I guess I should of waited to be intimate or at least not expect it to be awesome. I read on here that so many women say their sex lifes are great after their surgury and I'm just worried. My sister has confided in me that her marriage is suffering because of lack of desire on her part and I don't want that to happen to me. I'm gonna relax for now and maybe call my doc to see if he can recommend something for me while my emotions are all a mess. Maybe things will get better in time.

Maybe you should have a solo session so you are relaxed and the pressure is off. if you feel uncomftable you can stop without feeling any explanation is needed. Once you have flown solo a couple of times you will feel more relaxed when there is two of you in the cockpit .

I agree w/ English...the solo flights can also be pretty exciting.

In all seriousness..at least solo there's no pressure, and you can find out what works better for you, and what may not work so well anymore. You may find there aren't any changes at all.

But, do NOT give up hope! It's way too soon to be stressing over this.

I had the DaVinci and the O was great at 2 weeks post-op. But I had all my parts removed and am on the HRT patch. If you had surgery, but kept an ovary and are not on HRT, I have read that you could expect to have your ovary in shock from the trauma of surgery. Some people even get hot flashes.
Don't panic about your O potential until you get your hormones settled down.

Also, I was planning to try a solo shot first so there is not the same pressure, but my DH jumped the gun. I would think solo would be a good way to test your hormone levels and see if your hormones get back on track

Ok so I did go solo and it happened but It was short and sweet! lol.. I think I'm calling the doc to see if he'll help out with the hormones for right now. No hot flashes but can't control my emotions and I'm really tired all day and up till late in the morning.
Thanks ladies

Wooooohoooooooooooooooooo

These things will take time. Sometimes short and sweet is more of what you need. You're definitely doing the right thing asking for help with the other things. It sucks when your emotions are so out of control.

Take a few minutes each hour (set an alarm if you have to) to smile. It helps to also write a list of the happiest/funniest events in your memory. For 3 minutes every hour of the day that you're awake, focus on an event in this list. It won't cure your blues, but it will help you feel more in control of them.