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Unread 04-09-2012, 09:15 PM
Feeling detached...

Hi all,

I am feeling quite well, however, I have noticied I am feeling somewhat detached lately. Not depressed, more as if I am pickind and choosing who I want to spend my time and efforts on.....

All in all, I would have to say my recovery has been fairly smooth, I am taking HRT, for the most part my mood is fairly good, and I'm not feeling grief regarding hysterectomy.....just a little stand offish....

Anyone else feeling this way? Suggestions?

Thnx,

J
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Unread 04-09-2012, 09:30 PM
Re: Feeling detached...

I've been feeling the same way. To me it's sort of a wanting to be totally alone type of thing, but then afraid to be alone at the same time. It's hard to describe. I just know that it's hard to want to be around people when you're not feeling 100% there. I'm not sure if that makes any sense, but since I've had this surgery I feel like nobody else understands, except other women who've gone through it. It's sort of occupying all my thoughts right now.

Even with HRT, you're going through a huge change and maybe priorities are shifting a little bit more towards yourself, which is the way it should be while you're healing!
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Unread 04-09-2012, 09:47 PM
Re: Feeling detached...

I can so relate and this is the second time I am going through it. Nothing like feeling alone in a room full of people, huh? I do think part of it is hormone imbalance and part of it is grief from losing our girl parts, even if we were at peace with the decision before the hyster. I think the picking and choosing of people is our minds way of helping us to cope with something we don't quite understand. From my post hyster funk last year I noticed once I was back into a normal everyday routine it dimished quickly. I am just now getting back into the swing of things from my last op and adjusting to HRT, so hoping it passes quickly. I wish the same for you ladies too. HUGS to you both!
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Unread 04-09-2012, 09:59 PM
Re: Feeling detached...

I agree, I think it's partly hormone imbalance and grief of losing a part of us. I know a woman is not the sum of her parts, but I can relate to the feeling of "not being whole". Sometimes I feel exposed...like everyone knows I'm missing a part of me. Trying to get used to the "new normal" is a process.
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Unread 04-09-2012, 10:00 PM
Re: Feeling detached...

I think my grief about my girl parts is not that they're gone, but that my belly is BIGGER without them! Just for now, until the swelling goes down...
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Unread 04-10-2012, 02:50 AM
Re: Feeling detached...

I've oddly found that this has been a great time of reflection in my own life. I have always kept a journal but in the last few years I will finish 80 or 100 pages a year. I really didn't have much to say. But I've been on medical leave since the 16th March and have filled half of the journal I started on the 1 January just in that time- sitting down in the afternoon for an hour and reflecting. I wasn't unhappy before, but I feel better for the reflection. I think having to have surgery really puts life into perspective and can be positive for your frame of mind going into the future. I'm 35 and won't have children now (at least not biologically) so I began reflecting on that and feelings just gushed out about everything!
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Unread 04-10-2012, 04:14 AM
Re: Feeling detached...

Me too!

I'm 8 weeks out now (hard to believe it's been that long already) and am starting to feel much more like me. But I do notice that same feeling. I want to say I'm more focused on me now than ever. I felt quite hurt by the lack of response and support from those that were close to me and I believe my surgery put a lot on the table for me to see. My recovery has been seemingly uncomplicated and uneventful and in all reality, compared to how I felt pre op I actually feel incredible. But my mind space is still different. I don't have any grief for my uterus, in fact she was a burden and I would have jumped for joy in recovery had they let me. It's hard to explain. 4

I don't think my post is helpful lol but you are definitely not alone




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Originally Posted by Josette47 View Post
Hi all,

I am feeling quite well, however, I have noticied I am feeling somewhat detached lately. Not depressed, more as if I am pickind and choosing who I want to spend my time and efforts on.....

All in all, I would have to say my recovery has been fairly smooth, I am taking HRT, for the most part my mood is fairly good, and I'm not feeling grief regarding hysterectomy.....just a little stand offish....

Anyone else feeling this way? Suggestions?

Thnx,

J
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Unread 04-10-2012, 07:30 AM
Re: Feeling detached...

Thanks to all of you who replied! It's nice to know that to some degree or another I'm not the only one who has this "detached" feeling, hope things are going well for each of you!
J
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Unread 04-10-2012, 07:42 AM
Feeling detached...

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Originally Posted by Josette47 View Post
Thanks to all of you who replied! It's nice to know that to some degree or another I'm not the only one who has this "detached" feeling, hope things are going well for each of you!
J
I know how you feel! I am having incision issues and between the multiple trips to the doctor a week, being poked and prodded, and just being uncomfortable and done with all this slow healing business, I would rather be left alone, too. Although I am thankful when people bring me a suprise meal or check up on me. I just hate it when well- meaning people like my mother in law tell me i am not healing because of something I am doing or not doing, and thats just not true. I try to limit my conversations with her to five minutes, she keeps trying to prescribe self hypnosis, meditation, spells, and all kinds of crazy herbal concoctions. I usually love her unique view of the world, but during this time I need sound medical treatment and not healing crystals and tree bark in my open wound.
So detachment, I think it is kinda normal. And I FEEL YA'!
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Unread 04-10-2012, 08:33 AM
Re: Feeling detached...

I am feeling the same way. I was alone making the decission and now I am alone with the side effects. I dont even want to leave the house because I feel like everyone knows that I am not a whole woman anymore. I am glad its not just me.
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