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Oh but you had Laparoscopic...you should be....... :( Oh but you had Laparoscopic...you should be....... :(

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  #21  
Unread 01-05-2012, 07:44 AM
Re: Oh but you had Laparoscopic...you should be....... :(

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Originally Posted by mjd2491 View Post
"You know, I'm following my doctor's orders to the letter and he/she says I'm right on track for healing. Say, how about this weather we're having?"
Heeheehee!!! I love it!!!

I just want to add......I am so unbelievably thankful for this site. I read quite a few posts before my surgery, but actually joined in a few days after. Knowing that we have each other to lean on is priceless! Love my Hysterfamily!
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  #22  
Unread 01-05-2012, 08:46 AM
Re: Oh but you had Laparoscopic...you should be....... :(

I had the Davinci procedure on Oct 12, 2011. Yes, my incisions healed very quickly. But my energy level is no where near normal. However, my doctor was very thorough in explaining that no matter how quickly I think I should recover, I still had major surgery. He also explained that even though the outside will heal quickly, my energy level may take up to a year to return to normal. Hormones are also a huge issue with this surgery, no matter which way they cut you. Listen to your body. Everyone is different and it doesn't mean that you are weak or less than in any way. It only translates to you are unique, just as God has made each and every one of us. Chin up Princess, give your body the time that it needs.
  #23  
Unread 01-05-2012, 09:09 AM
Re: Oh but you had Laparoscopic...you should be....... :(

People do feel very free to say such things, don't they. The sorts of folks who do that also have something to say about everything, and it's usually something critical. I reckon they must be Very Special to be so all-knowing and powerful that they never get sick, never take a day off work, have perfect relationships and families, perfect lives, and so can look down on other people. It must be nice to be like them, so sure they're right and everybody else is wrong somehow. I'm usually mature about dealing with such people but inside I just want to do this at them -
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  #24  
Unread 01-05-2012, 10:26 AM
Re: Oh but you had Laparoscopic...you should be....... :(

I've gotten the same thing. In fact my boss, before I had the surgery, said, "well, it's not like it's major surgery". I burst out crying and said, YES IT IS! I'm having an organ removed. Just because the cuts they make are smaller the internal procedure is the same.

I'm very glad for my DH and my friends here...as I haven't had a lot of support from others with this. It's not just the removal of an organ...it's the emotional part of it too.

Heal well and rest (even if you feel like you should be doing something else). My latest thing is watching movies. The library is right next door to my apartment so I walk there, find a few, check them out, walk around the apartment building and go back in and watch them.

Be well!
  #25  
Unread 01-05-2012, 11:13 AM
Re: Oh but you had Laparoscopic...you should be....... :(

I like what Laura said above; the inside healing is the same no matter what type of procedure you've had. And also what was going on inside at the time of surgery and other pre/post conditions. This is why I find it ludicrous to be on a "time schedule" to heal because if I don't meet my "deadline" I will feel something is wrong with me.

My "easy lap surgery" that was supposed to be 2-2.5 hrs turned into almost 4.5 hrs and things were all fusing together and it was just a mess in there. Just being under anesthesia that long kept me feeling icky for days afterwards. People just don't "get it" and I, too, am sick of the "I know someone who had one and it was a piece of cake..." stories!!! I've had organs removed and the remaining organs had to be messed with because of the fusing issues, etc. I've seen my pics at my post op appt and there are a LOT of sutures in there and the vaginal cuff looks wicked. I am sincerely dreading sex at ANY time, I will be scared to death. So along with everything we are feeling pain-wise, why do people assume there is not any emotional healing we have to do, too?

I have been through a lot. My 5 yr old daughter died in an accident, two years later my dad died in my arms at hospice, my daughter is suffering severe depression/bipolar and is in and out of hospitals, my husband is a type 1 brittle diabetic, my mom had a stroke last year and now has cancer...I have been "strong" for everyone, always. Now I need a little time, is that so much to ask? Really?
  #26  
Unread 01-05-2012, 12:49 PM
Re: Oh but you had Laparoscopic...you should be....... :(

LadyLynda, you do need time to heal. I cannot imagine the stress you're feeling right now. All I can say is please take care of yourself and know that this is a safe place to vent. Sending you peace, love, and light! *hug*
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Unread 01-05-2012, 01:29 PM
Re: Oh but you had Laparoscopic...you should be....... :(

Everyone I know that has had a hysterectomy is EXTREMELY sympathetic! I don't know about you but the people who make comments to me that my surgery was no big deal are mostly men. I got tired of trying to explain that it's MAJOR surgery so what I did is print out info about the surgery and all of the after issues/recovery expectations (a 1 page short version with bullet points).
When I heard an ignorant comment I whipped out my paper and read it to them! I've found that people who hear some of the details shut up really quick and don't make comments to me anymore!!
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Unread 01-05-2012, 01:53 PM
Re: Oh but you had Laparoscopic...you should be....... :(

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Everyone I know that has had a hysterectomy is EXTREMELY sympathetic! I don't know about you but the people who make comments to me that my surgery was no big deal are mostly men. I got tired of trying to explain that it's MAJOR surgery so what I did is print out info about the surgery and all of the after issues/recovery expectations (a 1 page short version with bullet points).
When I heard an ignorant comment I whipped out my paper and read it to them! I've found that people who hear some of the details shut up really quick and don't make comments to me anymore!!
Yes, mostly men. However, a friend of mine who had one was stunned to learn I was still recovering (at 2 weeks) as she said she went to a concert 3 days after hers and was dancing and was fine. (She had a TAH)

It upsets me more when my female friends are like, "aren't you better yet?".

Makes me angry. But, I know that I'm doing the best I can do...yet, it's still upsetting.
  #29  
Unread 01-05-2012, 01:54 PM
Re: Oh but you had Laparoscopic...you should be....... :(

I'm 13 days post DvH. I am still sooo sore and tired! My mother called me yesterday and said "wow, you should be coming out of this thing by now." I blew up. I got so mad I thought I was going to bust a gut literally. I said "You are so right. I'm just making all of this pain BS up. I really just don't want to take care of my kids, or my house. I really don't want to go to the store or do my finals or anything so I'm just pretending to still be sore. i'm TRYING here. I'm seriously trying to feel better! I felt better after c-sections than I do with this hysterectomy. With C-sections I didn't have a million stitches in my vagina. They didn't take an organ out. They didn't have to cut my bladder loose from my uterus or cut every single one of my stomach muscles to free my uterus..and thats exactly what they had to do in my hysterectomy."

I'm SO tired of people who have never had surgery in their lives telling me how I'm supposed to be feeling, or what I should be and should not be able to do at this point. My husband had an appendectomy in July and now thinks he's an expert in all things laparoscopic. He learned real quick that you don't mess with a woman in the middle of a complete hormonal makeover.
  #30  
Unread 01-05-2012, 02:15 PM
Re: Oh but you had Laparoscopic...you should be....... :(

that is very frustrating! that's why i'm grateful for this website where everyone understands everything we're going through and is so supportive!! however, our friends/family/coworkers should be more understanding! it's considered a MAJOR surgery for a reason!!
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