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How do you handle it all???????? How do you handle it all????????

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Unread 06-14-2002, 09:46 AM
How do you handle it all????????

I am only 25 yrs old and had everything removed almost two months ago. It is wonderful not to be in pain anymore. However, I am starting to think this wasn't such a good idea. The Dr. started me on .9 of cenestin and then added .625. I noticed clothes I just bought started to fit tight. So I called the dr. and he switched me to 2mg of Estrodiol and Dyazine. Does any of this help? I feel good but I look all puffy. My husband keeps making comments about he didn't know that I was going to have to try all of these different kinds of medicines. He won't talk to me about anything. If I bring it up he gets agravated and says I just want you to figure out why you keep putting on weight and get back in the gym. He makes me feel so bad. I don't know how to handle it all. Help!!!! Has anyone else been through all this?
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Unread 06-14-2002, 11:51 AM
How do you handle it all????????

Hi Julie. Yes, yes, yes. I am a lot older (45) but am going through something very similar. My DBF of 6 years was very supportive through the surgery and recovery but now that the HRT is starting to feel more difficult, suddenly he is making noises about wishing he had the old "me" back. It's frustrating when they can't understand how hard it is for us to get everything working together correctly. Hang in there and feel free to come here to talk.
Unread 06-14-2002, 05:25 PM
How do you handle it all????????

I'm sorry that your husband isn't being really supportive, but there are a few things you can do to help him understand that this is a LONG process (you are only two months post-op).

1) Explain that the physical healing from your surgery takes a full six to twelve months

2) Explain that the hormonal balancing may take weeks, months or even years

3) Have him be present at a followup appointment with your doctor... that may help him grasp the overall situation.

Most importantly - take good care of yourself at this point. A few pounds of weight gain is normal when you aren't as active and trying to heal.
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Unread 06-16-2002, 06:08 PM
How do you handle it all????????

Hi Julie,

I'm sorry you are feeling poorly. Healing does take some time - the rule of thumb around here is that at 2 months, you are half healed and that it can take up to a year for all your healing to take place. Some of us feel better faster, and some take longer. Also healing is wholistic - not just your belly, but your hormones and emotions too.

Your doc is trying all the right things - switching your estrogen to a bioidentical one and raising your dose. Give the new HRT a few weeks to work. Your body has been through a huge shock and it needs to adjust. Drink a lot of water and try to exercise a little as you feel up to it . If you still feel badly, you might want to ask your doctor about adding a little progesterone to your HRT,

Unread 06-16-2002, 11:01 PM
How do you handle it all????????

My DH, who is a health care worker as well, made some crack last night about "all the medicines you're taking". I'm (carefully) supplementing my calcium magnesium, vitamins. I can't take estrogen yet, but do take progesterone, and anti-inflammatories (which didn't help with my inflamed temper after his comment! ). Oh, yeah, and this is the guy who still smokes (outside) and whose diet is the sterling example of what not to do...4 Cokes a day are the mainstay of his calorie intake.

I started Remifemin yesterday as well, and their literature states that you need to give any product at least a month to 3 months to equilibrate your particular body. Weight gain often is a hallmark of a change in estrogen balance.

As far as the gym comment goes, well, that's ignorance for you. My husband doesn't have that excuse (he's pretty well-informed, and sees himself as "supportive"), but it doesn't stop him from trying to tell me what I should be doing, 4 weeks out from my surgery.

Here's what you tell him: you are trying to "figure things out" and when you do, you'll "get back to him". And , this is SO hard to do, DON'T LET HIM MAKE YOU FEEL BAD (yes, I'm shouting). If he won't listen, tell him to at least leave you alone about the gym until you know your body is ready.

Especially at your age, this may not be the last hormone change you go through. Your body is continually evolving, and your needs (and shape) will be changing over the years. As long as you know that for yourself, you just keep trying to educate the unlistening as much as you can, and remind yourself when he makes his remarks that it's the ignorance talking.

And your Hyster-Sisters will always understand.

Good luck.

Unread 06-17-2002, 03:27 AM
How do you handle it all????????

Just want to echo the nurturing sentiments of the hystersisters here...Continue to get support everywhere you can. My heart goes out to young and dealing with SO many physical challenges...As a veteran of numerous surgeries, I agree with everyone here that you are very early in recovery with a major, major surgery. At 3 1/2 months post-op, I am finding I am not where I would "like to be" in recovery...but you have all the advantages of youth AND the disadvantages of youth on your will most likely come back very well and be back in shape far sooner than someone like me at 50 years old...but you also have the sense that you SHOULD somehow be able to surmount all these challenges faster/better etc. because you are young. Having a very young husband who is brand new at being supportive of a wife means you BOTH need A LOT of support. I hope you continue to take advantage of every bit of help out, friends, hystersisters, pastors...who will come to your aid. My husband and I have been together since we met in 28 years of marriage behind us and we still struggle to be there for each other at times. The best advice I ever got on how to handle it all is: One Day at a letting go and letting God. If you figure out exactly how to do this all the time, will you let me know?? Keep smiling, laughing(good belly laughs made me feel a lot better during recovery), hoping, dreaming, and loving each other. You will be so glad you did. God Bless, :

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