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Unread 04-13-2012, 01:13 AM
Crazy Boss

My boss is going out of town for a conference and he is going to be covering my shift while I am out for surgery, well my surgery has yet again been rescheduled to May 4. My boss is leaving the 14Th-17Th of May and said I was gonna have to come in for a couple of nights to work. I know is basically gonna be impossible but how do I tell him that when he is not understanding the concept that I am having a major surgery done??? I cannot afford to loose my job so I need to be tactful about this. FYI my job is a sit down job at a desk or couch for 8 hours but 10 days after surgery....... he really needs to find someone else to cover that shift.
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Unread 04-13-2012, 01:27 AM
Re: Crazy Boss

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Originally Posted by jadedone79 View Post
my boss is going out of town for a conference and he is going to be covering my shift while i am out for surgery, well my surgery has yet again been rescheduled to may 4. My boss is leaving the 14th-17th of may and said i was gonna have to come in for a couple of nights to work. I know is basically gonna be impossible but how do i tell him that when he is not understanding the concept that i am having a major surgery done??? I cannot afford to loose my job so i need to be tactful about this. Fyi my job is a sit down job at a desk or couch for 8 hours but 10 days after surgery....... He really needs to find someone else to cover that shift.
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Unread 04-13-2012, 01:28 AM
Re: Crazy Boss

Hey Hun
Sorry to hear your boss is being a tool.
You could try explaining to him that you cannot work after your surgery for x amount of time, because if you do and get hurt than you will have to have MORE time off work to repair any damage that was done by working too soon after.
Is there anyone else you could ask to cover your shift?
Also im too sure about in the U.S, but if you have a doc's certificate you arn't aloud to work for that period of time because if something go's wrong your boss could be liable for damages...

Hope you get the answers you need and can get this sorted out
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Unread 04-13-2012, 02:10 AM
Re: Crazy Boss

Sorry to hear about your dilemma-although you may feel somewhat better after 10 days there is no way you will be able to work an 8 hour shift not to mention the fact you should not even be driving that early afterwards. To do so will result in your readmission to the hospital-sitting alone for that timeframe alone will increase your chance of developing blood clots. A job will not be of any use to you if you are dead-can always find another job but only have one life.
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Unread 04-13-2012, 04:42 AM
Re: Crazy Boss

Sorry to hear your boss is acting this way.
You need the time off for your health, both physical AND mental. Your body is not going to be the only thing going through changes.
I would recommend getting paperwork from your doctor. If he doesn't clear you to work, which I don't even think you'd be clear to DRIVE at that point, I'm not sure what legally he would be able to do. I know a lot of that varies on your state, but the stress of work can make things worse.

I know you can't lose your job, but as someone who has lost jobs due to my own disability, you need to be in a work enviornment that will support, or at least be sympathetic on what you are going through. It's going to be a long process, and adding the stress of bosses and coworkers that could care less can, and probably will, make you worse.

Hang in there. First step, talk to your doctor and get paperwork stating you are not able to work X amount of days/weeks, find out what legal grounds you have dependent on your state (incase he thretens anything), and remember the most important thing is doing what's best for you and your health.
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Unread 04-13-2012, 01:28 PM
Re: Crazy Boss

You are protected by federal law to be off work on disability.
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Unread 04-13-2012, 01:51 PM
Re: Crazy Boss

(((JadedOne)))

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Originally Posted by startfresh359 View Post
You are protected by federal law to be off work on disability.
Unfortunately, this isn't true for everyone, every company, and every state. My DH's company is not covered by FMLA and could legally "let go" anyone who wanted extended time off even for a health concern.

So before assuming you can force your boss to let you have some time off, do some research and find out what your options are. We all know that even if we have a right to our job, there are ways a boss could later legally retaliate. Have you talked to your doctor about what you might be able to do? Could you reschedule your surgery either a bit earlier or later to accommodate your boss? Would your boss let you work from home or only part of a shift?

I am guessing you are part of a smaller company and may not even have an HR department. If you do have HR, go talk to them. If not, you may want to check with the employment office to see what you would qualify for if you are let go because you cannot accommodate your boss's request.

My goes out to you and I hope you and your boss can work out a solution that works for both of you.

S
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Unread 04-13-2012, 03:09 PM
Re: Crazy Boss

I am so sorry that you have to go thru this...
How about a gentle worded letter from your doc to your boss. It may be all he needs to see how much this is going to affect you and how much time you really need. Tell your boss that you want to be there but you are afraid of having internal bleeding if you do too much. Come from the "Needy woman" point of view. Most Men want to help women in need.
Hope you get your time off to heal...
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Unread 04-13-2012, 03:55 PM
Re: Crazy Boss

Did you happen to tell him already that you aren't released to drive until day 15 post-op? That right there says a lot about the recovery process. He's wanting you to come in to work before the doctor even releases you to drive. Explain to him that it's major surgery and you will have hundreds of internal stitches that need to heal.

If at other times your boss has been reasonable, then this simply just might be a case of him not understanding how big this surgery and recovery are going to be. My husband thought a hysterectomy was out patient and that I'd be back to doing everything after 2 weeks. My husband isn't a jerk, just ignorant about hysterectomies.
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Unread 04-13-2012, 04:01 PM
Re: Crazy Boss

If nothing else works, definitely blame it on ur doc - this worked wonders for me - so instead of it looking like I was the one who wanted/needed to be off, I would tell my boss that I was just SOOOO upset that my doc refused to release me to work until day 15 This way it looks like you want to be there, but doc's orders, you can't - and you're soooo upset about it.... hopefully you get it worked out! If nothing else, can you be there via phone? Kind of like being on call or do you have to physically be sitting there?
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