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Unread 05-22-2013, 04:42 PM
26, needs support (children mentioned)

Hi ladies,

I joined this cite hoping for a little encouragement, sympathy and understanding. I have had 3 doctors tell me that I need a hysterectomy. I have battled severe endo and adynomeosis since I was a teenager. I have been on every type of birth control known to man, had 7 Laporoscopies, had one ovary removed.

Somehow (by the grace of God, I'm sure!), I was able to have two beautiful boys ages 23 months and 6 months. My endo pain came back when my first son was 6 months, so my husband and I decided to have a second child sooner rather than later because we felt we were running out of time. My endo pain came back only 3 months after my second son was born. I have lived with it for 3 months now and it has steadily gotten worse. Many days I am on the couch or in my bed with a heating pad and a bottle of Ibuprofen, unable to go about my daily activities (not conducive to having two under two!) I know a hysterectomy is the right decision, I am just so sad.

I never thought that these two boys were possible, and I am incredibly thankful for them. However, now I know what I will be missing! I almost think this is more cruel than not being able to get pregnant in the first place. Now I know what it's like, and what I will never have again. My husband and I are fine with adoption, but it is very hard to adopt an infant. I look at my 6 month old and it breaks my heart to think I will never have another baby. All the baby clothes, and blankets get packed away, and I wonder if I will ever pull them out.

I am so young to be dealing with all of this. I feel like it isn't fair. However, it's also not fair to prolong the pain I am in. It's not fair to my husband or my kids either. They deserve a wife/mom who is functioning 100%.

I know a hysterectomy is the right thing to do, I'm just so so sad.

Is anybody out there still wanting more kids? Anybody in their twenties having to deal with this?
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Unread 05-22-2013, 04:56 PM
Re: 26, needs support

I am 26 and have two boys and one girl I scheduled my hysterectomy in September.. You are 100% right about it not being fair to your kids and husband but it is also not fair to you... I feel the same way. I just think of it this way if I have more kids it won't be fair to them either.. The pain is overwhelming the mood swings are horrible.. My kids ask me to play with them and I'm stuck in bed.. I'm miserable I'm an old lady.. Or at least that's how I feel.. I am going to have this surgery for a quality of life.. I want to enjoy the kids I have now.. I want them to see how mommy truly is not how mommy is due to the disease..
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Unread 05-22-2013, 05:13 PM
Re: 26, needs support (children mentioned)



We are glad you have found us an I hope we can offer you helpful information and support!

I did have my own hysterectomy at the age of 25 and have two miracle children as well. Are you aware that a hysterectomy is not a cure for endometriosis? If your surgeon is not able to skillfully excise all of the existing endometriosis, you could continue to have issues and require further surgery as I and others have. Additionally, there are surgical risks to consider and not all of us end up with a happily ever after story.

Besides birth control pills, there are several treatments options for both adenomyosis and endometriosis. A recent study indicated that for those with endometriosis, there is a high success rate with excision followed by insertion of the Mirena Coil. The Mirena Coil can also help with adenomyosis.

Before making your final decision, I would encourage you to locate an endometriosis specialist. You may also want to read through our articles and resources regarding adenomyosis and endometriosis.

in there!
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