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Surgery soon - What to tell my 2 year old Surgery soon - What to tell my 2 year old

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Unread 01-03-2012, 11:03 PM
Surgery soon - What to tell my 2 year old

Hi Everyone,
My surgery is coming up fast and I haven't figured out what, when, how to tell my 2.5 year old. He's very verbal and asks why a lot. He's used to a lot of attention, I've never not seen him for a whole day. Hopefully I'll only be in the hospital one night, but I have to be there at 6am, so he won't be up when I leave in the morning.
Any tips would be greatly appreciated!!!
Thanks,
Meghan
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Unread 01-03-2012, 11:10 PM
Re: Surgery 1/10/12- What to tell my 2 year old

I told my 4 year old that mommys tummy on the inside is sick so I have to go to the dr and have them take all the sick parts out. He said ok and went about his day. Hope that helped. Good luck
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Unread 01-04-2012, 06:59 AM
Re: Surgery 1/10/12- What to tell my 2 year old

I have a 6 year old daughter who asks tons of questions right now and you cannot just say "because". She tells me "because" is not an answer I have told her that mommy has tummy problems and that she is going to have it fixed. As little detail as possible is what I'm doing because it'll just end up leading to more questions that I do not want to have to answer yet.
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Unread 01-04-2012, 08:48 AM
Re: Surgery 1/10/12- What to tell my 2 year old

Meghan,

Your concern is understandable, it can be hard for the little ones to have mommy away. Here is an article on telling children about hysterectomy from our Articles (tab upper right of each page). Hope it helps!

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Unread 01-04-2012, 08:54 AM
Re: Surgery 1/10/12- What to tell my 2 year old

Hello-
I can completely understand your concern. I have been thinking about the same thing with my 3.5 and 5 year old. At first I was going to say that I had to go see the doctor and he was going to help me feel better but then they both started to ask a lot of questions and I got the feeling they would worry. So...it's been about 3 weeks since we talked about it and I've decided my mother-in-law is just going to tell them I'm at work. I'm usually not gone overnight but I would rather they wonder why I'm at work instead of worry that I'm at the hospital.

I know it's lying, but I will explain when I get home. I know they are young, and even if they seem like they are being normal---they will still worry and I think that's too much to put on a child's shoulders at that age. But--you're his mother and you know what's best for him! Good luck!
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Unread 01-04-2012, 11:51 AM
Re: Surgery soon - What to tell my 2 year old

My son turned 4 two weeks before my surgery. He had a first hand account of how sick I was for the months leading up to surgery. I told him that my new doctor knew what was wrong and that he was going to do an operation to fix what was sick. He accepted that with no questions and was more excited that once I felt better I would be able to play with him again. The hardest part was having to leave before he woke up which meant I didn't get hugs and kisses. However, my parents brought him to visit at the hospital the next day and I went home the day after that. The best part was once I got home, he knew just what I needed...soup and matchbox cars! Good luck...your son will take his cue from you : )
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Unread 01-07-2012, 10:30 PM
Re: Surgery soon - What to tell my 2 year old

My oldest son is 12 so he knows.. I told my 5 yr old daughter that I had to have surgery bc my stomach hurts... I explained that she was a big baby 10lbs 3oz, and that my pouch ( like kangaroo) was going to be removed... That way she understood that I could nor have any more baby's... It worked fine, but she came home from school a week after my surgery and told me that my uterus was removed... Lol... Joke on me
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Unread 01-07-2012, 11:21 PM
Re: Surgery soon - What to tell my 2 year old

my son has watched me suffer for years, he's 5. When I first told him he started asking his father if i was going to heaven. poor thing thought I was dying. True some days sure feel like it. I talked him and told him "mommy is going to live for a long time and he should't worry about that" and everytime i ask him what he wishes for he says " for mommy's tummy to feel better" makes me cry everytime i think about it. As time passed and my surgery date got closer I thought it best to talk to him about it again. People and family are always around asking me questions and we all know kids hear everything. last night my son asks "so mommy when is the doctor taking all those owies from your tummy?' I told him monday and his respons was "i can't wait, you will be all better. " Got to love the unconditional love they give and the honesty. That's what gets me through the rough days. As much as I am doing this for me and my health, but more importantly for him to have his mom 100%

I think when it comes to telling the kids, as mothers we know what to say and how detailed to get and we would never want to have them be scared or sad. Good luck to all you ladies
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Unread 01-07-2012, 11:39 PM
Re: Surgery soon - What to tell my 2 year old

js2577- You are right... Kids know way more than we think they do, and just to see a smile on their face when they see a smile on ours makes me feel great... I felt it best to try to explain it in a way so that my daughter would not wonder why she could not have a Lil bro/ sister... It's always best to tell them as much as possible bc other kids will explain it to them for u.. Lol... Good Luck
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Unread 01-08-2012, 12:01 AM
Re: Surgery soon - What to tell my 2 year old

Yes, my son keeps asking for a brother or sister and i am just not ready yet to say Mommy can't. For some unknown reason he thinks he came from a place where there were lots of babies and I picked him and then he asks why did I pick him, i respond with "Cause you were the best one they had" and then he smiles and says " is that why i don't have any brothers or sister, cause i was the best one there" Of course you were. So I think i have been able to buy myself sometime before I have to say i can't have anymore.
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