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Unread 01-04-2002, 09:05 PM
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I just got off the phone with a friend whose wife had a LAVH in September. He was telling me all kinds of things, and although I know he was trying to be helpful, he scared the pants off of me!

He said his wife had to have a catheter for over a week out of the hospital, and that her doctor told her that it's standard procedure. It doesn't sound like that from what I've been reading here, but maybe I misunderstood. Help?

Also, he said that the doctor had a "frank talk" with him ahead of time to find out how.. um.. big he was, and he sized HER according to that when he stitched her up. That makes me a bit nervous- for one thing, my husband tends to underestimate himself, and for another, what if something was to happen to him and I remarried someone who was sized differently??? Did any of your doctors have a discussion like that with you or your husbands? Seems odd to me.

Sorry to be such a pest, posting so much!!
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Unread 01-04-2002, 09:14 PM
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That sounds pretty wierd about the doctor talking with the husband! You might nip the possibility in the bud by talking to your doctor about *who* gets to decide how you are "sized". Sheesh... I've heard a couple of other stories that were strange in that way, but it's not the rule.

At my post-op appointment my doctor cleared me "resume normal life", including sex, "unless your husband is, you know..." <spreading his hands about shoulder width apart to indicate "huge"). But that was the only mention of it.

As for the catheter, that depends on a lot of things. Especially on whether you have any bladder repair work done. I don't think it's "normal" to have one, but it's definitely within the realm of "things that *could* happen, and that you shouldn't worry about". Lots of sisters here have had a catheter for a few days, or a little longer, if they were having trouble going on their own. I'm sure it's a pain in the neck (or elsewhere), but it doesn't mean there is any dire problem.
Unread 01-04-2002, 09:18 PM
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NO WAY!! I can't begin to believe that her husband really had a talk like that with her Dr.. Maybe in his dreams I've never heard of such. I didn't think you came home with a cathedar unless you had some bladder repair done. A friend of mine had to do this, but she had A&P repair along with her TVH.

You need to talk to your for sure. I don't know if I'd be comfortable being operated on by a Dr. who would talk like that, if indeed he did!

Best of Luck!
The Lord is the strength of my life!!!
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Unread 01-04-2002, 09:26 PM
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Hehe, my doctor is this little delicate-looking woman, and my husband is sooo shy (but is 6'1", 210 pounds, and has a well-trimmed beard - pretty scary looking), I can't imagine such a conversation. They'd both probably run screaming from the room!!!

I don't think my friend would lie to me at all, but I wouldn't be surprised if his memory of the incident, after all this time and the stress they were under at the time, hasn't.. well, adjusted a bit.
Unread 01-04-2002, 10:03 PM
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Holy Moly Jaz...it's one thing getting "well-meaning advice" from a women about hyst...but when a man is giving it...well.....does he have MD after his name

All kidding aside...some women have had a little tightening in the vagina after hyst...but the vagina is flexible. Never heard of the dr. custom stitching anyone though.

I woke up with cath...it was removed the day after surgery. I did not come home with one.

Use search engine at the top and search by keyword "lavh" in the post op section of pull down. That will give you some posts to read from other women that have had that procedure.
Unread 01-04-2002, 10:17 PM
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Jaz - Read Hostess Twyla's reply in this thread.

Unread 01-04-2002, 10:40 PM
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Hi Jaz, Your post cracked me up! And laughter is a good thing, right? But seriously, I will be having bladder repair done and specifically asked the Doc about catheter (had read some scary stuff). He said some people have to have them longer than a day or two, but that is not the norm. I think I'd have second thoughts about a doctor who sized me according to anyone elses needs. You didn't mention if your friend's wife had the same Doctor that you have....I would be inclined to mention it to my doc, if I thought that something like that would really happen, but honestly, I probably wouldn't want a Doctor like that. Hang in there! Amy .
Unread 01-04-2002, 11:00 PM
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I'm 2 weeks post LAVH.. and my doc did no such thing.. Woke up after surgery with a cath, and had it out the next morning. Also my doc didn't have any frank talks with my husband regarding sex and custom stitching. And my dh goes to all of my gyn appointments, and back in the back with me.

If you have any questions, bring them up to your doc ASAP. I only hope you don't have the same doc as your friend's wife.
Unread 01-05-2002, 12:42 AM
Ok, so I can't help but reply to THIS! lol

Oh lordy!

If my husband gets a hold of this thread, he'll be at my Dr's office with a HUGE and a tape measure in hand. :devil:

Custom vaginal fitting, whooooodathunkit! I probably should watch my step here to keep this clean but goodness am I having fits of laughter. I have pictures of new equipment in the ob/gyn's office. Like one of those foot sizer metal contraptions, except not for a foot!
Unread 01-05-2002, 01:24 AM
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My SO came to all my appts with me and I would have been horrified to even think that sort of conversation would take place.

I had cath in for 1 1/2 days post op which I believe is quite normal, but I didn't have any bladder work done.

Charity - I just love your reply.

Regards and best wishes for your surgery Jaz.

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