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Knowing that everyone's different -- how long til most feel perfectly normal? Knowing that everyone's different -- how long til most feel perfectly normal?

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Unread 11-18-2011, 01:44 PM
Knowing that everyone's different -- how long til most feel perfectly normal?

I know everyone's going to be a little different, but I'm wondering at what point most women start to forget that they had major surgery? Where you're physically feeling perfectly normal (or better than normal, for those who were struggling?). Resuming all "normal" activities, not worrying about over-doing it, etc...?
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Unread 11-18-2011, 07:14 PM
Re: Knowing that everyone's different -- how long til most feel perfectly normal?

I'm 17 weeks and I haven't reached that point yet, unfortunately.
Unread 11-18-2011, 09:01 PM
Re: Knowing that everyone's different -- how long til most feel perfectly normal?

I don't want to scare you, but from what I understand it can 6 to 9 to 12 months before you feel "normal". This is very major surgery - from what I was told the only thing more major is open heart surgery.

I am at 6 months now and do not feel normal. My stamina is not as it was before surgery. I also still can have minor pains, pulling sensations, etc., during stressful times and when I am busy at work. I will probably be in the 12-month group before I feel "normal".
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Unread 11-18-2011, 09:10 PM
Re: Knowing that everyone's different -- how long til most feel perfectly normal?

A friend told me about the open heart thing, I hadn't heard it before this week. Kind of intimidating... I've got a very active lifestyle, including distance running, lots of work with children and infants (outside of my own); up until this week I've been telling people "I'll be out for 6 weeks, but back at it in January!" I'm starting to think that may have been to ambitious. I honestly don't know if my running partners will understand if I'm not running 3 "short" miles with them in my 7th week post-op. The more mentally prepared I can be for healing duration, the better. I appreciate your honest responses.

Can I ask about sex? Is sex at all "normal" yet? I worry about (tmi) the rough-and-tumble times, and am assuming that won't be what we are doing for awhile, after I'm cleared...?
Unread 11-18-2011, 09:27 PM
Re: Knowing that everyone's different -- how long til most feel perfectly normal?

You will be restricted from sexual activity for about six weeks, if not longer. That probably also includes external stimulation.

This will be one activity where I think there will be a "new normal". Because I had a TAH BSO (total hysterectomy with both ovaries removed), we now need lubrication. My natural lubrication is no longer active - not unusual for TAH women. My orgasms are not as intense - I miss the muscle contraction of my uterus/cervix. But, they are more frequent - very interesting and strange. Who knows what the body does? My libido is not as strong as it used to be - but, again, I am just 6 months post-op.

I would say rough and tumble won't happen for a while for you. The tissues will be tender and you will be sore. Your energy levels will be degraded for some time.

Unread 11-18-2011, 10:48 PM
Re: Knowing that everyone's different -- how long til most feel perfectly normal?

Sex is different after surgery and takes a little patience after your doctor clears you. I was cleared at 8 weeks and we first tried at 9 weeks. I was sore inside (but not painful) so we stopped and waited a week. A few weeks later we had sex three times in two days and I paid dearly for that all week long at work so we took another week off. It takes a while to get comfortable again and lose the fear of hurting your vaginal cuff. I have noticed no change in my natural lubrication and DH says it feels just the same to him. Like marestail, I very much miss the intensity of the uterine contractions during orgasm. The big o is still there just not as big. *Big sigh* all I can do adjust. It is better with my cervix gone because I had scarring and it hurt when DH bumped it.
Unread 11-19-2011, 07:36 AM
Re: Knowing that everyone's different -- how long til most feel perfectly normal?

I am 7 months post op and I have to say I feel really 100% back to normal like nothing ever happened. I started taking Premarin two weeks postop. I'm 44 and I was in quite good shape before surgery.

After sign-off for sex at 10 weeks, I had vaginal dryness issues which were easily resolved by lube and found orgasm not as strong. But, that all came back to normal after a couple of months. My boyfriend said that he could feel where my cervix used to be -- that it felt almost like hitting a hard knuckle. He says that this has recovered normally by now too. My doctor does recommend that I still try to avoid very deep penetration until the one year point, but I must admit that I haven't really followed that.

I started back at the gym after 10 weeks as well and had no issues with stamina. For a couple of months, I did get occasional soreness on my right side, but that's gone by now as well

So, really, everyone is different. In general, they say that it can take up to a full year before you feel completely normal.
Unread 11-19-2011, 11:38 AM
Re: Knowing that everyone's different -- how long til most feel perfectly normal?

Everyone is different. I had a TAH 2 years ago and I felt great within a couple of weeks. There were times I pushed myself a little too much and then I would back off. Follow your dr.'s orders and think positive. I attributed my speedy recovering to walking, walking, walking and pushing myself not to lay around. At my 2 week post op appt my dr joked me about if I was back jogging again. I looked at him like I didn't know it was possible, but I would try. I was allowed light jogging at 4 weeks and I actually did it. Yes, you can recover quickly.

I was fortunate to have a good medical leave at work, so I took more time than I needed. After about 3/4 weeks, I was fine to return to work, but I stayed out like I was on vacation. I used the time to get myself back in shape. Yes, you will have some uncomfortable days, but they get fewer with each passing day. At 2 years out, I have numbness still at the incision site. What the heck do I need much feeling there for anyway.

This is the best site to prepare you for whatever may happen, but remember most people only write when they are having difficulties. That is great for others who are in the same shoes, but remember most people do recover without any issues. I read this whole site from top to bottom and I was prepared for whatever came up. Nothing for me. I was one of the fortunate ones.

Think positive and know you will get through whatever you need to face. My best advice, drink lots of water after the surgery and walk your buns off. Believe it or not, exercise is good for you.

Best of luck for all of you out there waiting and to those that have gotten through the surgery, you will return to normal.

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