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Second opinion without upsetting first doctor... Second opinion without upsetting first doctor...

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Unread 09-28-2010, 10:33 PM
Second opinion without upsetting first doctor...

So, I am scheduled for a second opinion this Friday.
Checked with my insurance they will cover this.

I still have not decided against having the procedure done by my regular doctor
We had the pre-op meeting already...and as I said in another thread, I do like her...We also moved the surgery up one week.

So my second opion doctor asked me to bring my records, ultrasounds and such....
I really don't want anything to weigh on my relationship with my regular doctor....so I am worried to ask for the records...

She was NOT offended when I asked all my questions, but after having had the pre-op discussion already, I feel she probably would be, if I asked for my records to go see someone else.....

Any thoughts? How can I do this without harming the existing relationship?
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Unread 09-28-2010, 10:56 PM
Re: Second opinion without upsetting first doctor...

Most doctors understand the need for a second opinion. They want you to be sure of your decisions.

I've worked with a lot of doctors, & have never heard one grumble about someone wanting a second opinion. Lots of other stuff, but never that. LOL
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Unread 09-29-2010, 06:37 AM
Re: Second opinion without upsetting first doctor...

I agree with Drafter... in fact my new gyn said that we could put my surgery on hold if I wanted to seek out a second opinion. He wanted me to be 100% comfortable before going ahead with the surgery.

If a doctor gets annoyed about your desire to seek a second opinion....it would leave me wondering how much the doctor values me as a patient. A hysterectomy is a "no going back" surgery. You need to be 100% certain that you are doing what is right for you....if a second opinion (or even 3rd opinion) will offer you that piece of mind, I say go for it.
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Unread 09-29-2010, 07:49 AM
Re: Second opinion without upsetting first doctor...

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Originally Posted by Snow_White View Post
I agree with Drafter... in fact my new gyn said that we could put my surgery on hold if I wanted to seek out a second opinion. He wanted me to be 100% comfortable before going ahead with the surgery.

If a doctor gets annoyed about your desire to seek a second opinion....it would leave me wondering how much the doctor values me as a patient. A hysterectomy is a "no going back" surgery. You need to be 100% certain that you are doing what is right for you....if a second opinion (or even 3rd opinion) will offer you that piece of mind, I say go for it.
I totally agree. If your doctor is offended, it's time to get an new doctor. It's your health that is important, not the doc's feelings.
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Unread 09-29-2010, 08:14 AM
Re: Second opinion without upsetting first doctor...

If you feel like you need a second opinion, get it. It's your body and your decision. Your first doctor will understand. Surgery is a big deal and who's going to perform it is also.

I'm actually having my 2nd opinion doctor perform my DVPH in a couple of weeks. I really liked my first doctor and discussed various solutions with him. But, when attempted to have ablation done, he made a boo boo and poked a hole in my uterus. I continued to see him for a year after that. But, decided to go with another doc for my surgery. The information I gather between the two doctors were the same, which made me feel a little more certain about my decision.

Good luck. You're in the driver's seat, not your doctor(s).
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Unread 09-29-2010, 09:13 AM
Re: Second opinion without upsetting first doctor...

Yes, my doc actually TOLD me to get a second opinion! I respect that so much. Now my doc and the oncologist/surgeon will be doing my surgery as a team. I'm very lucky to have them both.
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Unread 09-29-2010, 12:20 PM
Re: Second opinion without upsetting first doctor...

By all means do get a second opinion. I did and it was the smartest move I made. The 2nd Dr. I saw performs the davinci robotic surgery and spared me from having a open abdominal vertical incision. If the hospital your Dr. is affiliated with dont have the robot they wont tell you about this new method of performing TAH's. The best thing about it is that it can be preformed on complex cases. For example if you have and enlarged uterus from fribroids, scar tissue from previous surgeries, severe endometreosis, cancer or prolasped bladder.
Before this technology was available these kind of cases had to be done with a open abdominal verticle incision. If you read all the threads of women who have had this type of surgery majority of them have good things to report. You may want to look at different hospitals in your area to see if they have this robot. I have noticed that the larger big city hospitals have it, due to the cost of the robot. I ended up finding a Dr. that is head of the laproscopic surgery dept. and trains other surgeons from all over the country. I asked him how many he has preformed and his answer was 900. i hope that helps
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Unread 09-29-2010, 01:22 PM
Re: Second opinion without upsetting first doctor...

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Originally Posted by moore8850 View Post
By all means do get a second opinion. I did and it was the smartest move I made. The 2nd Dr. I saw performs the davinci robotic surgery and spared me from having a open abdominal vertical incision. If the hospital your Dr. is affiliated with dont have the robot they wont tell you about this new method of performing TAH's. The best thing about it is that it can be preformed on complex cases. For example if you have and enlarged uterus from fribroids, scar tissue from previous surgeries, severe endometreosis, cancer or prolasped bladder.
Before this technology was available these kind of cases had to be done with a open abdominal verticle incision. If you read all the threads of women who have had this type of surgery majority of them have good things to report. You may want to look at different hospitals in your area to see if they have this robot. I have noticed that the larger big city hospitals have it, due to the cost of the robot. I ended up finding a Dr. that is head of the laproscopic surgery dept. and trains other surgeons from all over the country. I asked him how many he has preformed and his answer was 900. i hope that helps

While this is great, DaVinci is NOT always an alternative if you have lots of adhesion and scar tissue. I have had four previous abdominal surgeries and it is simply NOT an option for me. My doctors need to do an open abdominal procedure to simply better see what they are dealing with. ALWAYS ask if this type of surgery is good for you. It depends on each person's case. Research the various types then discuss with your doctor. Good luck!
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Unread 09-29-2010, 01:39 PM
Re: Second opinion without upsetting first doctor...

Dear all,
thank you for chiming in with suggestions and thoughts.

I had had a Myo already three years ago, that did not really fix the problems (fibroids came back). So I did my research and such back then. My doctor knows about that.
Because I have done so much research and have acknowledged I will need this hyst, I don't really need a second opinion about the hyst....
....my intention was more to hear more about other surgeons skills and optional procedures...
as she does not use the davinci...and I feel I would be a good candidate for that

In any case, I got my record release form in today and will pick them up tomorrow. I will pay to have them released to me and not another doctor...

Unfortunately the doctor I am seeing on Friday does not use the davinci either, but she has been referred to me by someone on this board and seems to be a specialist on laparoscopic hysterectomies...

We will see how that goes...

Thank you all
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Unread 09-29-2010, 09:06 PM
Re: Second opinion without upsetting first doctor...

Which ever way is made available to you, I would imagine you will feel better with your decision by having 2 opinions. As for the DVH option and lots of previous scar tissue, i would imagine it depends on the surgeon and how comfortable they are with performing A hysterectomy using the davinci method for more complex cases. As I shared before my particular Dr. has extensive experiance with DVH. Dr.'s have different opinions as well as skills. After all isn't that why we get 2nd opinions? Good Luck and Best wishes to you.
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