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Unread 02-20-2002, 10:52 AM
Feeling Sad

Haven't posted in a couple days, my surgery is a week from tomorrow and my pre-admission testing is this Friday. I know this surgery is going to make me feel better and I am confident that I'm doing the right thing. I am anxious for it to be over with and to start feeling better, but I have to say that I'm a bit sad over it having to come to this extreme and that I'm losing forever, parts of my body that produced my 4 beautiful children. I mean, I definitely want it taken out, but at the same time I'm feeling some sort of grieving going on. Is that normal and do you other sisters relate to that at all? Maybe I'm just being silly, sometimes I think too much.

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Unread 02-20-2002, 11:18 AM
Sounds Normal

Hi Dawn,
I think it is very normal to grieve for what we are about to lose. Especially when we have been fortunate enough to have brought children in through our womb.
If I might suggest going into a relaxed state of mind and then saying goodbye to those wonderful organs that you will never have again. Like saying goodbye to a friend that is moving away forever. Thank them for their contribution in your life and for being there as long as they could be. Let them know it is okay to go and that they should leave your body easily. You might also want to let the surrounding organs know that there will changes for them too, but that they will be okay and to get on with doing their job in a new and healthy way as soon as possible.
I hope this doesn't sound silly. It is what I am doing and I think it is helping and will continue to.
I have 2 days to go.

Unread 02-20-2002, 11:19 AM
Feeling Sad


No emotions connected to what we go through with this surgery are silly! It's a roller coaster, and ALL of your feelings are valid. No one is right or wrong with this...you feel what you feel!

While my organs did not produce anything for me but alot of pain (and blood!), I still felt a sense of loss. After all, they were a part of me for my entire life, and I guess they did their best! (not TOO anthropomorphic, right?) But the time came when it was time to move on from the pain to something new and healthier.

So we say goodbye to something, but we say hello to something else. Better health, better spirits, the ability to live our lives as we wish... Good things!

So I think, yes, it's fine and normal to grieve. But remember that after the loss comes so much that is good...this may help to get you through the sad part.

Hang in there!!

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Unread 02-20-2002, 11:23 AM

I think all of the ladies in waiting feel sadness :cry: over this. It IS an issue to reckon with and come to terms with in our own heart. You will come out of this like an

I will look for your update on the castle visit when you become a , I am scheduled a few days behind you, so I'll be interested in what you have to say about it.

I am definately for you!

Unread 02-20-2002, 11:47 AM
Feeling Sad

Hi Dawn. I have been a little emotional too. My surgery is scheduled for 2/26 and I have really started to get more scared. Just the other night, I was with my dh and dd and she said that it is almost over. I began to cry because I said that she was born from this uterus. I don't think they really understand what kind of feelings I am having. They try to be supportive but on the other hand they kind of dismiss it. I am almost ready but still need a few last minute items. It is so funny, my mom keeps saying she'll pray for me and I love you. I haven't heard those words in a very long time. My sister calls when she needs something done and I finally told her that next week I won't be able to help her with faxing or typing. She said I'll just go to your house. I guess I am feeling like people don't think of this as a big deal. But it is to me.

I guess I am starting to feel sorry for myself right about now.
Unread 02-20-2002, 04:19 PM

I don't think people who have never had a child (not the one's that cannot have children) realize the signigicance of loosing what helps bring life into this world. I consider myself lucky that I have been able to have two beautiful boys. I greive for those less fortunate who will loose that ability and never get the chance to experience the whole process of birth, or those women that were not quite done yet. I am truly amazed at the young ages alot of these princess' are. I thought I was young at a mere 36. There will be a sense of emptiness inside when they are removed, but I think I now have a greater appreciation for the two lives I have and get to watch feeling much better than I do today... Good Luck to you......
Unread 02-20-2002, 05:27 PM
Feeling Sad

I too am feeling a bit sad and possibly picked upon by the medical profession. My surgery date is 2-26 and I am very nervous. I go through waves, some times it seems to be coming up so quickly then other times I wanna cry. I had to go to the ear dr. yesterday, I need tubes and they're gonna try to do this while I'm under for my hyster, will be good to get them done at the same time, also went to the dentist today to have a cavity filled. Now they just need to leave me alone, hope I hold it together, pre op is Saturday. Anxious for this to end. Thank goodness for this site, I was needing reassurance and all your letters are great!

Soon we will be post ops!!
Unread 02-20-2002, 08:06 PM
Feeling Sad

Oh Dawn!

I got tears just reading your post. I feel so much like you! I have been pregnant 5 times and have 4 beautiful boys. My last pregnancy was horrible and I feel cheated that I didn't get to enjoy it. I also have a strong desire for a daughter. We can't have another child! I have had too many health concerns and there is no-way I can get pergnant again.

When I think of losing my uterus I get very, very sad. I'm sad to let go of this part of my life. I'm probably going to do a lot of crying before all this is said and done. I'm so glad to have found others who understand what I am going through.



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