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Unread 08-28-2011, 02:40 PM
Pre-Op Aug 30 Nervous/feeling isolated

My lavh is scheduled for Aug 30th. The clock is ticking. I think I've been able to pretty much get my head wrapped around this but it's still scary.
So many things to think about... the actual surgery, the recovery, then after all that.. what about me?
I guess that's where I'm at. I worried I'll somehow be different. I know, I know.. I'm still the same woman I always have been. I'm scared about being intimate later on, too.

My boyfriend is trying to be supportive but he doesn't say much. My kids are as helpful as they can be and my daughter will be taking care of me for my recovery.

I guess I've just got a lot of issues going on. I feel like people will look at me differently. Or that my bf will.
Crazy, I know.

Any one else having these crazy talks with themselves??
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Unread 08-28-2011, 03:11 PM
Re: Pre-Op Aug 30 Nervous/feeling isolated

Hey gingerbean,
My surgery is tomorrow and i have been waiting for almost two months. I have someone to take care of me and my son lives down the road so he'll do things like yard work.

But my partner and son don't seem to see this as a big deal and I'm freaking out inside! i know what you mean about feelings that this operation will change you. I'm having the hysterectomy and two other procedures to take care of pelvic floor prolapse so first there's the fear of the pain...then the worries that i won't have the same relationship intimately with my partner that i had before...then i find myself thinking that this is proof that i'm officially old. (i'll be 50 on 9/21). Logic is hard to keep hold of these days.

The things that I have plan to do to care for my self are to read my favorite authors, use some of those nice smelling lotions that people got me for xmas/birthdays, listen to some super mellow relaxation music to help me sleep, have my favorite groceries delivered, and be very forgiving and kind to myself. I hope that you have thought of some things that you can do to comfort yourself.

I hope that this doesn't make you feel worse...stay in touch and let me know how things are for you. Best of luck to you!!
Unread 08-28-2011, 03:40 PM
Re: Pre-Op Aug 30 Nervous/feeling isolated

thank you Geelee for sharing. I do feel exactly the same...I just couldn't put it into words.

I'm working on my bedroom now, spiffing it up a bit. And I'm ashamed to say I moved my stuff in there about 2 months ago and I've not really done much with it.
I anticipate moving at the end of the year.. as if that's a good excuse!!

Anywho, I'm getting my stuff ready. I've got a few books set aside to put myself to sleep with.
My daughter, bless her heart, just asked me if we were having a movie day one day next week when I'm bored but can't get out of bed yet?
What a sweetheart! Then she said..... because you don't like to be alone.. I can but you aren't good at it!!
Boy does she know me!!
I'm trying to remind myself that I have a terrible habit of borrowing trouble.
Right now, I'm very blessed to have people on here plus my family and several friends that very much care about me.
I also have to stop and think this might be scary for my kids.. even though they are stepping up and taking care of things but also scary for my bf.
So maybe they just don't know what to say.. and my acknowledging my fear and anxiety, it might force them to acknowledge their's.
I will keep you in my prayers! I wish you the best of luck, too!!
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Unread 08-28-2011, 08:37 PM
Re: Pre-Op Aug 30 Nervous/feeling isolated

I totally understand! I have really wanted to talk to someone, but who in the world would be able to sit down and listen to me talk about my uterus and "woman issues" for an hour--or more?

I know I'm doing the right thing, but I have a lot of fears and concerns. Part of me thinks twelve more days to wait is waaaay too long to wait and another part of me is screaming that it is waaaaay too soon.

I planned a week of small, low key celebrations for the days leading up to my surgery. I'm having a farewell party for my uterus with friends. I'm making myself a self-hypnosis cd to listen to and I'm going shopping for a few little treats just for me. I'm kind of looking forward to all that stuff. It's getting my mind off the harder stuff.

Good luck to you! It's nice we have hyster sisters because we have a place to talk and everyone here understands personally. Take care, friend!
Unread 08-28-2011, 08:42 PM
Re: Pre-Op Aug 30 Nervous/feeling isolated

One thing in particular that has me worried is that I'm not sure anyone is going to be able to stay with me on the night after the surgery. I know the nurses are there but I've had a really bad experience when I had my thyroid surgery.
The night shift nurse was so nasty and mean to me. Plus she left me without my meds for almost 7 hours...esp when the dr. had told her to give me any pain meds I asked for however often that I asked.
I feel like that nurse set me back. By the time I left I was still hurting and a bit soul sick.
I'm praying this time I get great nurses the whole time. And that someone will volunteer to stay with me at least for awhile to make sure I'm ok!!
Not sure about the visitor policy..this is something I should have asked.
I will ask when I go in.
This time tomorrow night I will be getting myself all psyched up!!
Unread 08-28-2011, 08:48 PM
Re: Pre-Op Aug 30 Nervous/feeling isolated

This may sound silly, but you can pray and ask for good nurses who can care for you in the way you will need. If you are going to be sharing a room, you can ask for a roommate who will be good company in just the way you need it. God knows all your feelings and fears and he loves you and wants you to be well cared for.
Unread 08-28-2011, 09:03 PM
Re: Pre-Op Aug 30 Nervous/feeling isolated

Hi Gingerbean

My surgery is on 30th too. I'm also really anxious now. I am already hoping the nurses will be a good bunch. I've previously had nurses who are horrendous and have been left in agony screaming for pain meds.

I don't do well on my own, I like to have people with me. I go in on Tuesday morning and know that I won't be having any family visiting till Wed evening. At my hospital visiting is only 1 and half hours in afternoon, then another 1 and half hours in evening. I'm due to spend between 4 and 6 days there.

I wish you well for these upcoming days, and I'm sure I'll catch up with you on the post op forum.

Take care x x s
Unread 08-28-2011, 09:08 PM
Re: Pre-Op Aug 30 Nervous/feeling isolated

Shell..I hope that while you are there you get to rest! I'm only going to be in 1 day maybe 2. Most likely 1.
I'm very lucky there! I think the visiting hours for me are 8am to 8pm. And I'm pretty sure it could be exhausting, so I'm sure that is the reason for the short hours where you are!
I will pray that we both get good nurses!!

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