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Unread 01-27-2012, 10:36 PM

I have known since dec i would be having a TAH. Well I'm a little over two weeks til the date and im so emotional!! I cant take it all i wanna do is cry,sleep or snap someones head off!! Please someone tell me this is normal. Im starting to wonder if this is the right thing to do!!
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Unread 01-28-2012, 06:54 AM
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Me too doll.. I have my TVH on Tuesday January 31st so only 3 more days for me and have been in between feeling like I am crazy.. Excited one minute to get it over and done with and then hysterical the next.. Nervous, panicky, happy, mad.. At one point I kept thinking I wanted to cancel and just deal with the pain like I have been.. It really is a complete rollercoaster of emotions. I am a waitress, I work lunch today and dinner tomorrow. Wondering how I will get through my shifts without crying.. I suspect from reading on here that all of these emotions are VERY normal.. Good luck to you..
Unread 01-28-2012, 07:32 AM
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Your not alone. My emotions have been all over the spectrum. (((Hugs))) we are here with you and your not doing this alone!
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Unread 01-28-2012, 08:44 AM
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Dear sisters, it is so normal for you all to feel emotional. We are talking removal of our Uterus and in some cases more. No one likes their bodies re adjusted or parts removed but I am sure you going thru your hysters for very good reasons. I had my davinci robotis hyster on Jan 6th and I am soooo happy I had it done. Even afterwards I had a coupld of emotional days but mainly because I hated being down thru recovery and sometimes felt lonely when my hubby went to work but it is all worth it. I now know I have the rest of my life free of my issues that had me do this in the first place. YOU ALL will be fine, Please use this pre-op time to enjoy family and friends because after the surgery you will NEED to lay low and rest ALOT! Good luck to you all and God Bless You!
Unread 01-28-2012, 10:26 AM
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I am right there with you! I'm having my DvH on February 17th and my emotions are all over the place. One minute I'm really optimistic and the next I'm a mess. I'm ready to get it over with and put it behind me. I'm so glad I found this web site! It has been very comforting to know that I'm not alone. I have an extremely supportive husband and daughter but I really need support from women that are going through the same thing. Hang in there - you are definitely not alone!!
Unread 01-28-2012, 11:18 AM
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It is totally normal, I tried to be "strong" but I was really a wreck. I hardly drink at all but a couple weeks before the surgery we got together as a family and I got passed out drunk! They said I was sobbing and saying I was scared about my surgery. So yes you are normal!

I think for me it was the total lack of control and the fear of the unknown.

After the surgery I just remember thinking "Oh, that wasn't so bad"

Hang in there ladies! {{{{{{{{{Hugs for all}}}}}}}}}}}
Unread 01-28-2012, 11:38 AM
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I'm feeling the same way ladies. I had a emotional brake down this morning. I was packing some stuff for my hospital bag and just BROKE down in tears. I know in the end it will all be worth it. It's just the not knowing how I'm going to feel afterwards, the sitting/laying around "I'm not one to stay in one place for a very long time", I'm also hoping my boyfriend and daughter will be understanding through this whole 6 to 8 weeks.
Unread 01-28-2012, 11:52 AM
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I just found out Thursday that I need a hysterectomy. I've been on a rollercoaster ride of emotions. I wont see my surgeon until February 23. Im glad this is normal too.
Unread 01-28-2012, 11:59 AM
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Originally Posted by serena1592 View Post
I just found out Thursday that I need a hysterectomy. I've been on a rollercoaster ride of emotions. I wont see my surgeon until February 23. Im glad this is normal too.
when I first found out I was thanking God because then I will no longer have to sufer with the pain, but now that the surgery is in a week, it's really hitting me.
Unread 01-28-2012, 05:24 PM
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I think it is normal to be emotional about having a major surgery. I had my moments pre-op too, and have had some pretty blue times since my surgery almost 2 wks ago (just finally pulling out of it today). The uncertainty and lack of control can drive people crazy. If there is something specific you are upset/worrying about, think about if there is anything you can control about that.

For instance, if it is how you will cope w/ being down, develop a plan for filling your time (reading, crafts, puzzles, TV/movies, etc). Don't be surprised though if you aren't up for it. I haven't touched one of the many books I gathered, nor watched a movie yet. Not enough energy, motivation, or concentration. However, some women are able to get caught up on those types of things they never have time for.

If you are worried about your house/meals/etc, clean your house, do the laundry, have clean sheets on the bed, and put meals in the freezer. Don't be afraid to let others know about your surgery. We have had 4 family members bring us food, which has been a big help. And also don't worry if you don't get it all done. I caught a cold 2-1/2 days before my surgery and was not able to clean my house from top to bottom. I just made sure the bathrooms were clean and the laundry done. Since I'm a type A planner, it was hard to let the rest of it go but I had to give it up and focus on what was more important than the dust bunnies being swept away.

If you are thinking about the loss of your female parts, realize you need to grieve this as you would any other loss. Feel your sadness but also try to think about the positive aspects of the loss, like no pain, bleeding, further worry, etc. (better sex anyone??)

If you are worried about the pain and other aspects of surgery (urination trouble, constipation, pain management), read what other sisters have written about these issues so you know what to expect and have ideas on how to manage these issues. I think pre-op folks can view, just not reply to, the post-op forums. These are a great resource. The posts can be a bit scary, but try to remember that not every woman has all these issues, and even if she does, the degree to which it is a distress varies. I wish I'd read them more prior to my surgery so I would have know more what to expect, like the fact that if you are having a lap surgery, they pump you full of gas that can press on your diaphragm and cause referred pain to your shoulder. I had this horrible and was scared to death why I had pain there instead of my belly.

So, after that ramble, I'm sure you get the idea. I will also say that utilizing your spirituality and focusing on mental techniques like imagery and mantras can also be helpful when coping pre and post op.

Remember that you have a wonderful support network of sisters here who understand where you are--we are there or have been there. Read our posts and take with you what works for you.

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