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What do you tell yourself when you want to give up? What do you tell yourself when you want to give up?

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Unread 06-27-2016, 11:57 PM
What do you tell yourself when you want to give up?

Decades have gone by living this way. Multiple surgeries; some helpful and others not. This medication, that test or treatment - just to circle back to where you started even poorer than ever, at times in worse pain and now less hope.
Doctors have run out of options to give you.

I try not think this way so as not to be self absorbed and feeling sorry for myself. Especially when you read of other women here worse off. Either in more pain, more limitations, more difficult life circumstances, totally alone or having kids to take care of or with even less financial means.

But there are times that just doesn't work as my therapy.

When you are feeling this way, how do you cope?
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Unread 06-28-2016, 07:44 PM
Re: What do you tell yourself when you want to give up?

The difference is, your journey is yours. Some days, you get thru a step at a time. Others, its a breath at a time. And thats ok. Offering you prayers, hugs, support, and thoughts in every way i can think of.
Unread 06-30-2016, 02:51 PM
Re: What do you tell yourself when you want to give up?

Hi nicole34,

I am so sorry you're in pain and struggling. It's a very hard road for some of us. I understand an endless road of doctors, pain clinics, medications and tests... That all seem to go nowhere and give no explanation or solution.

I've had chronic pain since my hysterectomy 4 1/2 years ago. No one knows why. I've become very limited in what I can do and it's frustrating and upsetting. I've become viewed as that person who is always unwell and I really don't like that.

For me, it comes down to support people. I have a wonderful husband, a group of amazing on-line friends and a great in-person friend. They are key to bringing my spirits up and keeping me positive. Surround yourself only with those that support you and bring positive energy. Another thing is music. I have a favourite band I immerse myself in and I see them in concert at least once a year. When I was diagnosed with breast cancer I bought a meet & greet package with them. It helps me a lot to have something to look forward to. Another thing is distraction. Find something you enjoy to participate in when you feel up to it. Whether that's painting, knitting, reading or meditating. It's wonderful to get your mind away from it even for 10 minutes.

Maintaining hope is important too. Our doctors can be the best, but really you are the one left to live in your body. You need to research, keep looking for a solution, and advocate for yourself. I have tried acupuncture, pelvic floor physio, massage therapy, Chinese herbal medicine and an osteopath in addition to conventional medicine. Keep trying!

It's ok and completely normal to have "down" days. It's ok to cry, to throw things and to grieve the way life used to be. Ask your loved ones for hugs when you need them. Journal your feelings and pamper yourself. Eat an expensive box of chocolates, soak in the tub, and personally, snuggling my cat makes me feel loved right down to my soul.

I am sending you and the hopes that you find peace and wellness, dear Sister.

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