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I am a mess: surgery 5/31 I am a mess: surgery 5/31

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  #191  
Unread 05-03-2012, 08:37 PM
Re: I am a mess

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Originally Posted by NotBrave View Post
Thank you to those that sent me replies. I hope you all will be there to help me get thru this. You might be strangers in one way but you are friends in another. Today I just want to cry and cry and cry. The anxiety and fear are awful. Also awful are women that have been through this but have a stronger personality and look at me as "a baby". It makes me feel lonely.
Hey Not Brave...neither am I brave! Today, at my pre-op testing, there were two women in the room with me. One was training the other one who used to be a cardiac nurse...anyway, at the time when I mentioned how very frightened I was...the nurse leaned over and said she had the surgery three years prior...I asked her is she was as scared as I was. She looked at me and laughed (not in a mean way) and she said certainly not! She said she was very accustomed to surgery so it was a piece of cake, crumb cake I believe it was. But you know what, I told her that too bad, I am still scared. I do not work in a surgical manner and I'm afraid of so many things! The day my doctor called and told me the date of my surgery (May 10th) I was calm, polite, and perhaps even professional about it. Then I quietly hung up the phone and promptly burst into tears! Fortunately I was home alone...But I cried for a good ten minutes...all because I felt sorry for myself. Then I dried my tears and went out and bought myself a new bag. Then I really felt better.

The moral of this story is that you are not a baby, my friend. And don't feel lonely...you have all of us!!! I think you're fabulous for being able to talk about your true feelings. I wish you the absolute best.
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  #192  
Unread 05-03-2012, 09:35 PM
Re: I am a mess

NotBrave!
I haven't checked in with you for awhile and I hope you are doing well. I hope support from this site continues to help you. Keep coming here and you will get through this. I just saw all of your questions about the hospital stay.

I can tell you that I received excellent care at the hospital. You probably won't really feel like using your I-pod if you are staying only one night. They will keep you pretty busy.

I can't address your question about the incision because I had a daVinci Assisted Robotic Surgery so I had five very small incisions. I think if you take care of it and follow your doctors instructions, your incision should heal very well.

My catheter came out the next morning and it wasn't really painful. I felt like I had to go frequently but that got better within 24 hrs. When they pulled out the 'packing' it was uncomfortable but no real pain.

I had my surgery at 7:30 in the morning and I got up and walked that afternoon, but I wasn't pressured. I was able to make that decision, not the nurses.

NotBrave, I hope this helps you some. Remember that you are not alone - we are here for you! NEVER feel bad about being scared. We all were!!


  #193  
Unread 05-04-2012, 09:12 AM
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Hey Not Brave...neither am I brave! Today, at my pre-op testing, there were two women in the room with me. One was training the other one who used to be a cardiac nurse...anyway, at the time when I mentioned how very frightened I was...the nurse leaned over and said she had the surgery three years prior...I asked her is she was as scared as I was. She looked at me and laughed (not in a mean way) and she said certainly not! She said she was very accustomed to surgery so it was a piece of cake, crumb cake I believe it was. But you know what, I told her that too bad, I am still scared. I do not work in a surgical manner and I'm afraid of so many things! The day my doctor called and told me the date of my surgery (May 10th) I was calm, polite, and perhaps even professional about it. Then I quietly hung up the phone and promptly burst into tears! Fortunately I was home alone...But I cried for a good ten minutes...all because I felt sorry for myself. Then I dried my tears and went out and bought myself a new bag. Then I really felt better.

The moral of this story is that you are not a baby, my friend. And don't feel lonely...you have all of us!!! I think you're fabulous for being able to talk about your true feelings. I wish you the absolute best.

Thank you Topchef. I will sure be thinking of you and praying for you on the 10th! Just think ..... by the time my surgery date comes you will be more than 2 weeks into recovery and feeling so much better! We will do fine but that doesn't make it any less scarey for now does it? I wish I could hug you but I least know that I want to : )
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  #194  
Unread 05-04-2012, 10:35 AM
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Not brave. Its like a c section. Cath. Depends mine one night. They monitor you like a hawk. And they make you get up and walk the next day they have to make sure you are ok and it will feel like a lil pressure. But not bad. Then they take out the cath and see if you can pee . You will be on pain meds but nothing hard core. And if music calms you bring it. Make sure you dont eat reg food. Ask them for lite food. The pain meds make you a lil constipated. Stool softners and alot of water will help so have those on hand. Also a warm heating pad I find wet heat works better. They are going to take such good care of you. No lifting vacume xleaning driving dancing haha. If you like to read get books movies. When ready walk lil bit at time. When cleared walk. Not brave when is the day so I can be praying for you. You will be tired but you will be ok lol
  #195  
Unread 05-04-2012, 12:46 PM
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Thank you Topchef. I will sure be thinking of you and praying for you on the 10th! Just think ..... by the time my surgery date comes you will be more than 2 weeks into recovery and feeling so much better! We will do fine but that doesn't make it any less scarey for now does it? I wish I could hug you but I least know that I want to : )
Wow, I felt your hug and here's one right back at you. I am so emotional right now that when I read what you said, tears came to my eyes. And I am ususally not that emotional!! O.K. that wasn't really true...but I am WAY more tearful than normal!

When is your surgery date? I will definitely be praying for you and sending you all kinds of good wishes...
  #196  
Unread 05-04-2012, 01:07 PM
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To you ladies. Who are scared. Its been a year for me. And I got very quiet meaning I was scarred. But when I got there they were so helpful and explained everything. Everystep one sec you are awake and the next it is over. I wish I could ease your minds and take away your fear. My prayers will be with you all. May tenth is my moms bday so that will be easy to remember. God bless and keep you there is a verse . That keeps me calm. Be still and know that I am God. Hes got this lol
  #197  
Unread 05-04-2012, 09:14 PM
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To you ladies. Who are scared. Its been a year for me. And I got very quiet meaning I was scarred. But when I got there they were so helpful and explained everything. Everystep one sec you are awake and the next it is over. I wish I could ease your minds and take away your fear. My prayers will be with you all. May tenth is my moms bday so that will be easy to remember. God bless and keep you there is a verse . That keeps me calm. Be still and know that I am God. Hes got this lol
Thank you, Vonnie123 for your kinds words.
  #198  
Unread 05-04-2012, 09:30 PM
Re: I am a mess

I just want to wish you all the best. i am 10 days post op and am doing well. I too was very scared before my surgery, but i made it through and you will too! Good Luck
  #199  
Unread 05-05-2012, 06:17 PM
Re: I am a mess

Oh my gosh. I am such a baby! Sometimes I even surprise myself. I have been doing pretty good but today I had a big melt down.

My right ear has been hurting and I pulled a muscle on the left side of my neck. The ear has been bothering me for several days and kept me up last night so I went to a Prompt Care today to make sure it wasn't infected. It's not. I think it is all from stress and tense muscles. The doctor gave me some muscle relaxers which I will take tonight.

I quess my anxiety wasn't as under control as I thought. When I got back from the doctors I just burst into tears. My poor husband.

I am ok now but I do feel upset with myself for being so out of control sometimes. It depresses me and I lose my perspective. Big sigh.

I will see better days right?
  #200  
Unread 05-05-2012, 08:31 PM
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You are going to have meltdown days...it just goes with the territory of having a hysterectomy. This surgery is really a tough one to handle because it is removing such an intimate part. in there. We understand what you are going through....

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