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Unread 01-09-2002, 08:11 PM
Don't know who to believe

I am not yet scheduled for my surgery, however, need to ask all of you who have been thru it....Are you glad you did it? How has it affected you sexually? I am mother of 4, the last a csection because my uterus "collapsed" and the baby was transverse. Then in 97 I helped hubby lift a washing machine(don't do it!) This caused (in addtion to all the babies) a cystocele, rectocele, and so in 98 I had a bladder suspension and a&p repair done. Then in 99 a large inguinal hernia repair...soon after my uterus began to prolapse. Since my then dr has retired, my new gyn has been suggesting for the last 2 years that I should have a hyster....vaginally.
I have done some reading that said removal of the uterus adversely affects a woman's sexuality and ability to have an orgasm.
My concern is that there is really nothing else wrong with my uterus...went thru menopause and am on HRT successfully.
I AM becoming really uncomfortable with it....backaches, cant go for walks or do much housework etc without feeling like I am 9 mos pregnant and something ready to drop....
Anyone else been in my shoes and how did you feel after?

Thanks for the truthful advice.
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Unread 01-09-2002, 08:23 PM
Don't know who to believe

I had my hyst for different reasons than you, but I can tell you I have not had one minute of regret. I feel great, my sex life is even better than before because I feel so much better. No difference in how sex feels for either me or my husband.

Good luck to you.
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Unread 01-09-2002, 10:01 PM
Don't know who to believe

Me too! Different reasons, but happy, happy, happy with the results. Would have done it sooner, but couldn't convince a doc there was anything wrong.

Make yourself up a list of all the things you can't do, or can't enjoy, because of your problems, and look at how much of an affect that has on your quality of life - then compare it to the recovery period for a hyst (6-8 weeks, more or less), with the promise of health and comfort afterward, and see if that helps with your decision.
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Unread 01-09-2002, 10:45 PM
Me Too

Hello There
I also had my Hyster for different reasons, but I don't regret it one bit. It was the best thing I ever did for myself.
Here's hoping you make the right decision for you.
Take Care
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Unread 01-14-2002, 05:02 AM
Don't know who to believe

Thanks for your responses....I just can't get over the nagging feeling that hysterectomy is not the right thing for me. I would rather, if I have to have surgery, have a repair and retain all of my healthy body parts...my uterus is healthy, I have never had period troubles, it is only the ligaments and tendons that have been damaged. If I damaged a ligament in my knee, would the dr want to amputate my leg from the knee down? NO! That would be ridiculous! So why do docs think hysterectomy is the cure for every female woe? The insurance company, too, will not pay for a repair when they think down the road they would have to pay for a hyster too.
I have been still reading and feel sure I would be one of those who would mourn the loss and feel sad and depressed.
Thanks for your responses....with 4 kids I can't get on line too often (In between their "chats"), but I do appreciate it!
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Unread 01-14-2002, 05:34 AM
Don't know who to believe

Talbrig13....sounds like for now you may have your answer. You seem to be saying that its not for you at this time. I would suggest possibly finding another doctor or at least a second opinion. Go for a third or a fourth until you find a doctor ready to try everything else before going ahead with a hysterectomy. At least then you can rest assured that you really did all you could do first. I wish you the best in making your decision.
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Unread 01-14-2002, 06:23 AM
Don't know who to believe

I am not yet scheduled for my surgery, however, need to ask all of you who have been thru it....Are you glad you did it? How has it affected you sexually? I am mother of 4, the last a csection because my uterus "collapsed" and the baby was transverse. Then in 97 I helped hubby lift a washing machine(don't do it!) This caused (in addtion to all the babies) a cystocele, rectocele, and so in 98 I had a bladder suspension and a&p repair done. Then in 99 a large inguinal hernia repair...soon after my uterus began to prolapse. Since my then dr has retired, my new gyn has been suggesting for the last 2 years that I should have a hyster....vaginally.
I have done some reading that said removal of the uterus adversely affects a woman's sexuality and ability to have an orgasm.
My concern is that there is really nothing else wrong with my uterus...went thru menopause and am on HRT successfully.
I AM becoming really uncomfortable with it....backaches, cant go for walks or do much housework etc without feeling like I am 9 mos pregnant and something ready to drop....
Anyone else been in my shoes and how did you feel after?

Thanks for the truthful advice.
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Unread 01-14-2002, 07:19 PM
Don't know who to believe

I made an appt today to get a 2nd opinion...a ob/gyn who does prolapse surgeries and hysterectomy alternatives....looked him up on the facog website. Can you believe I got an appt for tomorrow? Wonder if I should be concerned about him not having enough patients to be busy, be good at what he does. Do not know anyone else who has gone to him, so will be on my own with any decisions.
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Unread 01-14-2002, 07:55 PM
Don't know who to believe

Well, I wish you the very best at your Dr. app. tomorrow, but I just wanted to add some more positive feedback about going through with a TVH. I had one almost 5 wks ago. I'm 33 with 3 children and unlike you I have had annoying problems for sometime. The the main reason my surgery was performed was due to uterine prolapse. I have had a pretty easy recovery and already can tell the quality of life for me from here on is gonna be much better. Maybe too since you're already established on a good HRT regimen there shouldn't be much difference, if any, how you feel sexually. Those hormones are obviously doing the trick for you. When I got my Path. report back my uterus was very unhealthy and that wasn't something my Dr. could see in my case before hand. I have absolutely no regrets so far, can't imagine why I ever would. Now, my husband and I haven't been given the go ahead yet, but I feel almost positive it's gonna be better with that old thing out of the way. I hope you're at peace with any decision you make.

The Lord is the strength of my Life!!
Kaye
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Unread 01-14-2002, 08:38 PM
Don't know who to believe

Dear Talbrig,

Go to this link to learn lots more about prolapse & the other options that may be available to you:

http://pages.prodigy.com/prolapse.html/

Good luck on your appointment with the uro-gynecologist. Only YOU must live with your pre-op symptoms and your post-op results, good or bad. Get smart about your symptoms and your options, and make the best choice for YOU.

I am sending cyberhugs
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