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Unread 03-10-2012, 02:24 AM
Frustrated at 5 days post-op

Good Morning Ladies! (or good middle of the night) I'm just wondering if I'm the only one that is going through this with the people around me. I've always been someone that doesn't so things halfway. I'm 5 days post op as of today and I'm soooooo frustrated. My brain tells me that I need sleep to heal and that I should be taking it easy, but my ego is severely bruised right now. I feel guilty for napping so much, for having to tell my friends that I can't do the activities that they are inviting me to, and I can't "be there" for all the drama that my family constantly has. I have a WONDERFUL partner that says that she isn't put off by the whole "no intimacy" thing, but I seem to be the victim of God's odd sense of humor. Now that I can not PHYSICALLY be frisky, it seems to be the only thing on my mind. My sleep pattern has always been a little off, 4 hours seems like a long night of sleep, but now I'm drifting off after only being up for an hour.My friends can't seem to understand that I've had AN ORGAN REMOVED FROM MY BODY! It's like they expect me to hop off the couch and go dancing. My job has already started calling me wondering when I'll be back to work. UUHHGGGG! On the up side, I'm not in the pain that I was in before the surgery. I keep telling myself that I'm going to send my BRILLIANT doctor a thank you card. I spotted for a day after the surgery, but haven't seen a trace of blood for going on 4 days now, which to me, is miraculous. I don't really feel the need for my pain pills, but I am taking them as prescribed to ensure that my body has a chance to heal. The incision site is so clean that it looks like scarring will be minimal and finally, once again my partner has been soooooooo good through this.
I'm trying to be patient and remember that this is going to be a slow process, but I'm so ready to get to living life. The horrible pain is gone, but I still have to let my body get used to it's new configuration. I want so badly to work out but have been ordered to keep it to minimal walking for now. I guess this is mainly a vent about having to park on the couch and the lack of understanding that some people have about just how hard it is NOT to jump back in to life. Thanks for being here Hystersisters, I know I'm not alone.
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Unread 03-10-2012, 02:43 AM
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Your sleep patterns are like mine. Worked out with trainer prior to surgery(almost 5 weeks ago), and I don't go back to dr. until The 23rd. No way am I ready to work out. The only people that can really understand what you are going through are the ones on this site. And they are great! Sounds like your surgery went remarkably well. Hang in there
Unread 03-10-2012, 05:12 AM
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I have my Doctor to thank for how well the surgery went. I was originaly scheduled for a TVH but once inside they discovered a raging case of endo that made "delivering" the uterus impossible. I was also supposed to keep both my ovaries, but once he open up the abdominal incision he found one of my ovaries covered in cysts and in his words "beyond salvageable"
I think if I had any other doctor, things could have gone very badly. He was skillful in his sewing skills as well. (the incision looks great) I'm am grateful to have him for my doctor and for the care that he provided.
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Unread 03-10-2012, 05:30 AM
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He sounds awesome. Pretty much like my experience at the Mayo clinic. At my post op, I feel like I should take him something to show gratitude. Any ideas?
Unread 03-10-2012, 05:36 AM
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LoriGH your story sounds some what like mine, No one understands all they know is that lucky (fill in the blank) she won't get a period no more......LOL

I'm almost 5 weeks post op as much as my mind tells me you can do it my body tells me others wise the only complaint I have is fatigue and swelly belly. I'm so ready to get back to a normal life.
However, since I've been home all I think and dream about is sex and lately I have exchange that craving for a snicker bar (packed with nuts...LOL) that's as close as I'm going to get until April.

I was told to Rest, Walk,and Rest so annoying but this is your only chance to heal correctly.
Unread 03-10-2012, 05:41 AM
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Lea--I have eaten 2 packages of fig newtons, 5 bowls of ice cream, and a 6 pack of chocolate pudding. Crave all the junk, and I don't really have a sweet tooth. I have not gained any weight YET. Think your followup is earlier than mine. Isn't it on the 20th? Mine-23rd. Let's see what we hear about the sex thing.
Unread 03-10-2012, 05:54 AM
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Lori, sounds like your going thru a spell of what must of us do. Feeling free of the pain & bleeding etc. that caused us to need our hysterectomies, and ready to go go go. However, our bodies are not ready to start exploring our whole new world. Very frustrating, the wait to heal & be back to do what we need or want to do. Not to discourage you but it takes months of healing . Remember if you over do things you body will fight back with fatigue, swelling or pains/pressure or worse by having injured something on the inside.
I'm only at 4 weeks and am totally going thru a mental breakdown. I want to do & go so badly. But somehow I seem to over do it and end up with lots of pressure and swelly. Spend the next several days lying down & resting. So frustrating.
As for your friends & work, don't let them guilt you into doing. It's your body and you've had Major surgery, it's not like having your tonsils removed. People really as a whole have no idea what it's like to recover from this, mentally and physically draining.
Hang in there, rest, heal & know your not alone, there's always your hystersisters who are probably going through the same things as you.
Unread 03-10-2012, 06:16 AM
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Jersey yes I'm the 20th but DH goes out of town on the 19th and won't be back until the April 6th the day after my birthday....I thought darn by then I can say I haven't had sex since I was
Unread 03-10-2012, 06:22 AM
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oh, that stinks but maybe better in the long run. Gives you extra time without the guilt.
Unread 03-10-2012, 06:54 AM
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All your feelings will come and go, you seem to be on the right path. I'm at 3 weeks post op now and still feeling those feelings. I had a week long setback and got very depressed in that week. My ovaries seem to be functioning well as I am now getting PMS symptoms, which contribute to very poor and illogical thinking. Im counting down to my 6 week check, that's my first milestone and hoping a semi positive attitude will help that.

(((hugs))) I'm told it gets better

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