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  #141  
Unread 04-03-2012, 09:35 AM
Re: Emotional issues with vagina after TVH?

Hi Smishy, welcome to the other side! It took me about 2 weeks before I worked up the nerve to get a mirror and take a look. Everything looks the same for me.

MLB, how is this week going for you? Much better than Friday, I hope?
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  #142  
Unread 04-03-2012, 09:43 AM
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I hate my vagina right now because the doctor didn't do the repairs to fix the prolapse of my bladder or rectum, so it looks the same as it did before the surgery and I am completely disappointed. I guess from now on I will just have to live with incontenence and I will not bother trying to date or meet anyone because I wouldn't want to get into a relationship like this.
  #143  
Unread 04-03-2012, 09:57 AM
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I just have to say that we are more than the sum of our parts. Our vaginas do Not define who we are. It is a part of us only. How many drop dead gorgeous women are utterly ugly inside?
I think if the right guy comes along, what is going on down there will be acceptable and even beautiful in the eyes of that one.
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  #144  
Unread 04-03-2012, 09:59 AM
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I fear my vagina at this point. My hysterectomy proved that I have a pretty rare and agressive form of uterine cancer that has most likely spread to my vagina. So I am afraid of what could possibly be hiding in there at this point. I worry about my next post op appointment when my gyno/oncologist is going to want to look around in there. I worry about my DH and trying to resume a sex life when the Dr releases me. Should I be putting anything in there, when there might be cancer lurking? Will it hurt? Will it cause any damage? So many questions that I need to write down to ask the obgyn/oncologist. Its sad to now fear a part of my body that I had loved and enjoyed so much just a year ago. I thank god my DH is such a good man, I know he will love me no matter what, but I feel like I have taken away a vital part of his life too.
  #145  
Unread 04-03-2012, 10:49 AM
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Originally Posted by sugarandspice View Post
Hi Smishy, welcome to the other side! It took me about 2 weeks before I worked up the nerve to get a mirror and take a look. Everything looks the same for me.

MLB, how is this week going for you? Much better than Friday, I hope?
sugarandspice, I STILL haven't looked at mine! Not gonna either!

It has been a very long week and it's only Tuesday. But better than Friday. I haven't cried, which is progress, right??? I'm not sleeping so I'm exhausted. I am coming in at 7:00 and leaving around 2:00 so that's 7 hours. Almost a full day. I will bump it up to a full day next week. Thanks for checking on me
  #146  
Unread 04-03-2012, 10:55 AM
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I fear my vagina at this point. My hysterectomy proved that I have a pretty rare and agressive form of uterine cancer that has most likely spread to my vagina. So I am afraid of what could possibly be hiding in there at this point. I worry about my next post op appointment when my gyno/oncologist is going to want to look around in there. I worry about my DH and trying to resume a sex life when the Dr releases me. Should I be putting anything in there, when there might be cancer lurking? Will it hurt? Will it cause any damage? So many questions that I need to write down to ask the obgyn/oncologist. Its sad to now fear a part of my body that I had loved and enjoyed so much just a year ago. I thank god my DH is such a good man, I know he will love me no matter what, but I feel like I have taken away a vital part of his life too.
KaylaV, I'm so sorry about your cancer. We all have enough fears about that part of our body after surgery and you have an extra added fear that would be so hard to cope with. It DOES seem like a scary place where things could hide, doesn't it???? Your fears are totally valid but do write down every question you have before your next appointment... list them on a piece of paper and keep it in your hand and just start at the top and work your way through them. I do that and actually find that the doctors like it. Make notes as they answer so you can go back over them afterwards... I tend to forget their answers. My doctor now expects "the list". But she appreciates that I do it.

We are always hear to listen to concerns, fears or just good ol venting! ((HUGS))
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Unread 04-03-2012, 10:58 AM
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I hate my vagina right now because the doctor didn't do the repairs to fix the prolapse of my bladder or rectum, so it looks the same as it did before the surgery and I am completely disappointed. I guess from now on I will just have to live with incontenence and I will not bother trying to date or meet anyone because I wouldn't want to get into a relationship like this.
I'm single too canadianchic and the thought of dating or meeting someone completely freaks me out now. I have zero desire. None. I think about men and just feel kind of dead inside. I think it is physically impossible for me to get excited. Maybe it will pass, maybe it won't but for right now this is the way it is so I'm just going to focus on me and not dwell on it.
  #148  
Unread 04-03-2012, 11:04 AM
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Does anyone do or has anyone done Kegels?????? I know they are supposed to be "simple" but I'm afraid I'm not doing them right?? They said "locate those muscles", well how do I know if I've located the right muscles?? To be be honest, I wish the doctor would just give me a pill for the urine leakage and be done with it already. I don't want to wait another 4-6 weeks for Kegel exercises to work if they're even going to work! I'm SICK of wearing a pad every daggum day.

And, maybe I'm a total idiot but I'm not even 100% sure it IS urine. At this point, I can no longer even tell what's leaking from my vagina. Good grief. On the pad, it's like a dark yellow-light tan color. When I wipe, the only thing on the toilet paper is urine. I think. The doctor said last week that I still have sutures (5 weeks out) so maybe this is just the last of the discharge... The discharge was a pinkish/brownish color but maybe the color can change as it ends. I have no idea. I'm so sick of worrying about my vagina and what's coming out of it!!!!!!!!!
  #149  
Unread 04-03-2012, 11:08 AM
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Originally Posted by singlechick View Post
I just have to say that we are more than the sum of our parts. Our vaginas do Not define who we are. It is a part of us only. How many drop dead gorgeous women are utterly ugly inside?
I think if the right guy comes along, what is going on down there will be acceptable and even beautiful in the eyes of that one.
You're right singlechick... our vaginas don't define who we are and neither does a uterus or the lack of one! It's just scary. When my mother had her hysterectomy, she'd been married almost 40 years. There's a certain comfort in that. You don't have that with someone new... meeting someone new is scary enough without throwing this in with everything else! But, at least for me, that's a worry for another day.... another day way way way way way way in the future!!!!!!!!!!! (I'm trying to prioritize my worries at this point!) haha!
  #150  
Unread 04-03-2012, 11:17 AM
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mlb, since your post wondering if you were leaking urine, I've started to wonder the same thing. Occasionally I'll feel a sudden wetness and I'm not sure if it's discharge or urine. I think it's discharge... I have been doing kegels off and on, I keep forgetting to do them. I went to physio post op and she explained it like this: put your left hand above your left hip and put your right hand just below your right ribs. You want to feel the muscles flexing with your left hand but not your right. She says if you feel your muscles flexing higher up under your right hand you're doing them wrong. It's very hard to do. They say to practice when you're peeing. Stop peeing midstream, and those are the muscles you want to use during kegels. I'm personally scared of prolapse now.

I'm glad this week is going a little better. Hang in there, my first week back was terrible. Everyone was nice to me and everything, but there were so many mistakes I had to fix and they were running behind so I had to catch up and I was just in so much pain. Each week is a little better.
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