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Unread 01-14-2002, 11:14 AM
worried about hysterectomy

I just found out I need TAHBSO for multiple myomas of the uterus and a possible dermoid cyst of my right ovary. I bled very heavy between periods and on birth control pills. Ulrasound found these beauties. I'm having the surgery on 2/1/02 and doing it with epidural with sedation. The twist to my story is my husband is a gyn and its in his hospital. no he is not doing it. I worry about recovery since I will be home by myself. My kids are in high school. Any advice? Thanks
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Unread 01-14-2002, 11:42 AM
worried about hysterectomy

Hi Sharyn,
As of today, I'm 7 weeks post op from a TAH/BSO. My sister rented a hospital bed for me before I came home. I'm so glad she had the foresight to do this. Being able to adjust to a sitting position really helped when it came to getting out of the bed. I had everything I needed on a table by my bed - water, meds, books, phone, etc. Make sure that you are close to a bathroom, I found that when my bladder was full I could not hold it for 2 seconds and had to get to the toilet quickly. I didn't have an appetite for the first week or two so food was not much of an issue. Before the surgery I stocked up alot on easy foods like soup, tuna & crackers packs. You won't feel like doing much more than lying around for a couple of weeks. After that you should be able to get around O.K. However, make sure that you do walk around a few times a day. I hope this helps. I'll say a prayer that you have a successful surgery and speedy recovery. God Bless.

Unread 01-14-2002, 12:03 PM
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I don't think you will have a problem being by yourself. I had a tah/bso. I have two young children and I am a single parent. I have done everything myself since I have come home from the hospital - laundry, cleaning, making all meals, helping with homework, etc. I tried to take advantage of the time the kids were in school and rested with my feet up when possible. I spent as much time as I could on the couch because I was told to go up and down stairs as little as possible. I tried to have my medicine, a phone ,and a pitcher of ice water with me on the table by the couch. I ate simple meals. My challenge was after school when the homework, dinner and all that fun stuff began and again in the morning when I had to get the kids lunches and breakfast. I couldn't wait until the bus came and I could head back to my couch!
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Unread 01-14-2002, 12:05 PM
Home alone

Dear Sharyn:

I am nearly 8 weeks post op, and return to work next week.

I returned home on a Sunday, and my husband went to work on Monday, and my son to high school, so I was on my own. I did fine.

A bit of preparation helps. I love fruit, and we had bought huge tins of it, but I wasn't to lift them, of course. So DH opened the tins, and put out bowls for me in the fridge. Same goes for heavy fruit juice bottles or milk jugs, (no problem for me, I hate milk). Lunches were pre-packaged or sandwiches, and I had small bottled water with me always.

I slept a lot, and trips to the bathroom were easy because the ensuite is only steps away from bed. I walked up and down the hall for excercise, but stayed away from steps-- luckily, I had what I needed on the main level, except for the study (where the internet computer is) and the family room (where the big T.V. is). But I would not attempt steps on my own for a while, because I still had the odd bout of dizziness. Same goes for having a shower-- I waited until DH could help me.

I had put the phone beside me on my bed, and set up a T.V. tray for such things as my water bottle, walkman (taped books are great for the first week), magazines, and mints. Over the cousre of my recovery, I read a dozen books.

I had a cozy little nest.

Best wishes for Feb 1st.

And don't forget to bring chapstick to the hospital-- my lips were so dry, I thought I'd been sucking on sand! :tongue2:
Unread 01-16-2002, 07:29 AM
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I guess hubby doesn't like talking about work when he gets home (LOL!)

You should be just fine at home alone- and your high school kids will be home early in the afternoon. I had a TAH and was home alone less than 2 days after surgery. My kids are a lot younger so I needed to watch them after school-do laundry,prepare meals,do light cleaning,help with homework,etc.

Why not invite friends over for lunch? Also, within 3 days of the surgery I began walking around the neighborhood, and seeing people so I didn't feel isolated at home.

Best of luck!
Unread 01-16-2002, 07:53 AM
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You've already had some great replies, but here are some more things that I found helpful during my recovery:

Once you're at home, you'll need to have some comfortable clothes to wear. I found men's pajamas very comfortable, because the large, drawstring waists came up well above my incision, and the button-up tops didn't have to go over my head (hard to get my arms up). You will probably want to have large, "granny-panties" in a size or two large than you normally wear (you will be swollen and sore!).

Have a tummy pillow handy at all times! This would be a small pillow that you hold against your abdomen when you have to sneeze or cough. Keep it where you can grab it with only a second’s notice! I had a sneeze sneak up on me once when I couldn’t grab my pillow – ouch! It felt like my insides exploded.

