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39 yrs old--Dr and husband are being stubborn about HRT. 39 yrs old--Dr and husband are being stubborn about HRT.

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Unread 07-08-2011, 12:18 PM
39 yrs old--Dr and husband are being stubborn about HRT.

I had my uterus and cervix removed in October due to fibroids and the severe blood clotting I had experienced for five years. We kept my ovaries because I was only 38 at the time. Well last Friday, I had to have emergency surgery to remove my right ovary that was twisted and causing me severe pain. We thought it was my appendix when I went to the ER the previous night. We made the decision to take my left ovary also because it was full of adhesions and we wanted to prevent another surgery.

I left the hospital with an estrogen patch. I have since done some research on HRT, and I am overwhelmed to say the least. I was not prepared to deal with this at this stage in my life, but I know it is here and I have to decide. I would like to try NOT taking any hormones to see if I really need them. I was happy to read many success stories on this site of others who went into surgical menopause and have never taken HRT.

Well today when I brought that up to my doctor, he immediately shot me down and said I NEED estrogen. He would not budge and does not know about the natural HRT. He only prescribes synthetics. Well because my husband was present, he is on the doctor's side. So now I feel stuck and confused. They both argued that my 39 year old body is in shock from losing both ovaries, and I need to take the estrogen right now.

Is there anyone out there who can help me? I feel very confused, afraid, and alone. None of my friends can relate because they are all in their thirties.

Thanks in advance for any advice/help.
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Unread 07-11-2011, 05:43 PM
Re: 39 yrs old--Dr and husband are being stubborn about HRT.

Try not to be afraid because you really have so many choices here. You can take HRT...or not. My suggestion is to start reading about hrt and surgical menopause.

You are quite young and if you had your ovaries they would have worked for another 10-15 more years so I tend to go with your Dr's opinion. It would keep your bones, heart and brain healthier longer. If you choose not to take HRT then you will see how you feel. Some women just feel hot flashes and/or some sleeplessness. But some women experience terrible anxiety, crushing depression and insomnia (that would be me) and just can't do without them.

I have always felt it is a quality of life issue taking HRT. It is a personal choice.

Best of luck making your decision!!
Unread 07-11-2011, 06:29 PM
Re: 39 yrs old--Dr and husband are being stubborn about HRT.

If it makes any difference, the estrogen in the patch is bio-identical, like what your body makes. There are many different HRT types and many are bio identical, not just the ones referred to as "bio identical creams". But this all hit you suddenly. You might consider using the patch for a while while you read up on HRT and alternatives and get more info on your choices, and plans for bone health. Then you can have some more ideas when you talk to your Dr and DH again. Then if you still decide to stop, you'll have some ideas for options, and be prepared for possible symptoms. In the end it's your decision, and you can always change your mind if a plan doesn't work. If this Dr won't at least discuss options with you, maybe another Dr would. I hope you can find the answer right for you.
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Unread 07-11-2011, 10:41 PM
Re: 39 yrs old--Dr and husband are being stubborn about HRT.

I would get another opinion. Is your doctor a gyn/oncologist?
Ask around, or look on the internet for another doctor.
You don't have to switch doctors, but see what another one has to say.

I had both ovaries removed and I am glad i did, but I am 55 and was well into menopause already.
NO SEX DRIVE or libido.
Always in a great mood now. Not many hot flashes. Difficulty sleeping helped by Benadryl 25 mg at night.

I am so sorry you are going through this so young.
Hugs to you.

Don't worry, we understand your feelings of being alone, but if you need information or reassurance, we are here.

Good luck.

I am glad that I stuck with my doctor's advice.
Unread 07-25-2011, 04:51 PM
Re: 39 yrs old--Dr and husband are being stubborn about HRT.

Hey there!
I'm also 39, I went on auto menopause at 36 after my hyst. I wasn't prescribed HRT because of the cancer risks involved and my medical history, everyone is different and yes, you should do some research upon making that dessision. For me just hot flashes, I just say my thermostat is broken, drink plenty of fluids, napkings on my purse and my spanish fan. The funny looks I get when I start sweating for no apparent reason just make me laugh. Libido is fine, have to take calcium supplements for life and keep an eye on my bone density. like I said, get informed, and if you choose to go without HRT and it doesn't work, you can always start HRT again.
Best of luck for you!!!
Unread 07-25-2011, 05:09 PM
Re: 39 yrs old--Dr and husband are being stubborn about HRT.

SD4Me -

There is a book called Sudden Menopause that was written awhile back by a young woman who had cancer and went into Sudden or Surgical Menopause due to the removal of her ovaries. I think the store here carries it. Although mine wasn't considered a premature menopause I was not perimenopausal at the time of my surgery and found it informative. She discusses various things that she did to help her systems since she couldn't do HRT because of the cancer.

It makes a difference as to your age and the potential health risks such as heart disease and osteoporosis. Here's a link from our resources area that if you browse can offer some additional insight. http://www.drn4u.com/keepovaries.htm Also check out the videos (upper right is where you'll find the tab) on Surgical Menopause and HRT.

Don't say absolutely not until you've researched the other side and then you have to make the informed decision of what risks you are willing to take. There is nothing 100% on either side but being under 40 makes a difference.

as you sort things out.
Unread 07-25-2011, 06:33 PM
Re: 39 yrs old--Dr and husband are being stubborn about HRT.

Thank you so much for your reply. I'll check out the book now.

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