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overwhelemd isnt even acurate :( overwhelemd isnt even acurate :(

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Unread 04-05-2012, 07:51 AM
overwhelemd isnt even acurate :(

Friday the 13th is my big day and ive yet to get the house cleaned or even finish this weeks laundry. Im a single mom of 4. I have 2 toddlers ages 1 and 2 one 9 year old one 6 year old my 6 year old is autistic. We just got his diagnosis this week he also has impulse control disorder. Im worried about recovery and being super woman because lets get real the words take it easy dont exactly float around that often for moms. My ex husband has offered to help with my recovery but im so irritated with him im just venting i guess this morning was hard im in pain has another random period this week because mother nature couldnt let me just get to surgery without one more. I am worried I wont know how to find the strength i need to get threw things. Im worried i wont wake up from the surgery im worried there is gonna be some last minute oh you have to pay 5K. Im just a stress ball. I guess i just wanna know it can be done. Ive gone threw 4 c secs and was fine for the most part i lived threw them but i just wanna recover and be my better self pain free completly some day :/
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Unread 04-05-2012, 08:41 AM
Re: overwhelemd isnt even acurate :(

Well, first off, take a deep breath....I can feel your emotion right through my monitor (((HUGS)))

Next, I would suggest to just do what you can and forget about the rest before your surgery. Spend the next few hours playing with your kids, going for a walk or two iff the weather is nice and just maybe prep your recovery area so that you don't have to look at the mess.

And then I would take your ex up on his offer of help post-op. Unfortunately, you will need it, and whatever it is that's between you two can wait until you're feeling better.

Do you meditate at all? Sometimes just finding 5 minutes of quiet to organize your thoughts or relax your mind can do wonders. Good luck Hun <3 I hope you find some peace in your busy day! You have a lot on your plate.
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Unread 04-05-2012, 11:49 AM
Re: overwhelemd isnt even acurate :(

There came a point in time when I had to say "just forget about cleaning, I just want to get better"....
Will it really matter if all the laundry is done or if the beds are not made right? No it won't...
Do take your ex up on the help...
Even if it to take the kids so you can get good sleep...
The biggest issues I had was trying to be superwoman and overdoing it. Got to rest to heal...
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Unread 04-05-2012, 02:52 PM
Re: overwhelemd isnt even acurate :(

Oh man, I'm having the same struggle with accepting help from my Ex. I'm going to because he's really the only person that's offered...besides, if you have a good relationship with your ex it might not hurt to have someone that cares about you around...
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Unread 04-05-2012, 03:20 PM
Re: overwhelemd isnt even acurate :(

I'm sorry to hear about your worries Smmbm5. I would definatley accept any help offered as you will need it. Before surgery I would reccomend making sure that day to day things you need when you get back home are at waist level as much as possible. After my hyst it was the reaching and bending for stuff that were a problem, make sure you have a clean bed to get into and the kids clothes and neccesseties will be to hand. Nominate the 9 yr old as Moms special helper for when the ex isn't there and try not to worry about things that you cannot control.
Accept any help where it is offered. You can get back to being supermom when you are recovered.
Take care
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Unread 04-05-2012, 04:35 PM
Re: overwhelemd isnt even acurate :(

Smmbm5 -

Your main focus this week needs to be lining up some help with that many little ones you will need it.

Also get in easy food in that the children will like and maybe the 9 year old can help make. PB&J, canned soups, call-out menus for pizza so there are easy things that won't require a lot of heavy lifting. Also paper plates and things that don't require a lot of clean-up.

Call friends and see if they can rotate stopping by and pitching in.

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Unread 04-05-2012, 04:48 PM
Re: overwhelemd isnt even acurate :(

Don't feel bad. My surgery is tuesday and i am so behind. i have so much to do at home and work its not funny but at least my work is computer work so i can do it while im laying around afterwards. you will do fine. you dont needto be super woman during recovery. and just think, mine is total abdominal, 6 week of recovery, yours is simple and you should have short 2 week recovery then you will be back better than ever to take care of those kiddos. super big hugs, you are doing great momma! we are here for you.

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Friday the 13th is my big day and ive yet to get the house cleaned or even finish this weeks laundry. Im a single mom of 4. I have 2 toddlers ages 1 and 2 one 9 year old one 6 year old my 6 year old is autistic. We just got his diagnosis this week he also has impulse control disorder. Im worried about recovery and being super woman because lets get real the words take it easy dont exactly float around that often for moms. My ex husband has offered to help with my recovery but im so irritated with him im just venting i guess this morning was hard im in pain has another random period this week because mother nature couldnt let me just get to surgery without one more. I am worried I wont know how to find the strength i need to get threw things. Im worried i wont wake up from the surgery im worried there is gonna be some last minute oh you have to pay 5K. Im just a stress ball. I guess i just wanna know it can be done. Ive gone threw 4 c secs and was fine for the most part i lived threw them but i just wanna recover and be my better self pain free completly some day :/
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Unread 04-06-2012, 12:07 AM
Re: overwhelemd isnt even acurate :(

I can totally understand why you are stressed! All I can tell you is that if there is ever a time to swallow your pride accept help, it is now. I had a terrible time asking for/accepting help before, but you are only hurting yourself. Trust me. Best of luck to you!!
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Unread 04-10-2012, 02:59 PM
Re: overwhelemd isnt even acurate :(

Thanks everyone my ex and me are good friends but he can rub the wrong way i did run into a bump pre op with the hospital charging me 1300 they failed to mention before hand its taken care of by the grace of God and i am feeling better. I did think it strange that they dont call with arrival time till thursday ? seems so last minute. I really appreciate the understnding so many people just think "oh your so lucky no more periods" but they dont get why all this is happening and what ive had to go threw. I love the idea of my 9 year old getting a title to help he always wants to do more but im very "ill do the mom thing your the kid" lol silly i know but i have faith this will all go well 3 more days .... crazy!
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Unread 04-11-2012, 11:53 AM
Re: overwhelemd isnt even acurate :(

I will be thinking of you Friday and sending healing thoughts your way.
Take care
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