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Unread 12-15-2011, 05:21 PM
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Just hang in there. Before my surgery last month I was extremely nervous and would wake up at night and cry my self back to sleep. I was sure I would back out at the last minute or just pass out from fear. Of course nothing like that happened, the people at the hospital are used to dealing the scared women and were amazing.

Now, I feel really good, about 80% of normal. If it weren't for the slightly swollen, tender tummy that reminds me to take it easy, I could almost forget I had surgery. I am focused on the good things that will result from having the surgery. No more anemia, no more emergency supplies stashed everywhere, no more scheduling vacations around my period, just to have my period show up anyway, etc. etc. etc.....

Good luck on your sugery and remember there is a lot of support and information here, right at your fingertips!
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Unread 12-15-2011, 08:18 PM
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Hi ladies. All of us who have our cervix removed have a vaginal cuff. Pay close attention to your doctors restrictions so you heal right post op. I didn't find it hard at all to wait 9 weeks for sex. I was sore and bloated and felt unsexy and was scared to death it would hurt. The first couple times aren't the greatest but it gets better. I have asked my DH several times if it feels any different for him and he says it does not. It does feel different for me but not in a bad way. Just different. One good thing is I no longer have pain from DH bumping my cervix during sex. I didn't realize how sore my cervix was. The thing I really miss is the awesome orgasms I used to have. Without the strong uterine contractions, they are definitely different and sometimes downright disappointing.
Unread 12-15-2011, 08:36 PM
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I think it is different because it feels better because I'm not in pain. Hubby says it's no different just better. Hope this helps and wait the time your doctor tells you to wait and slow the first few times and You will be fine.
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Unread 12-16-2011, 08:22 AM
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Thanks ladies...this truly helps. I most depinately will follow dr orders...he kinda scared me into what COULD happen if i do not wait my 8 weeks...and abelieve me I do not wish to end back in surgery to repair. so I will just wait. True statement from sugarandspice....I am probably going to feel " sore and bloated and felt unsexy" so following the 8 weeks should not be that bad for me...poor hubby =)
Unread 12-16-2011, 05:35 PM
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There's nothing wrong with you giving hubby a little "hands on" relief during your recovery. He will be very grateful and it's a nice way to show you appreciate all the help he gives you while you heal :-)
Unread 12-16-2011, 08:30 PM
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My husband didn't know I had a cervix before, and he can't tell that it's gone now.

For me, sex was not the same for quite a while after my surgery. Even though I kept my ovaries and they were working -- I still had a substantial dip in my sex drive and response for several months. (OK, for a couple of years.) Sometimes things would be OK, and other times I just couldn't achieve an orgasm no matter what.

I can now say that things are about as back to normal as they will ever be. Response isn't always quite what I'd like, but about 90% of the time it's just as good as before. The thing that is still missing is that feeling I used to get when I wanted to become intimate -- that tingling feeling. (I don't know what else to call it, sorry.) So I sort of have to remind myself to initiate sex sometimes. Other than that, things are OK.

Don't let anyone tell you it's all "in your head" or just relax and drink a glass of wine and it will all be OK. If you have difficulties in this area, please see your for help.

Unread 12-18-2011, 01:36 PM
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I'm so grateful for this site. I never would of thought to ask about a vaginal cuff. My dr. is male and I think I might have a hard time asking him questions about when to have sex again. Hubby might want to know... And now I can tell hubby he has to wait about 8 weeks....
Unread 12-18-2011, 05:33 PM
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Originally Posted by bassmanwife View Post
I'm so grateful for this site. I never would of thought to ask about a vaginal cuff. My dr. is male and I think I might have a hard time asking him questions about when to have sex again. Hubby might want to know... And now I can tell hubby he has to wait about 8 weeks....
One of the first things I asked my doctor was what will they do with the end of my vagina once the cervix is gone? I'm very surprised your doctor didn't volunteer the information of what your restrictions will be post op. You can not swim, take a bath, bend, lift, or have anything in your vagina until your doctor clears you at 6-8 weeks. I was worried about dryness post op and whether my vagina would be shortened. Every question I had I asked to both my GP and my GYN. The one thing I was embarrassed to ask my GYN was about orgasm. I knew my uterus was very involved during orgasm so I was concerned about this. But he (GYN) brought that subject up for me during one of our discussions. this is no time to be shy: ask and ask again. It's your body and you need to be prepared for the benefits and the possible complications from your surgery.
Unread 12-18-2011, 09:22 PM
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My pre-op appt. is this thursday and I have my list of questions. And not leaving till I have all the answers and understand then clearly....
Unread 12-19-2011, 01:56 PM
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Ladies, I must be strange but all I can say at this point is think of your self first, get your procedure done and worry about anything else later. Your husbands, partners will just have to deal with it. Your health and well being is much more important. If your husband had his penis damaged in an accident or had to have something operated on down there, you would accept him and love him I am sure. Just get yourself better and things will happen naturally in due course.

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