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Unread 02-04-2012, 09:19 PM
two day before sugery BF broke up

Hi ladies,

I'm so sad can't stop crying. My BF and i just broke it off today (next month would been a year). His dad past away last week and i was with him for support and he said he would be with me thrugh my sergery. but he couldn't hendle the pressure of my emotions (not wanting to be intimate) and how i feel physically etc. He just wanted me when i was fun, beautiful and not complaining of woman's issues/feelings

i know i'll be okay, it just hursts and he makes me feel that i'm going to be less of a even more!

not because he wants kids (he has 3) and i have 2 so that's not the problem. i find it hard to beleive that his a tipical male...i thought i had found my soul mate...oh well

i'm still going through the surgery, becuase i have a huge (15cm) fibroid that's imposible to live any anymore. i'm keeping my ovaries and cervix.

sorry, for the long story i just needed to vent a heart is broken ;'(

*crying* oh, just got a text from him...he said that he'll drive my on monday for my surgery because he cares about me and because he said he would, but if i don't want him too, gbye.

i'll do this on my own, thank you all for listening my ramble...good luck to you all lovely ladies!
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Unread 02-04-2012, 09:27 PM
Re: two day before sugery BF broke up

I know this is a difficult time but men get really "weird" around this surgery, but once you come through this you are going to see that you don't need to put up with anyone's "BS" remember this - "don't be a woman that needs a man, be a woman a man needs.
Unread 02-04-2012, 09:28 PM
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You poor thing, I no It's easy for me to say but if he is like that now, is he the one for you? On the other hand could it not be his grief talking and his manly approach to dealing? You can ramble anytime and there is lots of support for you here. I wish you a successful op and speedy recovery, and I hope your bf comes to terms with his loss and is there for you.hugs xx
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Unread 02-04-2012, 09:34 PM
Re: two day before sugery BF broke up

Sorry you are going through this at such an emotional and stressful time. How frustrating and unfair.

You are not going to be less of a woman. It sounds to me like he is not the type of man you want around for the long haul anyway, but I know it still hurts, especially finding this out now.

Unread 02-04-2012, 09:55 PM
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Not defending him in anyway just throwing this out there. Maybe wa his dad just passing he is worried that something might happen to you. Even if that is the case he is a complete JA to do it now. And as the other ladies pointed out prolly not the type you want around for the long haul anyways. **huggs**
Unread 02-04-2012, 10:07 PM
Re: two day before sugery BF broke up

I'm sorry to hear this I hope you can find someone to help you out during the first couple of days of your recovery.
Unread 02-04-2012, 10:26 PM
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Sorry you are going thru this. You need to take care of yourself now, it's about you not him. Good Luck!
Unread 02-05-2012, 12:35 AM
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you need someone who is strong enough to put you first during your surgery and recovery. gather your support, family, friends who can help you instead.

Your energy should be directed toward rest, relaxation and getting better. Focus on you right now, after your recovery you can decide about the BF situation.
Unread 02-05-2012, 05:06 AM
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I love that line Jackie "be a woman a man needs" spot on.

What ever his issues at the moment, they are not your concern. I know he is going through emotional pain but he has no right to treat you like this. I am just over 7 weeks out and I feel as much a woman now as I did before. In fact even more so, coz I am not a slave to pain now and look and feel healthier already.

You can do this and please vent away, that's what we are here for.
Unread 02-05-2012, 09:23 AM
Re: two day before sugery BF broke up

I'm sorry you are going through this. I hope you can line up other help on short notice. Focus on yourself. Often these guys come back later, if that happens, try to still keep your own health first in mind. You can always vent here. Best wishes for an easy surgery and recovery.

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