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Unread 12-09-2011, 07:15 PM
Re: Worried about dignity during hysterectomy

you know I was thinking about my TVH/BSO the other day... I remember.... peeing in a cup, changing into a gown, getting an IV... the anestesiologist (SP?) came in asked if I minded a future EMT/Fireman putting in the intubation tube, the Dr talking to me briefly, and then they said lets go... I DO NOT remember the ride down the hall, going into the Operating room, NOTHING....... NADA.... waking up in the recovery room for a minute, then being in my room.... I was out when they shaved me... (Didn't even realize I had been shaved for a couple of days as it wasn't a "Complete shave") my point is... you really won't remember.....
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Unread 12-09-2011, 08:27 PM
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I am having mine on the 23rd also and you are not alone. I really am not comfortable laying there like that in front of all those people but at the same time we are doing this for a reason. It will help us. And also I have thought you know they do see this every day so they probably dont think about it what so ever. Once we get put under we wont even know who is there and we will wake up dressed and not even know what happened. I have heard that I will not be making it to Christmas functions with the family but everyone will understand and will just want us to be happy and healthy. Take care of yourself and take it very easy. And good luck I hope everything goes great and I will be keeping you in my thoughts as I go in on the 23rd. I know it will make me feel alot better knowing someone else is there going into it with me at the same time. Let me know how yours goes when you are up to it.
Unread 12-09-2011, 08:30 PM
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Originally Posted by suedeblue View Post
The shaving thing was kinda funny, actually. It was just me and the nurse and my husband in the room, and before she shaved me, she asked if it was okay for my husband to be sitting there while she did it. I just laughed and said "he's my husband!" But I guess some people are more modest than me, so it's nice to know they're sensitive about that.

Actually, I think it's safe to say that MOST people are more modest than me seeing as how I've been a regular at nude beaches for the last 20 years or so. That said, when I woke up in my granny panties, I thought it was kinda funny that someone (beats me who) had to wrestle my unconscious body into those horrid looking things. How un-sexy that must have been! ha ha!

But it's really zero big deal at all. Like others have said, you won't remember who anyone in there was (except maybe your doctor) and they won't remember you. They put lots of unconscious butts into granny panties on a daily basis!
Haha! I went into the operating room with those granny panties on with a pad because I had my period. So not only did they put another one on me after surgery....they had to take the one I was wearing off too!! Believe me I could care less what went on at that point.
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Unread 12-10-2011, 12:25 AM
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What you don't know won't hurt you. I look at it as you walk in, go to sleep, wake up and presto fixo done. Period. No need to think about the inbetween and conjur up disturbing images of what went on in there.
Unread 12-10-2011, 02:20 AM
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I agree that you will be so happy that you won't have a period anymore you may want to start dancing as soon as your feet are able to hit the floor. Just don't do it -- yet! You will have plenty of time later. I stayed in the hospital two nights, but my doctor was ready to release me after one night because I was up and walking quite a bit. I chose to stay because I didn't think I was ready to go home. If your mother lives only a short distance away, it probably will be ok to go there and just relax on the couch or maybe a recliner (with help reclining it from hubby). Just make sure there are no animals that will jump into your lap and children can be told by someone (dad or grandma) that they can't sit on your lap for a while. Maybe put a pillow on your lap to support your tummy. Ask your doctor his opinion. A ride in the car will make you feel every bump in the road so long car trips are not recommended. Having a pillow in the car will give you extra comfort between you and the seatbelt.
Before long, you will be back on here telling everyone how well you did and will be ready to offer advice. Why not? You won't have anything else to do -- NO HOUSECLEANING AND ESPECIALLY NO VACUUMING.
See you on the other side.
Unread 12-10-2011, 07:43 AM
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I was wheeled down the hall and then asked to slide onto the OR table. a mask placed on me and I was out. Do not remember the recovery room. Did not wake until my hubby showed up with flowers. at least I do not remember anything till then.
Do not think about it. Most staff try real hard to keep your modesty in tack the best they can while getting a job done.

As for going to Mom's house on Christmas. The biggest issue will be tiredness with pain. You will need a napping spot. You will need a spot to fully lay down and rest in quiet. I know it would be hard to miss out but delaying the healing from trying to do too much would not be good either.
Good luck...
Unread 12-10-2011, 08:47 AM
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As far as going for Christmas......... I say do it.... you will know when you have had enough... I am sure your mother has a bed if you need to use it... I felt surprisingly good... the ride may be uncomfortable, infact the day I came home (1 day post op) I didn't think I would want to get in a car... but I did, the next day we went out for Pizza!! 3 days post op I was shopping!... and the pain was minimal.... infact I didn't take any pain meds after the night I came home... you will know if and when you have had enough... trust your own body... there are a lot of different scenarios on this board... the point is everone heals differently... I personally think the worst part will be the frequent trips to the bathroom!!! LOL
Unread 12-11-2011, 05:47 PM
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I have had many surgeries in the past, including having to have part of my knee taken out due to an infection in the partial replacement then waiting 9 weeks to get a total replacement. Never thought about all my glory being shown! When I had the 2 knee surgeries done, both times I had a cath put in. They had to check things out then. Usually I chat with everyone in the OR until they knock me out.

My TAH is going to be Dec 20th. I am planning on going to my mom's which is about 10 mins away for christmas dinner. Everything will be over to her house next weekend. Only thing I will have to do is walk in and sit in the lazy boy. The knee was pretty invasive, but I did fine afterwards, hoping this will be too.
Unread 12-11-2011, 06:24 PM
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I understand where you are coming from - for years, my gyn had to be female. This changed the day I was thought to have endo in 2007 at age 31. Five laps and several docs later, I refuse to be seen by anyone that is not a man - odd change of events. I'll be having my LAVH on 12/21 - they could hang me by my toes and put flowers in my mouth, and spin me silly - if it gives me my life back, I'm all for it. This is their job - they have seen thousands in all shapes and sizes - they don't even flinch. I did EKGs for a bit and I didn't think twice about it. Try not to think about the what ifs - you go in and are out faster then you know and wake up in recovery. Try to think about the good!!!
Unread 12-11-2011, 08:17 PM
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Originally Posted by Glinda82952 View Post
Besides, just think how many they see in a day! Unless you have some amazing tattoos or piercings I don't think they will even remember you ;-)
About the exposure: You will be wearing a hospital gown and your body, with the exception of the incision site(s) and your head, will be completely covered. Like Glinda said, you will be just one more body in a long line of bodies. The focus is going to be on your abdomen (and/or vagina if you are having vaginal surgery) and what is going on inside your body.

You will be tilted somewhere in the range of 20º - 30º, so not upside down.

Travel to your mother's house 2 days later? Like others have said, depends on how far it is. 5 miles or less, maybe. Across the state? Unlikely and not recommended. At 3-1/2 weeks post op, bumps in the road still jiggle things about more than is comfortable. I feel it. I didn't travel until 1-1/2 weeks post-op; a 40 minute ride to friends for Thanksgiving. 2 hours after we arrived I was sleeping away in the guest room and napped for over 2 hours. We left 3 hours later and I crashed once we got home then slept most of the next day as well.

Do not push yourself. If you are sore and tired, stay home and have Christmas there. Pushing yourself can cause a lot of problems and delay your recovery.

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