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Unread 01-13-2012, 11:05 AM
Re: Do NOT buy all the doom and gloom

I understand that there are many ladies that don't post because they are out living their life, but those of us that do have complications don't post to get other ladies to buy into the doom and gloom. We are here for others support that is much needed. I just got home from another surgery last night. I am so glad for those who never have complications, and I hope you have the best of recovery and no complications during surgery. But please remember we are here for support if our news we have is good or bad. Thanks and good luck!!!!!
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Unread 01-13-2012, 01:16 PM
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When I was presurgery I didn't really look at the post surgery stuff much. I was already so worried, not because of anything anyone posted but just because I was. So I stuck to the preop forums which had loads of info and many encouraging posts from post op sisters.

These forums helped me figure out what questions to ask the dr, what to expect at the hospital, what things to do to prepare for surgery etc. This was all very helpful to me.

A week or so before surgery I did look at a couple of the post surgery threads for the surgery week. This was really good because a lot of the stuff on there is about the progression of recovery, not necessarily horrible things but just about what pains (often what one would expect from such a surgery) were happening, what kind of discharge people had and how tired they were. It gave me a pretty realistic expectation of what would happen to me.

I realize that most people have minimal complications and I still don't look at the forums for people with long running problems. I realize there is that possibility but have chosen not to dwell on it. If it happens, then I will address it.

The reality is, surgery is scary. Many people have never had a surgery where they are put under. It is very normal to be afraid. I am so glad I found HysterSisters where there is always someone who understands what I am going through.
Unread 01-13-2012, 02:01 PM
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Without the post op forum I never would have known what a vaginal cuff is! I have a friend who had a hysterectomy years ago and she doesn't even know if she has a cervix or not! This site has been a blessing to me both pre-op and post-op. Good luck to you today! See you in the post op forum!
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Unread 01-13-2012, 02:03 PM
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Interesting Molly - I had never even *heard* the term vaginal cuff before this site - let alone have a freakin' clue what it is!!!
Unread 01-15-2012, 03:54 PM
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I amon the other side and LOVING it! I no longer have to schedule my life around my period. Good luck ladies!
Unread 01-21-2012, 11:32 AM
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This post is so true I had my surgery 5 weeks ago and I was so scared and worried but as of today I'm doing great my life is great. I would have done this surgery all over again if need be. My sex life is wonderful I feel wonderful. And I'm not on any HRT . All I had to lose with this surgery is the pain and bleeding that made my life so bad before the surgery.
Unread 01-21-2012, 11:51 AM
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I like all this great advice. I've had a lot of anxiety today and am feeling calmer already.
Unread 01-21-2012, 12:08 PM
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I found this site after my op and have found it a real help other than doom and gloom! I didn't do much research before the op as it was more or less an emergency, with the prolapse causing major issues, and was released from hospital without much information. I didn't know who to speak to or who to ask questions when different things happened at various stages of my recovery, so finding ladies who are going through the same as me has given me peace of mind and also a feeling of normality. As mentioned by other sisters, everyone is different and everyone has had different ops with / without complications. I think it's unfair to say doom and gloom as we all have a choice and I really don't think there is one sister here who is trying to scaremonger or put anyone off their surgery.
It's about sharing experiences, meeting new people, having a friend in a similar situation to chat to and bounce ideas.
Overall, I have had a very good recovery but I have also had minor issues and it has been a great help to find out I wasn't alone. You may change your mind after your op and realise this is a fantastic mechanism of support.

Good luck with your operation and I will you a speedy recovery.
Unread 01-21-2012, 12:18 PM
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Thank you Debbie! You read exactly what was meant to be conveyed.

To anyone who was offended, I'm sorry you felt offended. Obviously this is a support site. My intent was to say that, although you'll see lots of scary stories here about problems and complications, what you may NOT see if stories of those who have simply gone on successfully to LIVE and they may not be posting their success stories because they're ...well...they're just out there living.

My surgery was successful, thus far and I thank those who wished me well. I think when we read people's posts, we sometimes have to take ourselves out of the equation and put ourselves in the OP's shoes to see where she may be coming from. As I said in my original post, I learned many things here before going into my surgery. Things whichhad not been explained to be by my own surgeon. In no way was I denigrating this site. I was simply asking those who were scared to look FORWARD and to not be deterred by the stories here which may terrify them.
Unread 01-21-2012, 12:53 PM
Post op...Post op...Post op

There are many of us that return to hystersisters to admonish those who have not gone through their surgeries, our intent is to offer support and encouragement. While some experiences may have been complicated I truly do not believe Sisters come here to scare anyone; yet, for support...

speaking for myself, when I arrived here; yet scared I understood there was no certainty in having major surgery. I took the good with the bad and learn very much what to do and what not to do. That I am thankful...

Yes, it is wise to talk with your doctor; however, NOBODY can support you like those that have walked in your shoes...

I liken Pre op to a pre game, you talk to your coach, you review material, consider it ALL; then you hope for the best but have prepared for the worse...

Given this, it is also wise to hear about complication so that you know how to deal with them. That's what hystersisters is all about!

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