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Unread 01-17-2002, 07:34 PM
Pessary & Panic

Hi! I hope someone can give me some insight. As a precaution against further damage ( until I make a decision on surgery ), I was fitted (this morning) with a pessary. Now, I feel like I am having some kind of panic attack. I have always been a little queasy (sp?) about anything inside my body (or anyone else's!!). On so many of the posts I read about some of the women (brave women!!) checking themselves with mirrors, etc. I know I should be more aware of my body, but the thoughts of looking or feeling all the misplaced body parts makes me panic. I have several problems including both a rectocele and a cystocele. Now, of all things I have a device in me that I must check, remove, clean, and reinsert. The very thought is making me a nervous wreck. On top of that it seems that the pessary is just one more "organ" trying to work its way out of my vagina!! It seems to be giving me that pulsing kind of pain between my legs that some periods have caused me. I have also had to push it back up several times in the brief time since it was inserted. Are these normal occurences with a pessary? The one I have is also for incontinence. But, I am still having leaking - I am not even sure if it is urine or some other discharge. It does seem to have helped with the constant urge to urinate.
If anyone can help me with any of these feelings, please do so. I just feel like such a "mess". On top of everything the "Incontinence therapist" wants me to do a biofeedback session once a week. Since I am trying to save my sick days in the event of the surgery, this just becomes another added pressure. I don't think my principal is going to be very excited about me arriving or departing early one day a week for several weeks.
Has anyone else gone through this? I wonder if I am just wasting my time. Both the gynecologist and urologist have already said that these are only temporary fixes. If so, what is the use? Even my insurance is fighting the biofeedback.
Thanks so much to anyone with any advice.

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Unread 01-17-2002, 08:06 PM
Pessary & Panic

Hi and welcome! It sounds like you have a lot to deal are very brave!

I haven't had personal experience with a pessary but many women here on our site have. Until someone comes along with some info, you might want to use our search function (little purple button at the top right of the page) and search "pessary".

If you are not satisfied with the response you are getting from your doctors, please consider seeking another opinion, or two or three, until you find a doctor you feel comfortable with and who can help you make the right choices for your condition.

Hang in there, keep reading and posting, and know that you are not alone!!!

Unread 01-17-2002, 08:07 PM
Pessary & Panic

Hi Rayna! I didn't have a pessary, but I am going to try to find someone who has and can answer your question. In the meantime, here's a and I hope you get the answers you need.

Best wishes!

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Unread 01-17-2002, 08:24 PM
Pessary & Panic

Thanks Karen & Sherry. I do appreciate your help. Maybe after I adjust to a "foreign object", I'll calm down. Hopefully someone will be able to tell me if these sensations are normal with a pessary. Tomorrow, I'll call the therapist and see if maybe the size is wrong or if it is just me with my little"quirks of imagination". Thanks!

Unread 01-17-2002, 08:33 PM
Pessary & Panic

Hi All,

Can someone tell me what is a pessary?

Unread 01-17-2002, 09:05 PM
Pessary & Panic

Dear Rayna,

Go to this website to learn lots more about prolapse, your options for treatment, and pessaries.

85% of hysterectomies are done for quality of life reasons, not to SAVE a life. Only YOU must live with your pre-op symptoms, and your post-op results, good or bad.

Get smart about your symptoms and your options, and make the best choice for YOU.

I am sending huge cyberhugs
Unread 01-18-2002, 03:03 AM
Pessary & Panic

Hi! Thanks for the response.
Basically, we (doctors & myself) have decided. I have done a lot of research on the surgery, and I have 3 medical doctors (gyn, uro, and internist). I plan (unless it becomes unbearable) to have my surgery during spring break or after school is out.

My concerns right now are whether I should be having these weird feelings - more pressure and still wet panties. My other little feelings of uneasiness center more around my preference of not having one more thing in my life to deal with (checking, removing, cleaning, and reinserting).

Hi Debbie! A pessary (boy, have I learned a lot - more than I want to know!) comes in MANY shapes and sizes, but the most common is some type of doughnut shape. The one that is used depends upon the particular problem, age, and whether the patient is still sexually active. In my case we are trying to keep everything within my body (so that the protrusions do not extend to the outside my body), and to put pressure on my urethra (sp") to control leaking. Mine is round ( like a small doughnut) with a wide knob that fits under my urethra (sp?). Yuck!! I am really just trying to hold off surgery until a more convenient time in the school year. As my doctor said - it is a bandaide.



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