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But I feel fine today - Am I in denial? But I feel fine today - Am I in denial?

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Unread 09-15-2011, 06:49 AM
Re: But I feel fine today - Am I in denial?

I have a pre-cancer diagnosis and have never had any pain. I've had a lot of denial about needing the hysterectomy and want to believe that just making life changes can turn the diagnosis around and cancel the hysterectomy.

Every couple days I bring up this conversation with my husband again and again.. Do I really need this surgery? Maybe I have healed myself?

I think some of it is quite natural. There's no pain so everything must be ok. In my case, if I wait for pain to make my decision, many other organs will have become infiltrated with cancer and simply removing an organ will no longer be the solution. For me, it is best to remove the infected organ now while all the bad news is contained.

Best of luck,
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Unread 09-25-2011, 11:08 AM
Re: But I feel fine today - Am I in denial?

Thanks to everyone who has replied to me. I haven't been on here lately because I had a bit of a setback that made me quite sick. I had an allergic reaction - and nobody knows to what - that left me with hives, huge areas of red, raised skin, and then it got into my GI tract, causing me to vomit over and over. It seems to be fading, although my skin is still quite sensitive. Had my pre-op last week and everything is a go. Weird thing is that I haven't had a period for over 40 days! My last cycle was 14 days! Pain off and on...when I have pain, that's when I tell myself that this surgery is indeed necessary. Still nervous, but feeling better that the date is very soon (just 5 more days) and it will be over and done with.
Unread 09-25-2011, 12:17 PM
Re: But I feel fine today - Am I in denial?

I'm so sorry to hear what you've been going through! I did enjoy reading everyone's responses to your question, so thank you for posting it. Good Luck with everything. I'll pray you have a uneventful surgery and easy recovery. Take care!
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Unread 09-25-2011, 01:11 PM
Re: But I feel fine today - Am I in denial?

I am so glad this subject was brought up. I feel the same way. I have been going back and forth with my decision to have a hysterectomy or not.
My periods have always been heavy but with little or no pain until recently. About 6 moths ago I had my second eptopic pregnancy (not planned pregnancy) and had to have surgery to remove it.

Needless to say, my right tube is damged. I was told not to get pregnant again because more than likely it would be another eptopic.

I was fine with that as I already have 5 children and did not plan on anymore.

Ever since my surgery my periods have gotten heavier and I have pain on one side. The pain is not unbearable and only last about a day and now my periods seem to last 10-14 days.

My gyn went over all my options but recommended a TVH. I agreed, but later changed it to a SAH after doing some research.

My surgery is in 9 days and Im still not 100% sure I wont change my mind at the last minute.

Its so hard to know for sure that Im making the right choice. I keep asking my self "are the benefits going to out weigh the risks?"

Im so glad that I found this website, it has been so helpful to me. Its so great to know that I am not alone.
Unread 09-25-2011, 01:32 PM
Re: But I feel fine today - Am I in denial?

I can also relate. My surgery is scheduled the same day as gigiprof. I looked at my abdomen yesterday and thought, it seems to be getting a little smaller. I realised that it is because I'm at the end of my cycle.

Years ago, my cycles would last 8-10 days, stopping at day 4 and returning on day 6! the number of days subsided, it then turned into heavy flows where I didn't want to go anywhere.
I also had to deal with nausea as soon as I started ovulating. Within a year and a half, my fibroids have grown to the size of a 19wk uterus.
I am so looking forward to feeling at my best.
The final straw was when a couple of strangers asked me at different locations, "when are you due?" it's not a good look for me. I'm 5'3 small everywhere else except right in the middle. We women go through so much..
Unread 09-25-2011, 08:10 PM
Re: But I feel fine today - Am I in denial?

Im there, too! Every morning I think..hmmm, no cramps today..and then I stop focusing on it..and there they are. Aching and makine me tense and frustrated.

Everyday since I made the decision for surgery I keep waiting for the cramps to stop so I can make the call to cancel. Finally, a few days ago I just let it go and started planning and focusing on the surgery. No more "hassles" from down there. I bought new Pj's and a robe for the hospital, a zebra pillow pet to match my robe, LOL! I bought a belly bandit binder and have started my "must have" list from all the suggestions from members here. I get to spend time at home, doing puzzles, painting, reading, instead of putting out fires at the office everyday.

I just had to let it go and shift my focus and accept my decision. Focus on packing and planning. It's really helped me tremendously.

I have a few GF's that have had hysterectomies and they all say, you'll be glad you did.

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