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Unread 09-15-2011, 12:08 AM
Need some advice about work situation-need to vent

Hi Ladies,
I need some advice before I open my mouth at work...
Here is some background: I have endo, which interferes with my work sometimes because I can't alway go in, and sometimes I do go in but don't perform up to my own standards because i am in pain. I am a hard worker though, and I dont call out more than say 5 times a year. I have worked for the same company since 99. I am an asst. mng of a rest, so there isn't any such thing as sick time etc. Luckily for me, my husband works for the same company, and can usually cover for me. So, my current supervisor has been encouraging me to get a hyst for about 4 years now, and when I say encourage I mean telling me to just hurry up and f***ing get one, because otherwise I'll never get better, and so on. Also always says how she got a hyst and it worked for her so of course it will work for me. This is the same boss who called me a blanking whimp after my last lap because I wasn't able to return to work 2 days after- I was still in pain and could barely walk. So obviously I know my boss is a jerk, but thats no surprise.
Well,I finally am scheduled for a hyst- not because she wants me to, but because my doctor does and I do, and now my boss is going around telling my co-workers I should have waited until January when we are slower, that i didn't really need it now and i am bsing selfish, and it is such an inconvience to her because she wants to take a vacation. Whats worse is I am sure she is saying this same thing to the boss above her, the person who promoted me to traveling manager, and the person who does my reviews. She announced at a managers meeting (30+ people) the other day, does anyone want to cover meredith for 4-5 months, because she is having surgery, and then of course everyone wants to know what kind etc- and it wont be 5 months she just wants to make me sound like a schmuck (sp?) I have several problems with this sit. and I really want to say something to her or tell the district manager. Unfortunatly my response would probably sound like a drunken sailor because I am so angry every time i talk about it I start swearing. So should I say something to her or our direct boss, or not? My surgery is scheduled for monday, I gave my work a months notice- which is all I had. I am not cancelling it. At the same time I cannot loose my insurance right now, so I don't want to shoot off at the mouth and end up unemployed, but I really don't want to let her walk all over me. And you know the best thing about my boss- she lied- she never had a hysterectomy. She did have an ovary removed and I am not in any way diminishing the seriousness of that- but dont try and pressure me to so something by lying to me, then give me a hard time when I do it. I am really upset about the whole sit. I talked to my friend tonight on the phone and started crying. I have worked for this company since I was sixteen and it hurts to realize how little some people actually care.
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Unread 09-15-2011, 12:19 AM
Re: Need some advice about work situation-need to vent

I'm so sorry your manager is doing this to you.

Do you have an HR department you can go to other than to the direct boss? Or perhaps you can write a letter instead of talking diredtly due to how angry it is making you?
Unread 09-15-2011, 12:25 AM
Re: Need some advice about work situation-need to vent

We do have HR, but is a joke- one person who will call my boss and tell her I "told on her" the end. As far a the letter idea, I have thought about this, but feel if I address my boss directly she will just make my life hell and try to get me fired. She is a control freak who always has to be right, even when she knows she isnt. That is why I thought of the next person up the totem pole so to speak, really dont want to loose my job- although my mom is encouraging me to look around- just seems like bad time to do so with so many other things going on. Anyway- thanks for the Huggs and support- that is definitely needed right now.

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