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Unread 01-27-2003, 11:30 AM
Suggestions on how to go about this

Most of you know that I dumped my GP and what my problems with him were. I have an appointment with a new GP (actually I went to him for 2 years and only switched because my ex DH goes to him) on Wednesday. Can any of you give me suggestions on what approach to take considering my chronic pain and how it was addressed in the past? I have copies of medical records, test results and such. This is a very small community and I don't want to be real ugly about the other GP. However, I need to be taken seriously and not tossed to the birds again. Also, I need to make it clear that my medical condition is MY business and MY business only. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.
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Unread 01-27-2003, 01:00 PM

I understand what you are talking about, I got the run around with dr's too. I did the same as you and I switched to a new Dr (numerous times). I live in a mid-sized area, not huge, but by no means small. I can tell you from experience that ALL of these Dr's know each other and do whatever necessary to cover each others butt and not make the other look bad, even if he is, I learned the HARD way. I had to leave STATE to find a Dr who was more interested in my health care than he was OTHER in dr's and THEIR opinions.

Be upfront with your new GP when you go to see him. Tell him frankly about what problems you are experiencing and WHY you switched to a new GP. Tell him that you didnt feel like your problems were being properly addressed. I'm not suggesting you say anything BAD about your old GP, that would be a bad idea, just that you want a fresh perspective. Tell him that if he does not feel like your problems are related to his aea of expertise or that he can be of help to you, that you would like him to refer you to someone who can, possibly a specialist. Dr's...(God love 'em) have large egos and do not like to admit to defeat and so some dr's rather than say "I'm gonna send you to someone else" will give you the run around and tell you it's all in your head. Been there, done that, HATED that T-shirt.

I was so tired of being black balled by the gynecological community, (they ALL know each other, most have monthly or quarterly gynecology meetings with every gynecologist in town) that I finally took my concerns to my Gp, when he asked to view my prior records.......I told him "NO", I want YOUR opinion, not the opinion of the other Dr's that I have already seen, I already have their opinion.

That seemed to do the trick and give him the opportunity to view my problems in a new and fresh light without being swayed by what the other Dr's had already discerned. And, it gave him an ego boost, that I trusted him. He actually looked at my symptoms and sent me to specialists in the opposite direction in which the other Dr's had been going. Eventually, I DID find out what my problem was and it WASN"T all in my head, I DIDN"T need anti-depressants and I am now FIXED!!! or so I hope. I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

I hope that all goes well for you. Let us know what happens at your appointment.

Lots of and 's

Unread 01-27-2003, 01:14 PM
I wanted to add one more thing,

As far as test results and things of that nature, if you ask this GP to take a fresh look at your situation without being biased by the other records and he wants to send you for repeat tests, then you could give him your test records (if they are recent enough) and as far as your medical privacy is concerned.....make your new GP aware of why you left him in the first.....your ex.....and just have him reitterate to you the doctor/patient confidentiality. Legally, he is not allowed to relate any of your medical info to anyone without your written consent.

Lots of love.

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Unread 01-27-2003, 02:17 PM
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I was just thinking of you this morning Dawn and wondering how you were coming along! Thanks for your input.

The receptionist at my new GP has already asked if I would drop by prior to my appointment and sign a release to send for my records at the ex GP. I told her that wouldn't be necessary as I already have a copy of them. What a wonderful idea as far as telling him that I'd like a fresh perspective! Think I will try that. One thing I want is to wheen myself off the anti-deppressants as I think they are only masking symptoms.

I know that legally he isn't allowed to relate my medical info to anyone. Like I said, this is a very small community where everybody knows everybody. Doesn't help that the ex is a cop. I've already had to deal with this with the pharmacy. This place is honestly unbelievable -- a true Sodem and Gamorah (sp?). One reason I quit my job with the school system. I could tell you stories that would make your hair curl!

Anyway, my appointment is on Wednesday afternoon. I'll let ya'll know how it goes.
Unread 01-27-2003, 03:24 PM
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hey dawn,

i had this problem years ago with my daughters pediatrician.

She had a file as thick as a 70 year old by the time she was 13 months... pain crying,ect.... ect.... doc after doc...ends with rare alergie or intolerence ( depends on which doc u asked) emergency blood transfusions and thank god a healthy child....
needless to say i left that pediatrician!!

i too live in a small township. So i just gave the new office her file and said i was real confused by her lllness and was looking for someone who could help us and be patient with us.. Then i told him to read her file and decide if want anyone who thought " why did I get stuck with this one." Anyway the record and test speak for themselves... Throughout the years I noticed that though dr cover for each other they all know about each others mistakes and judge.

this tatic worked for me as i let the dr's duke it out among themselves.
Unread 01-27-2003, 03:32 PM
saves a bundle to do your own copying too

IL, by law, they can charge me 35 cents a page for my records. A nickel a page at the copy shop. And sometimes my doc only wants to see the test results or op reports, so why provide all those copies and info if you don't have to.

I have also withheld client notes when switching docs, especially when I know the observation made was incorrect. And I know you have incorrect assumptions made by this GP you fired. No reason to pass copies of that stuff around.
Unread 01-27-2003, 04:35 PM
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Natalie -- how true that is!!! I will only give him test results as insurance won't pay to repeat them and I can't afford it out of pocket. Holding my breath that this goes well and I am directed in the way of RELIEF!

Dawn -- Sweet sister, I got your PM but I don't know how to do the chat thing either. When I tried to PM you back it told me your mailbox was full. Feel free to e-mail me -- or PM me again.
Unread 01-31-2003, 04:16 PM
Appointment Rescheduled

Just wanted to tell you all that I rescheduled my appointment with the new GP. It is now on 2/4 at 2:15 p.m. Thanks to all of you for your suggestions. I'll let ya know what I find out!!

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