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why cant my hubby just get it??? why cant my hubby just get it???

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  #31  
Unread 04-11-2012, 11:47 AM
Re: why cant my hubby just get it???

Wow! After reading through this post, I am even more grateful for the man that I have. I didnt have to ask, nag, beg anything to get him to help around the house. He just bucked up and did it. By 2 weeks post op I was doing a bit more and was even able to cook a meal or two each week after. If I couldnt I couldnt. Didnt hear a single sigh. Even started doing the dishes at about 2 or 3 weeks post op. Sure it took me a couple of hours to get them done but Id have to stop every 5 minutes or so and have to sit down but I was never more proud of myself for doing them on my own. I am a very independent woman and for me to have to rely on a man to do things was rough going but I made myself lay around for the first 2 weeks. After that I pushed myself a lil bit to at least do one thing on my own, no matter how long it took me to do it. Two hours to wash 2 days worth of dishes for a family of 3. Yup.. but I did it. Of course I was hurting pretty good after that but I was all that much better for it really. I couldnt do the sitting around doing nothing for the 6-8 weeks it takes to heal.

And sorry ladies but getting a man fixed is WAY different than us. They go in on a Friday and they are back to work with no restrictions that following Monday. No comparison ladies. LOL!
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  #32  
Unread 04-11-2012, 01:22 PM
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I've been reading a few of the posts on this thread to my DH the past 3 days. He's noticing stuff and it's been better. He seems to me like a saint now that I have read some of the other posts. Just a bit ago he was Windexing the screen door glass ( for no reason at all ) and I told him he better stop doing that kind of stuff cause he's going to make the other histerhusbands look bad. He laughed. I figure It's better to make sure he knows he's doing a great job than it is for me to complain about the 1 or 2 things he isn't doing, cause he's been great all except that one time he exploded on me the other day.
  #33  
Unread 04-11-2012, 02:47 PM
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After reading all of these posts yesterday, I thanked my hubby for looking after me for the entire 9 weeks of my recovery. I did absolutely nothing for 9 weeks except for looking after myself and focusing on healing right. I am lucky that my hubby is retired so he had the time but I still wanted him to know how appreciated he was even though I am almost a year and half post-op.
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Unread 04-11-2012, 02:57 PM
why cant my hubby just get it???

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Originally Posted by Danni3ll3 View Post
After reading all of these posts yesterday, I thanked my hubby for looking after me for the entire 9 weeks of my recovery. I did absolutely nothing for 9 weeks except for looking after myself and focusing on healing right. I am lucky that my hubby is retired so he had the time but I still wanted him to know how appreciated he was even though I am almost a year and half post-op.
Amen! Me too. I am five weeks, but my hubby, like yours insists that I save all my energy for healing. My body, especially my incision, is not healing as fast as i want. But he has been great.
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Unread 04-15-2012, 06:32 AM
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Sweetie - just remember - ignore the mess, get yourself better and stronger, and you'll come out the other side. This site is great for support and when you're feeling down, check out the Humor part of the site - it'll cheer you up so much, but hold on to your stitches. Stay strong, remember there are lots of us thinking about you and wishing you a good recovery. Lots of love x
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Unread 04-15-2012, 07:31 AM
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Husbands are a complicated lot! Mine has been pretty good, cooking, washing, looking after me, but yet I see every little thing that needs doing. Ggggrrr however I know 100% that me healing is much more important than a hairball in the hard to reach corner of the ensuite.

I don't get it though why am I the only one in a house of five people that notices a big drip of beet root juice down the front of the white kitchen cupboards????

I do thank god for my hubby every day though especially when he walks in from work and asks what I want for dinner

To all of you having hubby difficulties ((((((hug)))))) look after yourself and remember healing well is your first priority. Xx
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Unread 04-15-2012, 09:37 AM
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Originally Posted by UKKerrie View Post
Sweetie - just remember - ignore the mess, get yourself better and stronger, and you'll come out the other side. This site is great for support and when you're feeling down, check out the Humor part of the site - it'll cheer you up so much, but hold on to your stitches. Stay strong, remember there are lots of us thinking about you and wishing you a good recovery. Lots of love x
Supportive replies like this are so great to see - words and wishes that will really help the person who started this thread. I worried about how she felt, and I think your comments are just what she would need to hear - that there is understanding for her troubles. I love that you directed her and the rest of us to the Humor area - great idea! Thanks for posting!
  #38  
Unread 04-15-2012, 04:02 PM
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I understand. I have a husband who isn't even employed full-time (2 days a week) and had to take a few days to clean up the living room. My mom had already cleaned it, it got bad FAST, and he couldn't go back to cleaning it, apparently.

Now, he did do things, it just took a while. (Which, as the breadwinner, irritated me because I felt like I had lost my uterus due to stress from my horrible full-time job-- a job where I feel harassed/abused/overworked/underpaid-- and there he goes, complaining because he just worked 5 hours the night before.)

But I think I read that you just moved to the area. Maybe he is going under his own depression because of change. Maybe on top of the move, he feels overwhelmed because of work, AND the feeling that he has the second job of cleaning.

Yes, it's selfish, and yes, he probably deserves a kick in the head, but these days will pass. You just need to heal so that you *can* go back to taking care of yourself.

Hopefully, he'll mature enough one day to feel bad about how he reacted.

Or he'll feel bad when HE has an operation, and YOU sacrifice all to help him. (That had to happen w/me and my husband during a cold. I had one first and he took it as a cue to go out with his friends all week. When he had one and I did nothing but sit around and wait for him to ask for more meds or soup, he felt bad and never left me alone with a cold, again).
  #39  
Unread 04-15-2012, 06:11 PM
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I so know what u mean, I feel the same..it didn't matter the pain we were in before the surgery cause if the house was not clean then we must have been sitting on our butts all day being lazy..hell I am four days post op and decided to leave, been sitting in my truck just thinking..he is a work aholic and he took the last few days off and he has just sat there..I know its hard for him, but really..I sent my nine year old to my dads so its only been him and my two teenagers there and my house is in shambles..they don't care and they all go back to work tomorrow and leave me with a nasty house..before surgery I made sure it was all clean, laundry all done and cleaned carpets..they have not even bothered ro sweep them since I did night before surgery..I so made the mistake of having this done..he just got done reminding me I am really messed up..and that I am..sorry ladies my mom is passed and I have no where to turn, sorry I vented on u all.
  #40  
Unread 04-15-2012, 06:16 PM
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Ohh geez big hug to all the sisters who are not feeling supported by hubby and families. Xxx
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