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Unread 10-18-2011, 01:41 PM
Re: *THIS* close to backing out! Help!

Inlash2, thanks so much for your reply! I'm getting more and more encouraged with each positive report I read here! The fact that you still feel "like a woman" makes me even more reassured, as I have worried that having this done would totally mess with my head (and hormones) and make me feel a-sexual. Even stuff I read here was talking about how even if a woman kept her ovaries, she would probably suffer hormonal disturbances after partial hysterectomy and would become less interested in sex. I'd hate to see that happen. I'm not a young woman (am 47), but am still basically a "newlywed" (been married for 5 years now to the most wonderful man EVER!) and hate like everything that I'm putting him through this stress and to think that it could get worse with me having lack of desire and/or mood swings, etc. was making me feel even worse. So thanks for your positive report. So glad your experience was a positive one and that you're recovering well! Thanks again for your help!
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Unread 10-18-2011, 01:47 PM
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Whirlygig, thanks for your post. So sorry you're having to wait until December! This waiting 'til November for me is killing me. Right now it's the worst part of all of it. I consider myself a feminist and have looked around online and read some books and articles written by and for women and see a general pattern of "don't do it" put out there by female dr.'s and it just scares me, because there's this whole "conspiracy theory" attitude out there that if a woman is doing this, she's somehow being duped by the medical community into having totally unnecessary surgery. I know that there ARE unnecessary hysterectomies performed, but ALL of them? They're ALL unnecessary? I'm also seeing a lot of anti-hysterectomy stuff on sites that are supposed to be FOR WOMEN saying how you can shrink hormones "naturally" through supplements, but I just don't know about all of that. I've been carrying this thing around forever and have waited for at least 2 years to see if things got better or worse, really playing a waiting game and putting off what is probably the inevitable. If I lived in an area where there were lots of facilities and procedures and medical practitioners to choose from, maybe I would check into other methods, but as it is, I'm in rural America with only 1 gyn in our 2 county local area. I travel to a more metropolitan area to my gyn, over an hour away, and have faith in him. (It just concerns me as he's getting older now and I don't want him to make some sort of mistake due to his age.) Meanwhile, he did perform a tubal on me back in '99 and I had great success with that and just am going to trust that he will do a good job with me. All of the info I've been reading has, up to this point, been pretty scary, but now I'm hearing/reading POSITIVE things for a change, from women who have been there/done that. So thank you so much for helping make me feel less panicky. Now, if I can just patiently wait for November! Take care!
Unread 10-18-2011, 01:51 PM
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Bingokiten, good luck to you on the 25th! I just want mine to be over with now. In just the last day, the responses and encouragement I've received here have made a WORLD of difference. I'm still scared and not looking forward to this, but think now that maybe I WILL survive this and be able to have a normal life. Thanks for clearing up the question about "swelly belly." When I had my tubal back in 1999, I was told by some nurse friends (who had also had tubals) that I would be swollen and painful due to the gas that would be put inside me in order to help facilitate the surgery. I had a little pain, but no real swelling and no pain like they said I would. I recovered nicely and it was one of the best things I'd ever done (and easiest!) I realize that this is much more involved, but hope that I have a positive experience in spite of it all.

