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Surgery Tomorrow, and a canceled pre-op appt - scared now! Surgery Tomorrow, and a canceled pre-op appt - scared now!

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Unread 09-02-2010, 12:16 PM
Surgery Tomorrow, and a canceled pre-op appt - scared now!

Hi...I am in a total panic this morning. I feel like everything is happening so fast, and suddenly realized I don't have any clue as to exactly WHAT is going on. Brief history is I have a large ovarian cyst that after several trips to my reg dr with pain when sitting, was discovered through a CT scan. He told me to schedule an appt with my ob/gyn and viola - here I am waiting for surgery.

Okay, it really wasn't that fast - I have had major pain forever from periods, but thought this was "normal". And then when I started having the pain when sitting, I thought it was my weight. I waited 3 months before seeing my regular doctor, and then it was another 2 months before they discovered the true problem. It took 3 weeks to get in to see my ob/gyn. That was last Wednesday. Then she did the internal ultrasound and said this cyst is the size of a grapefruit, and on top of that I have Adenomyosis, plus uterine prolapse. She was showing me the picture of my uterus and pointing out the really thick lining, and I asked "Is that normal?" to her reply of no, but it explains why I have so much pain. She then looked at me and said at this time in my life I really should have a hysterectomy as well. I don't remember much more of the conversation because I was in complete shock. I never even thought that was something that could happen from that appt.

The original surgery date was set for 9/13, and I thought that was really fast. Then my pain level went from a constant 7 to a throbbing 9 and wasn't easing. I tried to go to work on Monday and ended up in the restroom vomiting, and it took everything I have to convince my co-workers not to call 911. They made me call my Dr, and she said to get home and called in a script for pain meds, and moved my surgery to Friday.

On top of that, I had a pre-op appt scheduled, and she said she didn't want me driving and that at this point I need the surgery, and we will talk tomorrow.

Please don't think my condensed version makes her sound like she doesn't care - the staff at the clinic have been wonderful, talking to me several times a day, making sure I am okay - helping resolve insurance issues I have. They have really gone above and beyond in my book to make me feel important, and the decisions have all been based on my best interest. The cancellation of the appt was due to my husband not being able to get off work to take me since he has to take the next few days off (don't get me started on his job or this will be a novel!).

It's just now I am scared, crying, and realizing I don't even know what all they are doing! I know we talked about a complete hysterectomy, but that she would leave the left ovary. But after reading more here, I don't know if she will remove my cervix or not. And I believe she will be doing it lap through my tummy - unless the da Vinci is available (our hospital has one, but it has to be "available" and we have several dr's who are skilled in it's use - so I'm guessing we may be out of luck since this was planned on short notice).

Mostly I am just filled with anxiety. I don't really know what to expect. On top of everything out of the blue I started one of my painful periods and that is taking my pain levels through the roof.

My husband keeps telling me don't worry, in a few days my pain will be so much less - but I don't remember him losing his uterus!! He also doesn't get the fact that even though we were not planning on having more children (in fact he has a vasectomy) - I am sad because now I know for sure for sure that I will not bear any more. I always had that little hope for a miracle!!

I'm sorry to go on and on - I am just so scared, emotional, and hurting both physically and mentally. I just needed to get it all out a little. Thank you sisters!
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Unread 09-02-2010, 12:57 PM
Re: Surgery Tomorrow, and a canceled pre-op appt - scared now!

Hi, I just wanted to give you my support, as I'm about to go thru this (well, similarly), as well.

Of course you are scared- this is a very emotional thing! And I hadn't planned on anymore children either (for sure, and I am still 100% in saying that), but it is still a bit emotional for me too to realize that part of my life will be over (I'm only 33). But on the other hand, think about how much better your life will be after the procedure! You'll feel so much better and probably be able to do so many things you couldn't before because of the pain. My family was at a beautiful condo on the beach last week. Where was I while they were playing in the ocean? Laying on the balcony in pain, watching them. Seriously. see what I mean?

Hang in there, and if you ever want to vent to me, I'm always here!!
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Unread 09-02-2010, 01:01 PM
Re: Surgery Tomorrow, and a canceled pre-op appt - scared now!

What a roller coaster you have been on. With your pre-op being cancelled maybe you could talk to your Dr or his/her nurse over the phone to answer some of your questions. Sounds like you have a great Dr that is very much wanting to make sure you get better soon.

Know that all your sisters are here for you.

May your surgery be uneventful and recovery be remarkable.

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Unread 09-02-2010, 01:07 PM
Re: Surgery Tomorrow, and a canceled pre-op appt - scared now!

Hi Dream, I agree with NDhuntress and think you need to get your answers over the phone. It's important that you go into surgery with some peace of mind. Reading some of the surgery stories will give you an idea what to expect as far as the actual surgery and what to expect whenyou get home. So sorry this has been so sudden for you and wish you the best.
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Unread 09-02-2010, 01:14 PM
Re: Surgery Tomorrow, and a canceled pre-op appt - scared now!

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Originally Posted by cremebrulee View Post
Hi, I just wanted to give you my support, as I'm about to go thru this (well, similarly), as well.

Of course you are scared- this is a very emotional thing! And I hadn't planned on anymore children either (for sure, and I am still 100% in saying that), but it is still a bit emotional for me too to realize that part of my life will be over (I'm only 33). But on the other hand, think about how much better your life will be after the procedure! You'll feel so much better and probably be able to do so many things you couldn't before because of the pain. My family was at a beautiful condo on the beach last week. Where was I while they were playing in the ocean? Laying on the balcony in pain, watching them. Seriously. see what I mean?

Hang in there, and if you ever want to vent to me, I'm always here!!
I could not have better words of encouragement. I am now 9 days post op and even from day one I was feeling alot better than what I had been experiencing for the past 5 years. Yes it is emotional and very hard to come to terms the difference between deciding not to have more children and absolutely not being able to. You are not alone in those emotions and It will get easier as time goes by. (Seems thats the consensous on just about everything in life). Good LUck, try to relax and we are all here for you on the other side.
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Unread 09-02-2010, 05:04 PM
Re: Surgery Tomorrow, and a canceled pre-op appt - scared now!

Thank you sisters! Your words do help, and I am trying to put my best brave foot forward. This pain has definitely stolen more time than I am willing to lose in the future, so the thought of being able to get out and about is something I am looking forward to.

You are all wonderful - thank you for your kind words!!
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