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Unread 02-17-2003, 04:41 AM
help.. i am a wreck

hi sisters... i have posted before but i just feel like screaming!!! i have my pre op tomorrow and am reaaly stressed about it and then the dreaded op on thurs. vh/ as the time gets closer i am becoming hysterical.. i lay awake at night petrified and wonder how on earth i am going to get through it... i really don't know how i am going to walk through those doors tomorrow and how i will manage on thurs.. any tips on how to relax in there and not totally freak out. many thanks to you all.. this site is the best and it keeps me sane.. well almost!!! thanks to you all... mary.
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Unread 02-17-2003, 09:02 AM
In thoughts and prayers...

I understand!!! I was quite nervous, too. Luckily, I had a friend who had recently undergone a hysterectomy (with the same doctor I used). Her support, reading the encouraging words of the wonderful hystersisters, and the support of my congregation really made me feel like I was not alone and like I could do this.

Up until the time that my IV was inserted, I was not so sure I would go through with the surgery. But having my sister, my pastor and his wife wait with me in the "holding cubicle" made the waiting go by much quicker. A brief visit by the hospital's champlain also had a calming effect.

Lean a little on those you love. Don't be afraid to ask questions. (No question is "too dumb." As a matter of fact, an answer can sometimes help calm your fears.) And remember that you are in the thoughts and prayers of may who have walked or about to walk a similar path.

Unread 02-17-2003, 09:07 AM
help.. i am a wreck

Hi Mary, first - take a deep breath and try to relax. Now that's better isn't it. Remember that we're all here for you! Anytime you need a hug or any support - we'll be here!
I'll be thinking of you and sending good wishes and prayers your way. Pre op is usually not bad, just blood work, answering questions, maybe x-rays or an EKG. The day of the surgery, I got amazingly calm (didn't expect to - but did). Once you get to the castle, someone else is in charge and that helped me a lot! They usually give you something to relax you also. Talk to them at your pre op about all your worries and fears, that usually helps too.
Also if you could please go into your profile and add your surgery date - we could all send you best wishes for your surgery!
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Unread 02-17-2003, 09:09 AM
help.. i am a wreck

Hang in there!

You sound just like I did a few days before my TAH. I found myself wondering about the similarities between the words hysterectomy and hysterical...

Anyway, take a deep breath, and try to think about how much better you're going to be eventually. We've all been there, and I think the majority of us are glad we had this surgery done. I know I am.

I've also seen a few posts in the past, when ladies were extremely nervous, when their doctor's gave them a mild prescription to help them relax the day or two before surgery. You may want to check in to that.

Good luck!
Unread 02-17-2003, 11:01 AM
Re: help.. i am a wreck

Originally posted by teenyween
hi sistersi really don't know how i am going to walk through those doors tomorrow and how i will manage on thurs.. any tips on how to relax in there and not totally freak out. many thanks to you all.. this site is the best and it keeps me sane.. well almost!!! thanks to you all... mary.
You sound normal to me! This is hard to face -- it is so much easier on the other side, and we'll welcome you there when you have come through it safe and sound (which there is every practical, statistical likelihood you will!).

I've had a crummy few years, for many reasons. When things are rough, and people ask me how I am, I find mysellf saying "Still putting one foot in front of the other." And that's a big part of how I did this, as well -- I just kept going to the next thing.

I also told my story and gathered up all the support I could from people, which is *very* unlike me -- I'm usually a go-it-alone type. But it really helped, for this.

I found great comfort in doing everything I could do to set things up for my helpers, and shopping and cleaning and preparing things to make my post-op life easier. I celebrated my ability to lift and stretch and do hard physical work, but also told myself how nice it would be to be the Princess after my surgery, until all of that ability came back.

I also found it helpful to ask every question I could and make specific requests of the doctor and the anesthesiologist -- controlling what I could control helped.

Last (and I know this doesn't work for everyone), goofy, tasteless, morbid humor was a big part of getting me in there and doing what I should. Some of that is just my personality, and that of my friends and family. Some was a way of saying what was really on my mind -- a spate of news stories about doctors leaving things in people and other medical disasters ran right before my surgery, so I teased my doctor about not leaving things in me. It was a silly way of expressing what I knew was an irrational fear out loud.
Unread 02-17-2003, 11:36 AM
help.. i am a wreck

thankyou all so much for your thoughts and sound advice.. take care and see you on the other side!!! mary xx
Unread 02-17-2003, 11:47 AM
Hi Mary !

Please know what you are feeling is TOTALLY NORMAL...
I too felt like panic would over take me at any moment. the pre-op appt is nothing- just another doc appt. But on the day of surgery, just get thru the doors of the castle, and they will take it from there. I found myself in trance-like state, just following instructions. After I woke up, and to my surprise, the waiting had been BY FAR the worst part !! One of the other girls suggested you let your doc know of your anxiety.. that is a good idea.. they have stuff to relax you early on.. I had none of that.. It would of been nice to be "medicated" as soon as I got there !! Please focus on the positives, and you will breeze thru this !!!
Will be thinking of you... Becky
Unread 02-17-2003, 01:39 PM
help.. i am a wreck

Hi Mary:

So funny I see your user name as TeenieWeenie that has been my nick name all my life (and teenie the ballarina) Anyway I am will you, my surgery is for 2/24 and I am freaking out. I cry and almost vomit and I just can seem to relax. I go through all of this when I had my 4 laps too. And then in the end its okay. But this is far different. Anyway I will put you in my prayers. This seems to be a very common surgery and its come along way. My mom had one 30 years ago and she was in the hospital for days I mean about 12 days. We will all be in good hands and it will be over hopefully soon. Its just that terrible waiting. When I had my last lap my surgery was scheduled for 11:30 a delay and I did not get in there until 3:30 you can imagine my state of mind, no food since about 8 the night before, and I was about ready to rip the IV's out go home. They gave me a shot of something and I don't even know when the rolled me into the OR, I'm going to ask for that. LOL. Anyway you will be okay. Take Care.

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