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Unread 04-20-2002, 08:51 AM
Silly Question - What do I say?


After my D & C, my DR was fairly confident I didn't have "anything nasty". After the op, he said they didn't find any cancer. But when final pathology came back on Tuesday from my hyst on Monday, they said they had found a small, contained cancer. Had not spread into uterine wall, so treatment was the hyst, with no radiation or chemo needed.

Here's the silly question, If I tell someone, do I said I had cancer or that I have cancer? It was gone before I even knew I had it, so I feel funny saying I had cancer, but I can't say I have cancer, because they removed it? Does this make any sense? This all happened so quickly I don't know what to make of any of it.

Does anyone know how often this reoccurs, maybe nearby, after a hyst?


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Unread 04-20-2002, 02:41 PM
Silly Question - What do I say?

Debbie, no question is silly if it plays on your mind.

I now say I ' had ' cancer since finishing my radiation. Which I think is a great step forward .

I think that you can give the cancer too much power if you say you 'have' it.

had means past - have means now . and we all know that we want the cancer behind us in our past.

So Debbie..... you 'HAD' cancer always xx
Unread 04-20-2002, 07:39 PM
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s Debbie

I'm with you. You had cancer, but it was gone before you ever even knew you had it!! Doesn't get much better than that!!!! Definitely past tense!

As for your worrying about a recurrence, I'd direct that one to your doc. In the meantime, do all you should for followup exams.

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Unread 04-20-2002, 08:29 PM
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I'm with the other gals on this one also. There is no reason you shouldn't say you "had" cancer, regardless of when you found out or that you didn't know prior.

I'm so happy you won't require any further treatments, that's by far the BEST news anyone can get. I would agree to discuss any recurrence questions with your Dr, they'll be able to provide any appropriate specific to your situation.

My best to you, I hope your healing is progressing and you're pampering yourself like a good


Unread 04-22-2002, 02:29 AM
Silly Question - What do I say?

Hi Debbie,

I also say I 'had' cancer..........

Being positive is a very important part of this anyway. Some cancer therapy centres get patients to visualise their (often advanced) cancers leaving the body. I feel that it is important to think of the cancer as being well and truly in the past

Part of the problem is that, if you need no further treatment, the cancer is gone almost before you have time to realise it is there. I think a part of me almost feels guilty at getting away with it all so lightly! I mean, cancer is always associated in our minds with having chemo and radiotherapy. It somehow seems almost like cheating to get away with having neither!

As for the prognosis, I read on a web site that the 5 year survival rate for stage 1 uterine cancer is 80% - and for stage 1a, grade 1, it is in excess of 95%. Most recurrences will occur in the first two years. If none have occurred by five years the patient is considered cured.

My best wishes to you for a bright, cancer-free future.

Unread 04-22-2002, 06:58 AM
Silly Question - What do I say?

Hi Debbie,

I'm with everyone else on had cancer, but now you're cancer-free.

I just had my radical hysterectomy almost three weeks ago, but with the news that it did not spread to my lymph nodes I am also now cancer-free! It's still so new to me that I find it hard to believe that I even had cancer.

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