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Unread 10-06-2011, 12:29 AM
Re: who should be there during surgery?

I had my husband there with me, and my parents came to visit for like 20 minutes- which was plenty. I really did appreciate my husband being there because I hate hospitals- he stayed the whole time. While I appreciated the thought behind my parents visiting, I wasnt really in the best state right after surgery, physically or emotionally, and I ended up scaring them a little. I almost wished they hadnt come because I felt bad worrying them, but they brought my DH out to dinner and that gave him a break, and they probably would have worried more if they hadnt seen me. Plus they brought me a whoopie pie lol. Overall though, that many people would freak me out, I was definitely not up for it, and I actually did tell a young woman I work with that even though I appreciated her caring enough to want to visit, I probably wouldnt be up for it for a few days. I felt bad, but I really wasnt comfortable with her seeing me in the hospital all white and pasty and yucky. Totally up to you though, whatever you are comfortable with is whats important
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Unread 10-06-2011, 09:40 AM
Re: who should be there during surgery?

Thanks for all the replies everyone! I do feel like that would be too many people there. I know that my mother loves me and is worried, but she doesn't do well with crowds and rarely leaves the house because of it. I would be worried about her instead of concentrating on getting better. My friends are sweet, but the only ones that I truly want there are my daughters, my DH-, and my SIL. We only found out this past December that I also have lupus so getting my daughters to leave my side is like fighting a war alone. It's not a winning situation but I love them for it. I'm going to tell everyone else that my DH or the girls can call them when I feel up to it.
Unread 10-06-2011, 10:03 AM
Re: who should be there during surgery?

That sounds like the best idea. It's wonderful that you have so many worried about your welfare - but glad that your visitors will be limited.
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Unread 10-06-2011, 12:28 PM
Re: who should be there during surgery?

in all my surgeries I have only wanted my husband there.
Things can get messy with blood and fluids. not to mention the tummy upsets.
I always had others come when I felt a little better... later in the evening or the next day.
Now I may have my sister come over if my husband has to work a little that day. He runs his own business and may need to meet one of his agent to help them on something. I like having someone there to help so I do not have to always call the nurse...
It is a personal choice and if they are good friends they will understand...
I know mine do...

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