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Unread 10-15-2011, 02:39 PM
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HEY - good news Albanese07,

I was thinking that you might consider day care for the little ones for a couple of weeks, but if you are going to have help, that's good.

I know my husband gets a bit surly when he's confused, concerned or scared. He thinks it's his job to be strong all the time. Sweet, but occasionally annoying.

There is a link under the 'Support' Tab - For Men. There is a "Mr. Hystersister" site that has a lot of info for husbands, family and friends.

I see you go in the day before me. Hoping you the very best and a speedy recovery.


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Unread 10-15-2011, 02:49 PM
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Hugs to you too! My husband and I did talk it out- he's scared for me is all! I'm praying I have enough help. My mil is having breathing problems now so I hope she can still help! But I have friends and a sil nearby. My husbands taking off work for a few days. God willing it will all work out! I've been switched to a davinchi so I'm only going to be overnight in the hospital which I'm happy about but still wish my hospital stay would be a little longer!
Unread 10-15-2011, 03:07 PM
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Originally Posted by tennessee70 View Post
I guess I must be the exact opposite of some. I do not want help. I just told my extended family that I would be having surgery. Then to my horror, I discovered my husband told his mother and sister, with whom I am not close, that I am having a hysterectomy. This is my business and they need to know nothing. I am very angry. This is private. They will do nothing anyway, so,there was no reason to tell them.
Tennessee 70,

I've always been pretty self sufficient too and I can understand your anger, but please understand you are not going through this alone. Your husband has his own fears and perhaps his mother and sister provide him with support. You may not be close to them (I couldn't stand my former in-laws), but he is.
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Unread 10-15-2011, 03:47 PM
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Telling them surgery is one thing, but details are another. Simply surgery for pain was enough. It is embarassing and now I feel lije everyone will know bc they will tell others.
Unread 10-15-2011, 09:25 PM
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I am having my husband take off once I get home for a few days. Also I have started freezing meals and putting directions on them. I hope to have the freezer full before my surgery date so my 17 year old son can start dinner for the weeks after my surgery. I know the feeling. I have no help. zip. Tell your hubby he is needed at your preop appt and give the doc a heads up. Good luck I hope it all goes smoothly for you.
Unread 10-15-2011, 09:31 PM
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Thanks! I already had my pre op and hubby didn't come because our son was sick so he had to stay with him. I'm still worried about having not enough help! I guess that's where faith comes in! I have some people to call if it gets really bad. I ordered a grabber tool tonight so that I don't have to bend too much. 6 weeks seems like a long time to be in recovery but I think the first 2 will be the hardest. If I can just get through that I think I'll be ok!

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