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Will he still see me the same?? Will he still see me the same??

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Unread 10-13-2011, 09:22 AM
Will he still see me the same??

I have an upcoming TAH on Oct 28th. I am really concerned after I have no parts left on the inside, if my husband will see me the same. I have spoken to him and he says nothing will change, but I don't know if he would tell me or if he even knows for sure if he would at this point or not. I wonder sometimes if I worry about this because I am going to see myself differently, if I am somehow going to be less of a woman than I was before. I know that those parts are not what makes us women, but it does feel to me like I am loosing some of my femininity. I am sure this sounds completely crazy, but this is just one of the things running through my mind that I needed to get off my chest.
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Unread 10-13-2011, 09:35 AM
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So sorry you are feeling this way, sweetie. I can tell you that I had some of the same thoughts before my surgery. I really think your husband is telling you the truth...he will not look at you any different after the surgery.

Yes, our uterus, cervix, and ovaries are part of what makes us women, but it does not DEFINE us as women.

You will not even be able to tell that anything is missing once you have healed and chances are you are going to feel so much better when this is all over.

Just try to remember that your husband didn't fall in love with your uterus and he didn't marry your uterus......he fell in love with you and he married YOU!!

Keep your chin up sweetie...everything will be fine and you and your husband will probably be closer than you ever have been. I know that is how it was for me.
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
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Unread 10-13-2011, 09:44 AM
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Hi Traci-
I am having some of the same worries. My surgery is Oct. 27 th. I wish you the best and will keep you in my prayers.
Pat
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Unread 10-13-2011, 09:48 AM
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Thanks for the support ladies! I know to some it seems silly to worry about things like this, when there are some things so much more important when undergoing this surgery. I guess I am worried about the small things cause I am just not ready to deal with the big issues...

Chasity
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Unread 10-13-2011, 09:52 AM
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I think when you are under anesthesia and don't have any control, its a bit scary. It doesn't seem like a small thing to me.
Pat
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Unread 10-13-2011, 09:54 AM
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It's not silly at all and you are not the only one who has had this fear....what you are going through is very valid and has happened to the best of us

Just try to think positive and focus on the good that will come from it!
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Unread 10-13-2011, 09:55 AM
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It does not sound crazy to be thinking like this. But when you really really think about it..... we still have all the parts that men want or probably even care about. I honestly don't think they sit there and think "oh no my wife doesn't have a uterus or ovaries anymore"....if you know what I mean! lol The only thing I lost is all the pain and bleeding and other miserable symptoms. Now THAT'S what puts a damper on the love life! Best wishes Woman!! lol
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Unread 10-13-2011, 09:57 AM
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Its good to think you all don't think our men or partners worry about our missing parts.
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Unread 10-13-2011, 09:57 AM
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Originally Posted by dee2827 View Post
It does not sound crazy to be thinking like this. But when you really really think about it..... we still have all the parts that men want or probably even care about. I honestly don't think they sit there and think "oh no my wife doesn't have a uterus or ovaries anymore"....if you know what I mean! lol The only thing I lost is all the pain and bleeding and other miserable symptoms. Now THAT'S what puts a damper on the love life! Best wishes Woman!! lol
SO TRUE....so true!!! I am pretty sure that I have never heard my husband say....I just love your uterus...or your cervix is beautiful!!
Very good way to look at things...you will still have everything he wants!! (and you will feel better, which I'm sure is very important to him too)!!
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Unread 10-13-2011, 10:56 AM
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My husband n I deal with things with humor n I asked him the same question, he replied "well duh, when I met u I thought, wow check out that uterus, I want marry that cervix and spend the rest of my life with those ovaries." I laughed so hard tears were coming out of my eyes. He also told me that men dont really think about our internal woman parts except when he wants it and can't cause of my period. try not to worry about that, he loves u, not your uterus. : )
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