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Unread 12-26-2011, 08:49 PM
Waiting to exhale

I am waiting to find out when my surgery will be.My uterus and cervix will be gone,but keeping the ovaries.I have 4children and don't want anymore.Even though I don't I still feel an emotion because the choice is being taken away.I'm 39 scared and feel like I'm losing a part of my soul.I am a single mother,my husband and I have been seperated for many years.My children will be there to support me during recovery but I am starting to feel depressed.Is this normal?
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Unread 12-26-2011, 09:14 PM
Re: Waiting to exhale

Renee -

I can relate to some of what you're feeling, as a single mom. I am 45 and I have 5, 3 of which are a set of 10 year old triplets. I have a fairly decent support system, which helps a lot. I've known for about six years that this would be a certainty, and I had a Novasure and an ablation (five years apart) in an effort to buy myself some time. Time has run out (my surgery is Wednesday (28th), as well as other options.

Talk to your doctor about what you're feeling, and build your support system - you might be surprised on what you find out and the people that you can count on. You didn't elaborate on your circumstances (pain bleeding, etc.), but I think bouncing emotions are part of the journey - I know I've been all over the place over the last few weeks, and I'm to the point I just want it done so I can move to recovery and healing (and not just physically).

Hope it helps, and the info on these boards has given me a lot of empathy, knowing that others are going through much of the same things.....stay strong and take care of yourself and have your support system help you! Let us know when your procedure is scheduled, and we'll keep sending positive thoughts your way!!

Unread 12-26-2011, 09:14 PM
Re: Waiting to exhale

Oh yes! Your normal....i could not have children for 4 years now due to an ablasion...tomorrow I go in for da vinci..i have been crying all day. This is a very emotional surgery...you're normal. Good luck to you
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Unread 12-26-2011, 09:49 PM
Waiting to exhale

Hi Lisa thank you for your advice and comforting words.I am having it done due to extra heaving bleeding and becoming anemic due to it.I will talk to my doctor.My thoughts and prayers will be with you wenesday.Much love
Unread 12-26-2011, 09:50 PM
Re: Waiting to exhale

The emotional turmoil you speak of is very normal. It can be hard to loose your uterus. It is such an intimate part of you, and something that has made its presence known to you (for better or worse) on a regular basis for decades. And now that is being taken away from you. So, in my mind, it is emotionally harder to loose a uterus than, say, an appendix, which you really don't know you have.

Keep posting on this site - it really does help. We understand what you are going through.

(((Hugs))) to you..
Unread 12-26-2011, 09:58 PM
Waiting to exhale

Jowens,my thoughts will be with you tomorrow.It feels good to know I'm not alone and have you ladies for support.I am here for you and will pray for you to have a speedy recovery and a calm heart.xoxo
Unread 12-26-2011, 11:20 PM
Re: Waiting to exhale

My heart goes out to you dearly.

I didn't feel this way when I had an ablation, but now, I still haven't really realized my uterus is no longer in me-just thinking about it is very hard so I just don't, at least not yet.

Completely normal. ((hugs to you!))
Unread 12-27-2011, 02:29 AM
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Yes completely normal. I am a 43 year old single mom of one child. I knew at this point I wouldn't be having another child, but I always wanted more. And having the option taken away forever is heartbreaking. I liked having my period (which was always short and light) and I loved being fertile. It made me feel sexy and feminine. Some of us really need to grieve the loss of our uterus. It's the most difficult thing I've gone through. Communicate with your doctor so he/she is aware of your feelings. And please ask us all your questions. We understand.
Unread 12-27-2011, 07:42 AM
Re: Waiting to exhale

This is a difficult crossroad. My uterus held my children ... conceived on my schedule back in the years when it functioned with some predictability. In the last 4 years it had become a traitor... unpredictable and unpleasant. I had hoped that menopause would come, my fibroids would shrink and save me from having to make the big decision... it did not. What I can tell you is that one week post op, my backache is gone, I am healing beautifully and question my own ability to keep my hands off my husband for another 7 weeks. You have my heartfelt empathy as you make your way through the tough decisions on this journey.
Unread 12-27-2011, 03:54 PM
Re: Waiting to exhale

I am 32, with 4 children & married. My physical issues are a lot like yours. Except they are taking my tubes as well.

The decision to have this procedure...was to bring me back. I haven't felt like me in years. Being scared has got to be normal. I just keep reminding myself that "bringing me back" is the best thing for all of us.

Thoughts & prayers are with you.

I'm "waiting to exhale" too

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