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Unread 11-09-2001, 07:28 PM

Hello all, I posted a few days ago when I found out my surgery date. Even though I have had several sleepless nights from horrible "surgery" dreams, I am resigned to the fact that this is the route I need to go. Some things from my one and only meeting with the surgeon have played over and over in my mind, though and I don't know how I feel about him.
1. When he first introduced himself, he asked me why I thought I needed surgery. ('s in my chart, did you read it?) I stammered and stuttered, feeling like I was about 12.
2. I had a urodynamics test done 2 years ago and didn't exactly remember the details other than the doctor told me that my bladder had a dip in it and didn't drain. This surgeon hadn't even found the results to the test in my file until I mentioned it, then told me what the results said.
3. He decided to do an exam and after that he is finally convinced I need the surgery. Both my uterus and bladder have prolapsed.
4. After the exam, we visited and agreed on procedures and he made me crazy with discussing how large (or small) I would be and the fact that it wasn't possible for him to measure my husbands size and I needed to tell him what I wanted. He stressed the importance of him knowing that moment because as he put it, I am the one that has to live with the outcome and "15 minutes after I'm done with the surgery I'll be drinking a cup of coffee and not thinking about it again".

Ok girls, I'm not a prude, but.... I was totally unprepared for this. I tried to answer the best I could but he wouldn't shut up long enough for me to really express myself. I think I conveyed the proper message, but who knows.

Pllllleeeeeaaaaase tell me it's all going to be ok!
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Unread 11-09-2001, 07:39 PM

well I understood your surgen's thoughts until he started talking about what may amount t your sig. other's concern which was not voiced by you. I thought he may be a dr who does not automatically suggest surgery immediately. This is good. Then it appears as if he may be cocky and interested in inappropriate issues, since you did not raise size as an issue. But that is only my interpretation. What matters is that YOU feel ok about him and his opinion. Sometimes when the issue is personal--like this one--we tend to be bias in our hearing--ON THE OTHER HAND--if he makes you feel at all uncomfortable--try another opinion. I had 3 and was not comfortable until the third. LISTEN TO YOURSELF. Ultimately i think you will know the answer. Best of luck.
Unread 11-09-2001, 07:48 PM

I had my first opinion by a DR that did not have much experience (I felt) and I did not feel very comfortable. She said I could only have a TAH instead of a LAVH due to the size of my uterous and fibroid.

My second opinion, however, made me feel great. My new DR knows EXACTLY what he is doing and made me fee VERY comfortable. He will be doing a LAVH and does about 200 per year. We talked for almost an hour while he explained everything and answered all of my questions. He gave me several options then told me what he would suggest to his wife, had she had my symptoms.

If you feel uncomfortable AT ALL, I think you should talk with someone else. This is a big decision and you need to be well informed and know it is right for YOU!

Good Luck and lots of

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Unread 11-10-2001, 09:24 PM

Dear Mindylou,

The vagina is very elastic & will stretch to accomodate your partner. I think the most tell-tale thing your doc said to you is: "15 minutes after I'm done with the surgery I'll be drinking a cup of coffee and not thinking about it again".

This is major surgery, and you owe it to yourself to get 2 or 3 medical opinions & have a comfort level with your doc. I hope you will consider finding one who is more compassionate.

Here is a website that gives more info about prolapse:
Get smart about your symptoms and your options, and make the best choice for YOU.

I am sending huge cyberhugs

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