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Unread 10-20-2011, 11:14 PM
Wondering about time off work for husband + ...

Hey Ladies,

I go in for TAH on a Tuesday afternoon and the doctor says I may be home as early as Thursday, but most likely Friday. My husband plans to be home for me through the weekend, but we were thinking he could go back to work on Monday.

He works at our local high school and our daughter attends there, too. The both leave around 7:00 am and I would be alone until 2:45. It would be for 3 days until the Thanksgiving break then they would be home again for another 4 days.

This sounded reasonable to me, but now I'm wondering if this is too optimistic. Thoughts?

We've also been invited to have Thanksgiving with friends. Would a 30 minute drive and an afternoon at friends (they would let me crash in the guest room if necessary) 10 days post surgery be pushing it?

Any recommendations out there?
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Unread 10-20-2011, 11:22 PM
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I had a TAH in July on a tuesday and went home on Saturday. You are going to NEED ALL the help you can get. I sent my hubby packing to work and realized I needed him more than ever. You are NOT to be on your feet as told by the nurse. Yeah, you should get up a bit, but don't overextend yourself. Major surgery is no joke. I'm still recovering. went back to work 6 weeks ago, but still have to take it easy. If you don't, your body will definitely let you know.
Unread 10-20-2011, 11:27 PM
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Thanks bindyben,

I don't plan on being very active, and maybe not active at all - just camping on the couch with sole control of the remote control. Didn't think I would need him to watch me watching chick flix and napping, but 8 hours is starting to seem like a long time.
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Unread 10-21-2011, 04:45 AM
Re: Wondering about time off work for husband + ...

well im getting my surgery on a tuesday,hopefully home wed afternnon and then DH goes back to work on thursday,will be left alone with 3 dogs, 2 that want to be on my bed and need to be picked up to get there and yes they are both over 10 lbs, guess what they are gonna learn to hang out on the rug l
DH leaves at 5 in the morning and gets home around 3:30, im hoping my dad, and my dear friend will stop by and just check on me
Unread 10-21-2011, 06:16 AM
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Well, I had a TAH/BSO and I live on my own. I had 5 days in hospital, and then, apart from my brother checking in on me once a day, I managed on my own for about 4 days before my sister and BIL visited from another city. Although they didn't stay with me, but with their son and family, they spent some of the day with me and helped out with housework, gardening etc.
After 10 days, they went home and I was on my own again except for a daily visit (or phone call) from my brother, and got a neighbour to vacuum for me, but I was within easy walking distance from a supermarket so each day I went there and bought a couple of items within my carrying limit.
I coped very well, like this, started driving at 4 weeks, and now after 7 weeks have had a week of work doing half days.
I think you will cope just fine being alone for a while each day, unless you have some disability on top of your surgery.

I'm NOT saying it's a walk in the park! But if you rest and don't try to do any of the forbidden things, you'll get by!
Unread 10-21-2011, 07:41 AM
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Grandmallie - Sounds reasonable and I thought so to until I started reading some other posts.

Acey - Thanks - I needed that reminder - that not all of us have family at home to help.

Chalk it up to a mild panic attack?
Unread 10-21-2011, 09:28 AM
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I found with my last knee surgery (I've had 4), I didn't want to get up because it hurt too much, so I'd go hours without eating, so when I finally did get up, I'd get really dizzy. So, I started getting my hubby to pack an ice chest with snacks, a sandwich and a few bottles of water, so I could eat without having to go downstairs. Then, the only thing I had to get up for was to go to the bathroom. I plan on doing the same thing with my hysterectomy. Maybe that will help you too.
Unread 10-21-2011, 10:18 AM
Re: Wondering about time off work for husband + ...

I had a TAH mid July, surgery on a Tuesday, home from hospital Thursday night. I really needed assistance for about the first three or four days but then I was able to do more little things. I do remember that I didn't want to stand for very long so making meals was out for a couple of weeks. We made sure to have food prepared so when no one was home to assist, I could just grab something easy for lunch and snacks. Also, I was cleared to drive at 2.5 weeks unless it hurt and it did hurt, like crazy! I didn't start driving until 3.5 weeks and then only shorter distances for a few days. You might want to make sure someone is available to drive you places during the day (post-op check ups, etc) for the first couple of weeks. I had to scramble for someone to drive me to my first post-op appt when my partner had to go on a sudden business trip, and that added extra stress. Good luck, I'm sure you'll do great!

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