I wish you all the luck in the world with your surgery! Please be sure to let all of us know how you make out, okay? Take care and thanks again!
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Unread 10-18-2011, 01:58 PM
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BarbBohr, thanks so much for your reply and insight! I've actually gotten kind of ticked off at so much negative stuff being put out there about hysterectomies "in the interest of women." Yes, I'm sure there are those out there who DO want to help women...but a lot of it is also geared toward selling some other type of product/procedure or book and all it has wound up doing to me is scaring the crap out of me! I have to wonder how many other women are out there just like me who are faced with this, just want some honest answers (no, I'm not asking for just pretty pictures and positive reports), and wind up just getting terrified of all the things that can go wrong. My dr.'s nurse told me a few weeks ago, when we were scheduling the surgery, that she had talked to many women who had had hysterectomies who told her "I had no idea how badly I was feeling until I had this done, I feel so much better now." That sounds like what you were describing and I can only hope that it becomes my story as well. I don't have bad periods or bleeding, but carry around a more or less constant lower back ache and sciatic pain, along with bladder pressure and a pelvic heaviness, worse at some times of the month than others. Info like what you're sharing here is helping me become less nervous and more "okay" with the decision I've made...well, rather, the decision that my body has made. Like you, I feel like other factors have brought me to this point...my hormonal issues more or less backed me into a corner of saying "uncle" and agreeing to this procedure. Maybe then, if I need to, I can do HRT to alleviate those symptoms some without feeding the fibroid. Either way, I guess this is the way I'm going to have to go. Thanks for sharing your story and the info from your research and experience. Glad it all went positively for you and that you continue in your healing experience!
Unread 10-18-2011, 02:57 PM
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I, like you, was freaking out the weeks and up until two days before surgery. I wasn't afraid of the surgery, but didn't know if I was making the right decision. I was diagnosed with severe anemia, which led to a hysteroscopy where my doctor found fibroids, a polyp and atypical cells. Given my risk factors, she was concerned that the cells would progress to cancer and recommended hysterectomy. I sought two other opinions, both agreed with her diagnosis and one said that I could pursue hormone therapy for 6 months and then biopsy again. My problem was that I spent every waking moment searching the internet for more solutions. I was manic about it. I wasn't concentrating on anything else and it was difficult to work. But even after all I read I decided that I couldn't spend the next 6 months (or more if the biopsy was clear) stressing over it. I had the surgery 3 weeks ago yesterday and it was a piece of cake. My surgeon performed it laproscopically, removing my uterus, cervix and one set of fallopian tubes, through the daVinci method. My surgery started at 9 a.m. and I was in my room at 2:30. I was walking the halls at 6:00. The nurse gave me a little medication at midnight and I slept until 5:00 a.m. and was back walking by 5:30. (I had no medication in the hospital after that.) Due to a glitch with the computer in processing my release, I didn't get home until noon on Tuesday. I took Motrin before bed and only infrequently after that and nothing after Wednesday. Thursday I walked a mile in the neighborhood. I woke up on Monday, 1 week after surgery and felt like I did before surgery. Absolutely no pain, nothing other than 4 small incisions to remind me I had surgery. I started back to work that day (I work from home) and worked 10 hours (walking 1 mile at lunch.) I continue to feel great and was cleared to ride my bike again at my two week follow up. I rode over 20 miles this weekend -- 18 days post. I'm not tired, no emotional issues, nothing. I asked if that's normal and my doctor said that I'm at the top end of goods results achieved with this method. Other family members I've spoken with that had abdominal surgeries can't believe my recovery. So much for being anxious! Best of luck in your decision.
Unread 10-18-2011, 03:04 PM
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Thanks, readytocruise! Your experience sounds awesome! I know mine will be a little more complicated in that I'm not having laproscopic surgery (that's how my tubal was done...piece of cake!) and will have my abdomen cut...but hope that by being relatively healthy and in relative good shape, I'll have a smooth recovery. I am scheduled to go in for a 7:30 am surgery on a Monday morning and am told I'll leave the hospital on a Wednesday. Hopefully all will go well and as according to schedule. Do you still have your ovaries? My dr. said he'd leave mine, as he doesn't believe in taking healthy ones (as as far as we can tell, mine are okay.) Right now I'm still nervous, but am feeling better with every positive report (like yours) that I read here! Thanks so much for helping me! I only hope that I can return the favor once my surgery is over, by passing on some helpful info and encouragement to others. Glad to hear your procedure went so well and that your recovery has been so smooth! Thanks!
Unread 10-18-2011, 04:30 PM
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I wish you well with your surgery. I think that attitude is 99%of the success of the recovery and sounds like you'll come out just fine.
Unread 10-18-2011, 05:12 PM
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Yep, it's hard to stay positive sometimes, but just gotta keep hanging in there and I just had to trust what my dr says and go with it
Unread 10-18-2011, 11:52 PM
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Hello all. This is my first post on this site. I will have my surgery in Dec. or Jan. and this is the third time my doc is scheduling me (over 5 years), because I've backed out in the past for fear and for work (too busy to take care of myself). Because I backed out, I've had to endure years of retesting, CT Scans, biopsies, ultra sounds, paps galore, etc., etc., to monitor my condition. Finally I'm convinced and so tired of all the retests. So it's time for me. What a pain and mental worry it has been for me with these tests. I'm relieved, but I too am frightened, especially by reading all that can go wrong, but it is good to be prepared. I realize I will have a unique experience that may or may not have combinations of problems listed on many websites. I wish for us all a good experience and am glad I have this site to share stories and support with.
Unread 10-19-2011, 11:38 AM
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Hi again Raquel2b ... I am so glad to see many weight trainers out there like me. Do you ever get that session where you are feel that you are the strongest you have ever been ... and you have to stop. Well, that's where I will be too. At 47 I have a reasonably small waist and flat stomach - how vain that I am grieving losing my body! I am having a laproscopic uterus removal but that can all change since I don't see the surgeon until the end of the month. I feel my dr. is "sugar coating" the reality because of all of my "freak outs". I stopped working out because I figure "what's the point - this will all end soon". I just spoke with my trainer that said "take a light class - just GET HERE!" ... people have real issues to deal with and I am worried about losing energy, hair, have dry skin and my looks. You would think the person writing this must be a 25 year old beauty queen (so not)! Oh that's right ... its for my health ... must keep that in mind.

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