Have plenty of no-preparation foods on hand, like fruit, soup, cereal, snack bars, etc. I had absolutely no appetite for a couple of weeks, and my frantic husband finally convinced me to drink some Ensure, which went down ok. You may want to have some of that in the fridge for times you just don’t feel like eating, but need nourishment.

Also, buy PLENTY of juice! You will need to drink LOTS of liquids when you get home to help with the gas. I got bored with the same type of juice, so my husband bought lots of different types, and put them in small containers for me (I found it difficult to lift and pour large containers for awhile). Don't drink anything carbonated, and don't use a straw (makes the gas worse).

WALKING is very helpful with the gas! Walk as often as is comfortable (my walks were VERY short and slow, but I did several a day), and it should really help get your bowels working smoothly again.

I also found a shower chair very helpful. Standing up long enough to shower wore me out! You could also use any plastic chair that will fit in your shower.

VERY IMPORTANT: have anything you might need at waist-level. This includes toilet paper, pads, clothing, cups, food, plates, etc. Believe me, you will NOT want to bend or reach for anything! The house may look cluttered for awhile with everything sitting out on counter tops, but it's worth it!

If you’re going to be alone, make sure the phone is where you can reach it at ALL times! Several of us have gotten “stuck” (couldn’t get off the couch without help, problems in the bathroom, etc.), and have needed to call for assistance.

Once you’re feeling a bit better, you might start getting a bit bored. Unfortunately, you will be very limited in what you will be able to do. These are some things I did to pass the time, along with some suggestions from other hystersisters:

Reading LOTS of books
Writing long letters to friends and family (real letters, not e-mail!)
Organizing photo albums
Drew out plans for the garden
Bought a tape to improve Spanish skills
Watching lots of movies
Crafts, quilting, etc.
Unread 01-16-2002, 08:00 AM
5 day post -op and doing great!

Hi Sharyn!
I too had all kinds of goodies inside at least 15 large fibroids , bleeding cyst on right ovary and Endo! Was terrified !
Truley the waiting is the worst! I you have a good surgeon you will do great! I had a general ( the way to go for me!) and a pump with ( It wasn't morphine makes me naseaus ? something else) worked great! If my middle wasn't there right now I fell pretty good especially in the morning , I do get tired on and off which is perfectly Normal!

Now as far as help GET SOME! I am staying at my sisters I have my mom, sister and nieces helping me at various times, you will be sore ! And it is MAJOR SURGERY! Can't you get a family member to come stay or a nurse believe me ( I only take Motrin by choice) if you have any kind of pain meds w/narcotic especially you will want to sleep!

Your husband being a Dr. should know this ! Good Luck Honey! Get Help!

Unread 01-16-2002, 10:54 AM
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Thanks for all the great advice. I just informed my 2 teenage kids that they are going to have a laundry lesson. I figure if they are in AP classes they can figure out how to do the wash. I feel much calmer after reading all the great replies. I can't wait until it is over.
Unread 01-16-2002, 02:57 PM
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My teens were a big help - driving me where I needed/wanted to go when I was up to it, laundry, cooking, you name it. It made them feel important. My youngest had a serious injury a little over a year ago, and he was very proud to be on the care taking side of the equation for a change at age 14.

As far as DH goes, he drove me CRAZY. He took a week off and I was more than ready for him to go back to work after just two days. Made me feel like a complete invalid.

Do what YOU feel like doing, rest when your body says rest. Everyone is different. But use those teens, its your turn to be babied.
Unread 01-16-2002, 03:53 PM
Don't worry. You'll be fine.

Oh you are so lucky to have a doctor husband. The help will really take super care of you while you are in the castle. My mom was a head nurse and when I had earlier surgeries in her hospital, the doctors and nurses paid extra attention to me. I can't say the same for this last visit to a large castle in Baltimore. What a nightmare especially at night. I was relieved to go home. My stepkids are older teens and really paid little attention to me during my recovery. They also did little to help out around the house. My husband lets them do whatever and no one listens to me anyway when it comes to their upbringing. I simply didn't worry about the house or their activities and focused on my recovery which was basically happening alone. My husband put a small refrigerator and microwave in our bedroom. We also went to a warehouse store like BJ's or Sam's Club prior to surgery and bought frozen entrees, soups, cases of water, juice , yogurt and lowfat snacks. You will be able to get from your bed to bathroom and I had no problem heating up food or getting something to drink since I only had to go across the room. This really helped me. I didn't have to go downstairs ever. My husband replenished items at the store as needed and everything went like clockwork. My husband always called from work and checked on me along with various relatives. After two weeks, I really was feeling great and didn't need the microwave anymore but I am getting used to having that mini refrigerator in the bedroom. Don't worry. You will be fine. I just had my 4 week post op appt. and I feel like a new woman. :jumping:

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